First of all, it sounds like you are a great mom and wife, and kudos to you for handling a busy life as well as you have. I am older now, but wiser with it, having raised five children, worked, etc. If your husband helps you a lot, you are one of the lucky ones, but if you need more of his help than he's given thus far, do not hesitate to ask him for it. Men do not think the same way we do; they usually have to be told what we want them to do. While us women have a touch of mind reading ability, men do not have any of that. Give him a list of what you need him to do, share the chores equally as you can -- after all, you BOTH work, not just him. You BOTH have children, not just you. Men tend to think that since they fix things that need fixing in the house, the wife is "in charge" of most everything else, but this is a myth they have seen played out in their own childhood homes usually and if left unchecked, of course they are willing to perpetuate it. But that was then and this is now. Times have changed. Us wives have to retrain them. Your help, the help you need to have time to spend with him alone, is him -- that guy sitting on the sofa thumbing through magazines and playing on the laptop. He is your resource, so tap into it. You are not getting enough sleep, sounds like you have no down time just for you, and it is no wonder you are starting to have a little resentment. Do NOT feel guilty for asking him for more help than he's given so far. You can reward him for it in your newly found free time that he will help to create! And one thing every successful and happy mother I know has always done is to have at least a few hours a week, preferably all at one time, that is just for you to go out of the house, window shop, ride a horse, ride a bike, go to exercise class, play bridge with friends, take a nap, do something that is just for you and not for family, even if it's just to have a nap once a week. He also should have a few hours to do the same. Even if all you can do is squeeze one hour a week apiece for alone time, that is fine. Just so you have some kind of rest time once a week, both of you. If you spend that alone time with each other without the kids, that's okay, too. No chores, no kids, just an hour or two a week. All work and no play will make you physically sick eventually. Remember that time with our loved ones passes and is gone forever, but housework never goes anywhere. Prioritize, organize and utilize that loving husband! Good luck.