How to Break up with a Daycare Provider Just Two Weeks After Hiring Her?

I would tell her (both verbally and in writing) that you really appreciate her immediate availability and the wonderful care she has been providing. Tell her that you are really sorry but due to logistics and both her cost and the added cost of the commute, you will not be able to continue with her long term. Offer her two weeks notice (assuming you have immediate availability with new provider, tell her that you understand if she doesn't want you to continue for those two weeks). Thank her again for her service.

great advice so far, Might want to butter her up and tell her how excellent she is and that if you ever hear of someone needing care in her area ( or price range) that you would love to recommend her.

You need to give 2 weeks notice to most licensed providers... whether the child is there or not for those 2 weeks - you still have to pay it.

I'd be honest and say between the price and travel, you've had to move to someone closer.

As a licensed provider I offer a no questions asked two week trail period. Most providers expect that people's lives change and nothing is a lifetime committment.

I would check the policy book and verify her termination policy. Beyond what you agreed to by signing the contract you have no obligation to her. Tell her what you told us and thank her for her services. If you truly did like her, but just could not afford her, offer to be a reference contact.

Hi. I used to be a licensed daycare provider myself. As much as it will be disappointing for her and she to will probably have to look for new children to care for you have to do what is right for you and your family, she should understand. I would be honest with her. Tell her you were in a crunch to find someone and how much you really liked her but as the weeks went on the drive has become to much, especially with the price of gas. Let her know you found someone much closer to your home and more convient for you and your family.Times are tough for everyone right now. she should understand. Give her a to weeks notice, let her know how much you really liked her and wish her well. That's all you can do. It's a business where your clients change all the time.
Good Luck

Just tell her that due to a change in your financial circumstances, you're very sorry but you won't be able to afford her long-term. Obviously it would be nice to give her whatever notice is required in the contract (2 weeks or whatever) so she has a chance to fill the spot.

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This stuff happens and she should understand. If you didnt sign a big 6 month contract then you just simply tell her the truth, that you were so glad she was able to help in a pinch and you really have nothing against her, her care was great, but the distance was too much and the cost too high. You have had time to search around and found someone closer with rates you can afford. You need to pay for whatever is her policy of giving notice, and Id tip her well too. I would also ask if there is any chance she will be willing to take your child in case the other daycare has an emergency and cant have kids for a day. And give her a hug and tell her thankyou so much for being so good to your kid. She will understand.

I used to provide in home childcare and I wouldn't have given anyone an issue. I think most moms can understand that childcare is necessary in some situations and you can get in a bind, and need to find someone asap. Just say what you said here: You're a wonderful provider and we have absolutely no complaints, but after crunching the numbers and trying to move $ around to make it work, it's just not feasible to pay that much and make the commute. You found someone close to home that is more affordable, but you will be happy to provide a reference if she'd like. There's not really anything to do or say otherwise. You're still going to do what you're going to do, you're still going to have to look out for your own family's budget and expenses, that's just life. As long as you don't just drop her with no notice or explanation, she'll be fine I'm sure. If she's not, then she's not the personality type that I would want keeping my children long term anyway. (Do give her as much notice as possible though! Tell her today since you know today).

You can either be honest and say it as kindly as possible, or you can be vague and just tell her that it's not working out but be sure to thank her for her time and care. Offer to write her a letter of reference if you think that she did a good job while she was in your employ.

just tell her the truth,like you did here

Tell her exactly what you wrote here. I think she should understand.

Your two weeks notice needs to include two full weeks of pay beyond the last time you pay her. Meaning, if you pay her on a Monday and pay her for two weeks, you give her the notice that very day. Don't wait until a few days later and tell her. She needs every minute, if not more, to figure it out. I'm very sorry you did this to her. I understand you felt between a rock and a hard place. But you really should have told her that you are not certain that you can make it work and agreed to only do a week at a time while she interviewed other parents for the space she needed filled. In all likelihood she's sent others away during this time and Murphey's law says that when she calls them back they have found someone already.

I don't think you'll sound like a jerk. Ya gotta do whatcha gotta do. Double check your contract and give her notice, and just tell her you really can't afford it, or there's been a change in finances, etc.

I think that you just need to give her whatever amount of time as notice as is required in your contract and tell her that you thought you would be able to swing her price, that you thought you could but the reality is that you cannot.

Just be honest! Tell her that you hired her in an emergency situation. You are very pleased with her services, but that between the price and commute issues continuing to use her services isn't ideal for your family. Give her plenty of notice so that she can either fill your spot with someone else or at least adjust her own finances to account for the change in income. Also, if she is on any kind of website where you can leave a review, make sure you leave her a very nice one to help her business in the future.

I would agree with the other moms comment that you state that finances have changed not that you did not prepare. I am not usually for lying under any circumstances but I think in this case since you want to save face and it does not change the fact you are going to leave I would not get into further details. I do think you are morally and legally bound by any contract so even if you have to pay for time you are not going to use now, a deal is a deal.

Just be honest. This is tough, but it happens and you are totally within your right to make this change. If you handle it well, the care provider should respect your decision. We've had to do this with regular sitters we love when we came across others who were nearly half the price. I have said, "if money and convenience we no issue, we would have you full time, you are so great with DD and we love having you, but..." Most have countered that they will work for less $$, so make sure you emphasize the convenience issue, too. And you can tell her that you just didn't realize how difficult that extra time to drop-off/pick-up would be. You were so happy to have found someone you trusted to take care of your child, you thought you could make anything work. But it's been difficult and you've found something that fits your needs better. Just give her fair notice so that she can make an effort to fill your place. Good luck!

Tell her the commute is more than you can handle. I'm sure she'll understand.

Is it the money or the commute? If it is solely how much you are paying her, I'd let her know that you appreciate her, and that after reviewing your finances you're having a hard time making ends meet. She may surprise you and offer less tuition depending on how much less you need it to be. As a provider, knowing how difficult times are right now for people, also knowing that it's not always easy to find kids and good families, also knowing that it's an effort to bring new kids into care and not easy for them to always move from care, I would probably offer this if someone came to me and was honest about it.

On the other hand, if the price is too high, you're not really invested in having your child stay there and the commute is more desirable, you can just tell her that you have no complaints and you're terribly sorry that you just can't afford care right now. You don't need to necessarily tell her you found someone closer that is cheaper, unless you're concerned that the daycares are networked and she'd hear about it through the grapevine.
Sometimes giving less information is ok.

Good luck.... what a bummer.

Try it anyway-telling about the price difference, you just never know. Nothing ventured, nothing gained we used to say. In the old days I guess.

My advice would be to apologize and meet with her in person. GIve her a whole month's worth of salary since you were there for 2 weeks, give her 2 more weeks extra to compensate the loss. It is truely unfortunate that you did this! She will have to find another family to replace you and as you most likely know, providers have families too and need to count on income to survive. She is expecting this from you-and so the best thing to to do is give her 2 weeks extra pay to help her out. Offer to write a letter of recommendation if she needs it for the new potential family. GL

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You should extend to her the courtesy your babysitter didn't give you - give her notice. Two weeks should do. She might be nice & say it isn't necessary but you never know how many kids she might have turned away to make room for your child & it would be impolite to just bail on her. If you give her notice, she'll have time to find someone else.

I don't really have any advice other than rip the band aid off. And the funny thing is I had a very similar post title last year! "How to break up with my daycare?" I do believe was my title. I found that funny.