S.B.
I just read the post from Tina B., which stated in part:
"I personally do not think there is such a thing as a peaceful divorce" With all due respect to Tina B., I must strongly disagree! Tina B. also stated that she has not personally been through a divorce. I have, and I did personally experience a "peaceful" and uncontested divorce. I guess my point here is that when a woman requests "advice" on a particular subject, one should consider whether they actually have "experience" in that area before responding. (Hope this is taken in the spirit in which it is intended and no offense is taken)
I do however agree with the comment that "Nobody wins in a divorce". However, sometimes we are forced to choose between the lesser of two evils. In my case, after trying everything available including counseling at our church, it was much better for us NOT to be together.
I also agree with Tina that "Lives are separated and there will be an impact on your children no matter how "civil" the two of you behave". However, there may be an even greater negative impact on the children if they stay together! Numerous studies have been done on children of parents who "stayed together for the kids". As one respected Doctor of Psychology says "It is better to be FROM a broken home than to LIVE in one". (As one whose parents stayed together for the kids, I AGREE!). We are not aware of all the details of the situation and certainly cannot make any assumptions one way or the other.
What Lucie was looking for was "secure, clear but inexpensive way" to divorce. "We do not want to “fight” we just want to be sure about the terms and make everything specially safe for our daughter". Again, with all due respect, she simply did NOT get an answer to her question in that response, only the personal opinion of the effect on Lucie's children from an individual that has never experienced a divorce. Just a thought.