In one of my previous posts I had asked about pinning my sons ears back since they are larger than normal and have always been so, anyway last night during our snuggle time watching the x-factor he had said something about his ears. I asked well do other kids in your class say anything about them and he said yes they told me that I looked like an elf (they dont point at all just stick out) and I said oh yeah and what did you tell them. He just told me he said to them " yes i do have big ears thanks for noticing". He told me that's all you have to say if someone says something about you. I am sooo proud of him it def eased my worries of him getting teased since he has the strength to stop the taunting in his tracks. We have a good line of communication already (he is almost 7 but very open and honest) I had also asked him if he was proud of his ears or if he wished they were different and he gave me the biggest grin and said I LOVE MY EARS. I told him I did too and that they make him very very handsome. I'm just proud that he is such a strong little individual already and wont let other kids bring him down. (yet I know the teens are a lot harder)
Your son is WISE!
Yes my son stands up for himself.
But what I really love? When he stands up for others.
He kept mentioning 2 or 3 kids names that he frequently plays with at recess. All are pretty severely autistic. When I asked (in an unassuming way) why he plays with a, b and c so often, her replied "because no O. else plays with them!" I could have cried tears of pride--if there is such a thing.
HOW WONDERFUL THAT HE DID THIS!!! YOU GO!!!! This means you are doing it right!!
I have told my kids - if someone says something nasty about them - just say thanks. If you cry in front of them or give in - it only fuels their fire so just say thanks!! I'm sooo glad I'm not the only one telling my kids this!!
CONGRATS!! YOU DONE GOOD MAMA!!!
My son came home Monday as said two kids on the play ground were making fun of him because he had a ponytail.
I have tried slamming this into his head....Because he can make an easy target for kids.
If someone makes fun of him for ANYTHING he tells them this,''Hey, We all can not be the same right? someone has to be different and STAND OUT''.
And when I asked him Monday, if that was what he told the kids, with a big smile on his face he says,''YOU BET MOM''.
I have told him they will only continue to be mean, if they see it hurts you. You show them that you could careless what they have to say...They will realize they can not break your spirit.
He knows NEVER to use force. That LOVE will drive them crazy enough.
The non-bullied have to be stronger then the bullies. And realize that they are not at fault for the behavior of the bullies.
That is awesome! Good for him. You should be very proud.
My kids are very sensitive and I actually had to rehearse them when they were little because they would come home from school crying that "a big kid told me to get off the swing and I had waited for it for a long time". We would practice sentences, and used a close outgoing and bold girl with lots of boy cousins as an example. Asking "What would she say?" would prompt some options to go over. Now that they are older they have gained confidence and will speak up, but still in a polite manner since they fear hurting others' feelings. I sometimes in the past wished that instead of crying and getting sad they would just get angry and say something mean, there is nothing worse than watching your child feel hurt.
Our 7 year old son is VERY good at sticking up for himself. I am so happy that he is so confident. I was not like this as a child - my feelings would get hurt and I would not say anything. I have heard him stick up for himself quite a few times and he is very vocal about it. One I can think of is he had 2 little boy friends over to play. Both these boys are "all boy". They saw a photo we had on our fridge of my son and his very best friend in the world (who is a girl). She was giving him a kiss on the cheek. They just love each other and have been the best of friends since they were babies. The 2 boys were laughing and pointing and saying GROSS! A girl is KISSING YOU! THAT IS DISGUSTING! My son just walked right up to them and said, yeah, so what. She is MY GIRL FRIEND. They both got quiet and never said another word about it. Then all 3 started playing with nerf guns and having a good time. I knew then he would never have a problem with some other boy pushing him around in life.
