How Long for Time Out for Disrespect Towards Parents in 3 Yr Old?

The answer, like others have said, is 1 minute for every year. Now that being said, if your child does not know why they are in T.O. it will not work. What I find even better is tackling what's going on right then. If your child is using words that are not kind, take that moment and making it a learning lesson.
"I can hear that you are very upset right now and I would like to hear about it, but please use your calm words." Then give an example of a sentence that your child CAN use to express how they feel but is also not hurtful to anyones feelings. Disagreeing is not disrespect. Also take a look at how the people in your child's world speak. Do you and your partner yell at each other or are your sharp and sarcastic? Do you speak sharply and with attitude to your child? Model the behavior that you would like to see. If the offending child cannot seem to speak kindly let them know that there will be consequences. "If you continue to yell at me, you will have to spend some time by yourself, I do not want to be yelled at. No one in this house deserves to be spoken to in that tone. You can tell me what you need but please use your calm words." Instead of just time out ( you were bad now you are punished) your child is asked to leave because they are not treating family members kindly and your home should be a safe place where peoples feelings are taken care of.

B. Davis
Child And Family Coaching
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He should only be in timeout for one min per age...so he should be in time out for 3 min. I wouldn't send him to his room either there are too many things to do in there. This is how we handle time outs. The offending child is sent to time out. Which is the bottom step in the entryway. They sit for the amount of time that is appropraite. If they get up thier time starts over. I do not interact with them even if they talk to me. When thier time is up I go over to them and remind them why they are in time out, "you are in time out for talking back, you need to say your sorry." They say sorry we exchange hugs and go about our day.
This is the same way that Super Nanny moedels time outs.
Good Luck and Many Blessings, K.

Time out in his room means he can play with his toys, and gives his room a negative connotation as a place to go when you are misbehaving. Try and find a spot somewhere in the living room, kitchen, or hallway and use that same spot every time.The idea of time out is to remove him from the rest of the family and any fun activity going on anywhere in the house, but you should still be able to supervise him (we have our kids face the wall). All of the "experts" say one minute per year of age (so 3 minutes for a 3 year old) but I never watch the clock. If he is sitting nicely for a couple of minutes, let him get up, but the most important part is the follow through afterwards. Make sure you reiterate what he did and have him apologize. If he refuses to apologize (or hug to show apology) then he goes back in time out.

One minute per year of age is the general rule. I worked with children in a phsychiatric setting and now have two young children of my own and time-outs can work great if you follow a few simple rules:

*BE CONSISTENT
*Give a warning "if you do that again you will get a time out" to allow him to correct the behavior.
*Put him in a time-out spot with no distractions/no interaction/no stimulation. . .it should be boring.
*It is OK if he screams, kicks, throws a fit in the time out.
*If he comes out or moves from his time-out, put him back, do not talk with him and do not extend the time-out.
*Tell him you are setting a timer and when it goes off he can be done with the time-out.
*When he is finished, go over to him, sit down at his level and talk with him quietly about why he got a time out. Don't force him to say sorry or anthing like that.

Good luck! It does work.

I teach preschool and the answer for that is one minute for each year. Longer than that they forget what they are there for

I agree with all the other moms that have given you advice. I am happy you wrote this question, because my three year-old also is being disrespectful to us. We could probably talk hours on how disrespectful our little boys are. I use time out as everyone says also. Sometimes it works and sometimes after doing his time in time out. He does it again. I have also implamented a reward system with pom poms and that also seems to help. When he is disrespectful, I will tell him he has to pay for it with a pom pom. The pom poms are given for good words and actions. They are used for TV or other rewards I can think up that require my son to earn more. Yet, sometimes he tells me to take all of them away. So I take a breather myself and hope that with all the teaching I am doing with him that this won't last after four. We shall see. Anyhow, I can sympithize with you since, I am going through this currently myself with my own three year-old. I think for us we should find a babysitter and do something for ourselves once in a while, to have a break from our little lovely boys.

Ii believe the most effective is one minute for each year of age they are. ei: Three years, three minutes. Is there anywhere other than his room that he can be in time out? A lot of times kids will either play in their rooms during time out, which defeats the purpose, or will have an adverse affect on them making them feel like they don't want to be in their rooms because they associate it with bad behavior. Maybe somewhere away from distraction.. Our time out is in the laundry room. No fun, but it is effective. Good luck.