How to Discipline a Toddler

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You are exactly right, its not her fault. Its your husbands actually. If he continues , so will she. THis needs to stop or you will have even a larger problem down the road. Its not because you dont love her any more than he does , explain this to him. They cry for attention. Crying for another reason , like uncomfort or illness is different.

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good luck!

When my kids were babies, I just always showered when they were asleep. When I got out, someone was usually crying, but I least I had an illusion for 10 minutes or so. She just wants to be near you all the time- that's a good thing. Maybe find something for her to do in every room? One thing my mom did which I liked was she had one cabinet in the kitchen that we could play in when she was working in the kitchen. She just put a bunch of pots and pans and whatever in there for us to play with. Yes, it was loud. It's typical for a baby to want to be held all the time. If I were that small still, I would probably be intimidated by the big scary world, too, and would want to be held by my mommy all the time. Another trick to calm a baby is music. My kids liked anything from rock and roll to jazz to classical (although not all at once).

And I'm afraid whining may continue through age 16, at least.

Good luck!

Sounds like your husband needs the disciplining, not the toddler! Mine (husband) was the same way with our daughter, I let her whine a bit and he still spoils her. The only difference is now that she's older, she knows she can get him to cave in on almost anything & also knows there is no sense in bugging Mom, because Mom won't cave. (And Dad still gets frustrated & wonders why she won't let up on him!)

I have the same problem with my husband. He can't stand to here babies cry. Your cituation sounds just like ours used to be. It has escaladed to this bedtime routine: At 9:00pm I put our older kids to be(12 and 15) so I can sit down on the couch while my 4 year old goes to sleep. Then when I go to bed he wakes up and comes in bed with us. I can put him back in his bed, within a hour he is back in ours. The same thing happened with the other 2 kids, they didn't grow out of it till around 6 year old. So tell him that is what he might have to look forward to if he continues, maybe that will help. But since he picks her up when she cries, it won't be easy to break them both of this.
Hope this helps
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Yes I totally agree with you, I am a peds nurse, and you have to let them cry, She will go to slepp, you can go in the room and let her know your there, but don't pick her up, she might cry 2 hours the first few nights, but she will go to sleep, If he keeps doing that everytime, she will get where she has anxiety seperation, whitch can cause alot of problems. I hate to hear my son cry, and even now I catch myself giving in just so he won't but it will bite you in the butt in the long run, He is 4 and I am dealing with that from when he was little. good luck. J.