How to Make Husband's 40Th Special

Updated on April 12, 2011
L.S. asks from Chula Vista, CA
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Hi Moms,
Yes, another one of THOSE questions...

My husband is turning 40 on June 1st and I'm at a loss as to what to do for him. Right before his birthday, we're actually going on a family vacation with his mom and brother's family up to Sequoia over the Memorial Day Holiday. We get home that Monday, and the next day is his birthday. We're also saving to take our daughter to Disneyland for her birthday (and renting a hotel room for the night) during the month of May and taking a larger Kauai vacation in August that we're ALSO saving for. This is also a tough time for us because he's self-employed and property taxes, yearly federal and state taxes are due this week PLUS our quarterly taxes!

I'd like it to be special, but inexpensive. He's mentioned Vegas, but I had to poo-poo that idea as that would be $500-$700 for the weekend alone. He mentioned just going for one night, but a 4-hour drive to Vegas and back over one night frankly sounds awful to me. I could throw a surprise party, I guess, but it wouldn't be close to his birthday and that would also cost an arm-and-a-leg for the food and drinks and it would be a lot of planning and cleaning and I work full-time and don't know if I have the energy. We've discussed all that we have going on financially around his 40th, but I don't want to let him down (even though MY birthdays are never fussed over if I'm completely honest here!)

Do I sound like a grump, or what? What are some cool, yet affordable, suggestions? He keeps asking me if I have anything planned and I'm feeling the pressure. Thanks in advance!

(Wow, Toni V, what a rude response. No, I'm not trying to "control" my husband's birthday, but everyone needs to "control" their spending during various times of the year, now don't they? I think I already said we can't afford Vegas so your "make it happen" comment is insulting. I rarely feel compelled to call people out on this site, but you get a special recognition today. Oh, yes, Blessings)

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V.M.

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i like the idea of co-celebrating early with his family while you are on the trip. Is it bad of me to hope HIs mommy will deal and pay for alot of it? There wishing anyways.
Could you pick 2 of his best fun friends and invite them over for cake and cocktails?

My hubby's 40th is coming up to and i could have written this, We have a wedding, a baby shower, five other birthdays plus mother's day and I just don't really like big parties anyways. so i'm looking for some alternatives myself. I totally hear you, that it isn't exactly equal when it comes to mine either.
Hope you can come up with something easy.

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L.S.

answers from Spokane on

What about a romantic dinner? You could give him a fancy IOU for Vegas when finances allow it?

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S.D.

answers from Phoenix on

Have you seen those dinner and theater places or Mystery Dinner's ? They are kinda neat. broadway theater....maybe there is a concert he will like that is going to be in your area eventually and you can just wrap the tickets ? does it have to be celebrated on that month ?
Someone just planned a PF Changs meal for their husband and got a private room in the restaurant and invited everyone for a surprise. The meal was on them.

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P.O.

answers from Harrisburg on

Since he would like to go to Vegas, why not bring Vegas to him. Rent a conference room at a hotel or some hall that is free, have each person at the party bring a cover dish (tell them what the menu is and let them select what they can bring), take your digital camera or anyone who has one and take pics. Go to the party store and decorate the hall like Vegas, have your guests pretend like there are dollar/coin machines (be creative) in the room, maybe bingo or some other game that mimicks what he would want in Vegas and have fun with it. After it is done, use one of the pics, upload to Shutterfly and make him a photo gift with his name or favorite saying on it, and present it to him.

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M.M.

answers from Detroit on

A woman I work with, her son, just turned 40 last weekend & his wife threw a surprise party. They rented a Knights of Columbus Hall (not the nicest halls, but cheap), had most of the guests bring a dish (salads, meatballs, dips…), and ordered pizzas. They were able to purchase a keg from the hall and they bought all the decorations. Maybe you could do something like this without breaking the bank? And the mess is not at your house. Use disposable everything, so it ALL goes right in the trash before you leave.

Or rent a room at a local bar….maybe one that has things like pool, darts and video golf. This way people can have an activity or just hang out. I would order the food or munchies for people and MAYBE buy everyone a round of drinks…after that, they are on their own for drinks.

Know anyone in the Limo business? Maybe you can rent a limo and do dinner and drinks with friends and no one has to drive? That's always fun, but the Limo can be pricey.

Last thought…find something special to do in Sequoia for just the two of you. Arrange for your mother in law to watch your daughter and surprise him with a night out on the town. With just the 2 of you, it should not cost that much. Having said this, I have no idea where Sequoia is or what there may be to do around there, but hopefully you can find something.

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K.H.

answers from Detroit on

Do you usually make a big deal of his birthday? My husband is one of those men who could care less. If yours is like mine, I would make a cake and have the kids decorate it and maybe have the family go to his favorite restaurant (or get take-out since you'll just be getting back from a trip). Maybe you can give him an IOU on the Vegas trip for when things settle down; I suppose you could even make the reservation so that you can give him the details on his birthday. Or what about a helicopter or hot air balloon ride? Although I have no idea how much those cost...

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T.V.

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Seems like your putting everything before your husband's big 40. If he wants to go to Vegas, I say make that happen. You sound like a controlling spouse who tells people what they DON'T want.

I would also get with family and plan a Pre-celebration on the family vacation.

Do you think you might be wanting to get back at him because he doesn't fuss over you? Seems like you have a pretty good lifestyle. Men don't always GET IT, so I have learned it pays to advertise. I want something special, I want flowers and candy (from SEES CANDY only).....I let it me known.

Blessings.....

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Seems like your putting everything before your husband's big 40. If he wants to go to Vegas, I say make that happen. You sound like a controlling spouse who lets people what they DON'T want.

I would also get with family and plan a Pre-celebration on the family vacation.

Do you think you might be wanting to get back at him because he doesn't fuss over you? Seems like you have a pretty good lifestyle. Men don't always GET IT, so I have learned it pays to advertise. I want something special, I want flowers and candy (from SEES CANDY only).....I let it me known.

Blessings.....

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