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ok, i did it twice, and although this may not be very ummmmmm pc? the things that saved me were baby gates, crafts, and finger foods. tv helps too, im not gonna lie. my babies all nursed continually, like every hour or 2 at some stages, and when you have a little one (or 2!) running around and no help, its not easy. im being real with you, do what you have to do. you want to enjoy this precious time as much as you can, not just get through it.. get some new arts craftsy stuff that doesnt make too much of a mess. stickers are great, so are those self sticking foam shapes, bendaroos, stuff like that. michaels has those little sticker books for a dollar or 2 with a million tiny stickers in there, give her a sheet of construction paper, some crayons, and a page from the sticker book. you will be finding those tiny stickers everywhere for the next 2 years, but whatever. oh, and thats the other thing you need,.. a willingness to give up some control of the state of your house. hence the gates. you know she is safe wherever you want her to be, with you or not, whichever works for you, and you can sit and she can do her thing. everyone will tell you to make nursing time a special time for the toddler, its special reading time, our special book time, whatever works. and its absolutely true and it should be your first try. but when you are nursing all day long, it just doesnt work every time and when it becomes a forced thing its no fun for anyone. use tv if you need to, educational stuff of course, at least for now if you need to until the nursing spaces out a little bit. super why, word world, were 2 of the best ones for us. plus the nature shows like life or planet earth, especially at night to mellow things out. and although its hard to hear, your 16 month old knows whats going on, the baby really doesnt. give your daughter the extra attention whenever you can. she needs it a lot more right now.. the baby has you while he is nursing and that is really close wonderful and frequent bonding time, i figure it evens out if you put the baby down if he is content whenever you can and play with your daughter, especially physical stuff to let her run and climb and jump and get the energy out. ....or even ... gasp!... get a shower or a bite to eat for yourself! you have to take care of you too, so you can be the best mommy you can be. and sorry to say it, but dont leave them alone together at all for a while. she is jealous, it is perfectly normal, and although she knows "no", she is an intense little toddler with very limited self control and big feelings that she doesnt know what to do with. involve her with caring for the baby as much as you can, as much as you think she is happy with. for most kids, giving them little jobs really makes them feel special, and it will help her bond with the baby. its worth a little pumping to let her give him a bottle here and there, it can make a big difference. let her be in charge of getting the diaper ready when you are changing him, she can be the wipe warmer, whatever. oh... and get out of the house! work it out, find contained places where she can play while you sit on a bench or blanket and nurse. find friends with kids the same age that you can meet out, an extra pair of eyes/hands while you bf. even those play places at the mall, especially once it gets cold out. if you arent comfortable bfing in public it will be a little harder for you, but there are always ways around it. i found that dressing rooms are great. grab a top or 2, go into the big dressing room if you can and bf. the big mirror is usually good enough to entertain the little one while you nurse, especially if you have a little stash of dress up stuff, crowns and necklaces and stuff,,, though you should have a bag of tricks with you too, of course. those lace up toys are great for out and about. when my 3rd was born and i was nursing him every 3 minutes and had a 4 year old and a 2 year old home with us, i joined the childrens museum by my house and we went there almost every day. lots of the rooms had doors, the music rooms for example, and the little classrooms, and we had a whole routine, the other 2 took a music class or an art class or a reading class, i sat in the back of the classroom and bf, then we walk around and play for a while, find our way to the music room or the toddler area and they could run while i nursed, repeat. that place saved me... .... good luck and really try to enjoy it. if you thought it went fast with your daughter, just wait till you see this fly by! soak it up :)