How Do You Tell a Man...!!

Updated on July 27, 2011
C.O. asks from Reston, VA
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it has been VERY hot here in Northern VA/Washington, D.C....

so we went to the pool today....there was a VERY good looking man - I would say in his late 20's early 30's - who had on a pair of swim trunks - more like Bermuda shorts - however, they were kinda see through....would you say something to him that his "package" is visible or would you just let it go?

To be honest - i let it go....I know...bad...bad...bad....he was in the water a lot and not out much - but when he was out.....

No, my boys were too busy playing to notice...

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So What Happened?

whew!! THANK YOU!!! I DID have my sunglasses on....I think my hubby will be happy later!! YAHOO!!

No, I don't think he was a pedophile...he was not checking kids out...he didn't have sunglasses on...my word he was a sight!! :)

I don't think he knew..If I see him there tomorrow - I will say something to him.

OH MY WORD - VM - I know - put the mouse back in the house - this is a family establishment?!?!?! LMAO!!!

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V.M.

answers from Cleveland on

You gave me a laugh and brough back memories of the Friends episode when one of the girls dates kept showing way too much in his athletic shorts.

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K.J.

answers from Chicago on

I like the line that "Gunther" from "Friends" used when in a similar situation...

"Hey, this is a family place. Put the mouse back inside the house!"

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R.D.

answers from Richmond on

It's 10 degress hotter in the city, where we are :) My car read 115 today.

LOL @ THAT DUDE!! I would have sent my husband to tell him... had I been by myself, I would have been like 'hey there sweetheart! nice package! now I have to bleach my kids eyes, THANKS!!' then winked ;)

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K.L.

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Im the one who would say something to him, but it might be too imbarrassing to have to stay after letting him know hes showing more than his tan. But Im the type who tells you when youve got food in your teeth and snot stuck on your nose. Ive told men to check their zipper a few times, as I walked past them, and hoped I didnt have to run into them later. One time at a baseball game, we stopped to talk to one of the players for a minute. As we were walking away I whispered to my husband that he should tell him his zipper was down. My husband turned around and yelled, "Hey Mike, my wife says your zipper is down!" geesh

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B.C.

answers from Los Angeles on

The same way you tell a W..

(BTW, I saw a very nice looking W. in one of those white one piece bathing suits that is supposed to allow you to get an all over tan while you wear the one piece suit. BUT you aren't supposed to get them wet. When you do, they become almost transparent. Her suit was wet. You could see each individual detail. I told her. She just smiled and turned toward me so I could get an eyeful. It took me almost a week for the strain to leave my eyes ;~)) (I wish there was a symbol for "tongue-in-cheek)

I'm SURPRISED at you ladies!!! The things YOU SAY!!!

;~))

Good luck curing your eye strain.

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M.K.

answers from Kansas City on

It was probably an episode of "What would you do?" Hahahahaha! You failed!!!

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F.H.

answers from Phoenix on

I would just enjoy the view...but then again, I'm a croch watcher! Lol!!!

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S.J.

answers from St. Louis on

I am cracking up

What probably happened is that he bought a pair of swim trunks and didn't realize that when they get wet - UH OH!!

LOL

I wouldn't have said anything.

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L.S.

answers from Los Angeles on

Oh, heck no, I'd let that one go ... with my sunglasses on, hahaha!

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R.K.

answers from Appleton on

Yes it would be embarrassing to tell him but.... Think if it were you unknowingly showing your stuff. I would go up to a lifeguard and ask HIM to say something. If he wouldn't, I would discreetly tell him.

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N.A.

answers from Chicago on

It's better then seeing him in a speedo! I don't think I would of said anything though? But i'm sure someonelse must of told him! Poor guy! But then again maybe he knew????

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S.H.

answers from Spokane on

You DON'T! :) JK!!!! .....kinda

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C.W.

answers from Lynchburg on

Oh Cheryl!!

WHERE were you when I lived in Sterling?? Not 5 minutes from you???

LOL

I'd have been right there with you...sunglasses on...and chuckling!!!...(and LOOKING!!!)

Too funny!
Michele/cat

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A.L.

answers from Charleston on

All I could do is laugh when I read your post. Got a visual and everything! I'd have to stay mum because I probably would be too embarrassed to say it. :)

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K.H.

answers from Richmond on

simple, you dont tell him. let him figure it out for himself, if you tell him his one eyed weasel is showing, he is going to ask you why you are looking hard enough to see him to begin with.. so dont say anything to him.
i have dealt with a situation like this, guy i worked for had the regular habit of walking around his house naked, didnt bother me, nothing i hadnt seen before, one day, he made the tragic error of asking me would i thought of his one eyed weasel, i simply looked at him, and told him i've seen better looking heads on a dead cat ! for some reason he wasnt thrilled with me, dont know why. he asked me an honest question and he got an honest answer, he also fired me, no big deal.. i didnt exactly like working for the guy to begin with.
K. h.

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K.M.

answers from Norfolk on

If he's that hot maybe you want to invite him to chat for a few minutes so you can get a really good look before you tell him to put it away! ;)

If it was me I would probably tell him that while I was enjoying the show he probably didn't mean to be flashing his goods around. He'll be embarrassed a little but also the humor and flattery might take the edge off of it.

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L.S.

answers from Spokane on

I would ask him that did he know his shorts were a little, um...transparent?

I mean, if it was *my* bits that were visible and I wasn't aware, I'd hope someone would tell me!!

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answers from Dallas on

That's assuming he wasn't wearing transparent shorts on purpose...

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A.H.

answers from Portland on

Lol Cheryl. If you see him again let him know. 10 bucks says he has no idea they are see-through lol. Definitely don't want your kids or other kids seeing all of that. Plus I'd want someone to tell me :P Definitely say it to him on the down-low so he isn't too embarrassed.

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C.M.

answers from Washington DC on

first I must say, you are crazy for even attempting to go out in this heat, lol! The kids and I have stayed inside the house except to get ice cream at the mall today. I'm dreading my husbands work picnic tomorrow!

I wouldn't say anything, but that would be pretty funny to see!

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M.M.

answers from Los Angeles on

I would WANT to tell him because I would feel bad but I wouldn't know how to say it. Eek.u Poor guy.
Except for to maybe say, "Um excuse me but you can see right through your swimming trunks when they are wet.) then quickly run leave the pool area (have your kids ready to go).
- or have someone else tell him :)

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K..

answers from Phoenix on

I'm kind of surprised that no one would say anything to him. I would feel too bad not to say anything to him.

Wouldn't you appreciate being told if you were accidentally, unknowingly embarrassing yourself, as well as those around you? Kind of mean not to say something, IMO.

Most likely he didn't know & will not ever because everyone's too chicken sh!t to say anything.

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L.C.

answers from Washington DC on

Years ago my BIL (a cop) came to visit us. He was fit and tanned and pretty good looking -- okay he was hot! He had a white speedo that he wore to the beach which suited his personality to a T. My husband told him that when he came out of the water, you could see everything. BIL's response, "Great!"
The girls would walk along the beach, see him tanning, stare, drop their blankets and such, and spend the day gazing at him. He had no clue! It was pretty funny!
Some people just don't care what they put on display. BIL's attitude was, this is the suit I have, this is the suit I like, there are consequences for wearing white, but so be it.
YMMV
LBC

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M.S.

answers from Washington DC on

I can't believe in the month and a half we have had of summer that one of his friends has not told him....he must know, unless that is a brand new suit and his first time wearing it?

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J.M.

answers from Tampa on

Maybe he want's his package to show. Just hope he's not a child molester. Otherwise enjoy the view and call it a day :)

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R.R.

answers from Los Angeles on

If you didn't personally know him I think you did the right thing in not saying anything.

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K.K.

answers from Dallas on

Sit back and watch the show. LOL. No I am a teller. I would have let him know, with a big smile on my face.
We had an old man that was in a science club job that came to the school. One day his zipper was down. All these moms were whispering about what if he was a pedofile, and freaking out. None of them told him. I marched right up and told him. He was not weird, he just had no clue his fly was down. I am always shocked when people do not tell me. What gives?

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A.A.

answers from Las Vegas on

I agree with Leelee S! haha

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B.D.

answers from Washington DC on

Sorry I missed that! I have to get out more often! lmao!

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