Dear J.,
I agree totally with Anne B's response. At this late of an age, I would suggest you get some support.
1. Find a good book on the subject for several ideas, & also to understand the process that you are about to undertake.
2. Call his pediatrician for good sound advice to follow.
3. Don't give up when it possibly doesn't work for a long time or backfires. My novice guess is that it will take 4 - 6 wks of a roller coater ride.
4. Find an outside source, other than your fiance, to lean on while you go through this frustration.
Now, since I am short on "how to actually handle the situation", just remember to continue to show him daily how much you love him. Also think of things that make him feel more grown up. Reward yourself during this process. Maybe call your friends now to set up coffee, lunch, or evening dates. Schedule at least one friend a week for the next 4 - 6 wks.
You can also tell him that you are going to put Mommy in "Time Out" most nights when it is his bed time. Kiss him goodnight. Lock your bedroom door. Turn on some light music, light some candles, & take a long bath. You may look like a prune after 6 wks, but you will be better prepared to handle what may...
D. M. Focht
"Shaklee -Creating Healthier Lives & Environment"
click on: www.Shaklee.net/Focht
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