Wow how sad that you cannot be open with your :"friends" because you are worried by what they may say or think. Real friends support and empathize. No judgement, no second guessing..
I know exactly what she is going through. We once went 2 years without health insurance when my husband was pushed out of a job. I was afraid to allow our daughter to even go to Roller skating parties, in case she broke a bone. I was a nervous wreck..
We honestly, just could not afford any insurance, except catastrophic.. For her..
Some people have no idea.. They spout a lot of opinions, but they have never first hand experienced the desperation others feel. Or they have opportunities others do not have. Education or skills to find a goo paying job. Childcare. Family that can help.
I have worked for super large companies and enjoyed great benefits. I have worked for small companies that their insurance would have costs more than half my paycheck.. Or, I would have had such a a huge deductible, we figured ut it was better, to just purchase catastrophic..
Now that I own my own small company. have not reached a place where I could afford to provide insurance at a good price. All of my employees are part time, on call.
And yet in all of these situations, I worked or am working my butt off. If I was not married to a spouse with excellent insurance, I would not have any..
I cannot judge anyone else. I know that there are so many adults working hourly wages and trying to support their children and keep a roof over their heads, but there is barely enough money for day to day expenses, much less, hundreds of dollars a month for health insurance.
People that judge. Are truly clueless. I dare them to sit down with a family that says they cannot afford basic necessities and then come back and find this magical insurance money..
Also guessing and assuming, by what you think you see, with Tv's, vehicles, whatever,, does not always tell the truth.. How many of you have nice things, but because of a circumstance?
We have some super nice furniture, but we purchased it at garage sales. Or we have found top of the line appliances again, though craigslist , used... Our "fancy cell phones" my husband has purchased through criagslist.
All you need to focus on is making sure your sister is love and supported.. and then you will all need to ask for help..