This was posted by another mamasource mom a few weeks back, I have not asked her permission to re-post it, so I hope she doesn't mind but very informative with the milk issue.
Please don't worry about her not liking milk. It's really not good for humans anyway. Please go to www.strongbones.org to learn more.
I am a former milk lover. I drank milk regulary until I was 45 years old. Through education I learned that cow's milk is for making baby cows get big really fast. The proteins in cow's milk are an allergen to many people. We are the only species on this planet that drinks the milk of another animal.
Besides soy, which must be organic, you can also offer your daughter almond or rice milk, which is what we use at our house now instead of cows milk. She'll do just fine by drinking only water.
If you are concerned with calcium, I have information that I can share with you that lists all kinds of great food that has lots of calcium in it. Broccoli, kale and bok choy are 3 that come to mind. Sesame seeds also have alot of calcium. You can give your daughter hummus, which is made with chick peas and tahini (ground sesame seeds). Of the 300 mg of calcium in milk, only about 32% is useable. 54% of calcium in bok choy is usable. So, looking at usable calcium instead of just the total amt found in the food, 1 cup of milk only has 96 mg of calcium while kale has 106 mg, bok choy at 85 mg. An even more accurate comparison would be to look at usable calcium per 100 calories of food consumed: skim milk, 107 mg and bok choy 425 mg. Broccoli has 100 mg of usable calcium per 100 calories.
Please visit the website I've shared with you. I also believe that milk does cause allergic symptoms which can be mistaken for a cold. Another big problem is that the protein in milk sometimes makes the body have a reaction to the insulin producing cells in the pancreas and is believed to be a major cause of Type 1 diabetes.