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HI J.. Are you asking because you want to get married when your divorce is final? I am NOT trying to offend you, but only to be honest. You have asked several questions about how to get over your divorce to mamapedia moms. The same question, over and over, and on two different profiles! If your divorce is this traumatic then you owe it to yourself AND your kids to WAIT to get married. Like another poster said....at least a year. A year is NOT a long time to wait.
It's totally fine to ask these questions on mamapedia, that's what it's for! :) Keep asking all the questions you want but PLEASE......go to counseling.
If you want to get married again, you need to heal first, otherwise you will most likely have a repeat of your first marriage.