E.P.
My daughter is 17 months and drinks about 12-18 ounces of almond or cows milk/day in addition to her meals. I prefer to give her a meal first, then offer the milk about 30-60 minutes later. She is down to 2-3 nursings a day. It seems like you are on the right track and listening to your instincts is the best thing to do.
E.