If you are washing clothing correctly they don't look like what you are describing.
You need to learn to do laundry the right way.
Dark colors go together, medium colors, and then light stuff that can be bleached. I wash towels together, sheets together, and underwear, socks, teeshirts with screen prints on them along with other items that don't fade in water with bleach.
I wash dark towels separate from light towels.
I wash dark colors together, if a pair of pants have lining that is fuzzy they are not washed with the dark's, only black, dark brown, olive, dark dark stuff.
I also wash jeans as a separate load. That way the blue in the denim gets on the other denim items and they don't get that faded out look.
My bff has horrid looking clothes that never look clean or tidy. She just grabs arm loads of stuff and puts it in the washer without sorting anything out. This is bad for the clothes and bad for the washer.
If you are washing a pair of black pants with a fuzzy white towel what do you think happens. The white fibers get into every little bit of dark fabric and the pants will never look nice again. Clothes must be sorted the right way.
If you are drying clothes that are all mixed up, like jeans and towels mixed with tee shirts and socks the blue dye in the jeans gets on everything making the items look dingy. They fuzz on the towels gets every where and even the dryer can't get it off.
Drying a pair of jeans along with a pair of nylon panties will melt the elastic in the panties and the jeans won't get dry due to the hear put off by the melting panties. They dryer will keep turning off thinking the clothes are dry.
Laundry is a complicated task that can be mastered if you think about it logically.
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Also, don't use liquid fabric softener in the washer unless absolutely necessary, I get horrid static in the winter. The substance coats the fibers of the garment and makes it yucky when it builds up. Towels will not absorb water, dishrags will float on top of the water, clothes will feel slimy when you sweat....it's best to use it sparingly.