How Do I Get My Husband to Accept the Fact That I Might Be Pregnant

It took a while for my husband to snap back into reality after I told him I was pregnant for the third time. He really only wanted one baby....now he was supposed to be expecting #3. I think in time he will learn to just accept it for what it is. Maybe he should get a vasectomy if he doesn't want anymore....that's what mine did!!

Well I wouldn't push the issue too far with him until you find out for sure you might cause problems for nothing you know? Eventually he will come around, I mean he doesn't have much choice what is done is done and you didn't do it alone.

Unfortunately, this is a touchy subject. Men and women have different opinions when it comes to children. Wait until you know for sure, and then choose a night for the two of you. Have a candlelit dinner with romantic music playing, and then tell him the news and let him know how much you want the baby.
If he still stays unhappy about it, maybe the two of you should seek counseling together so that you can reach a mutual agreement that will keep your marriage happy.

i agree with the other ladies. find out for sure and then talk about it. i believe he will come around. where you aware that he didn't want any more? that's something you guys should definitely talk about if you're not. if you're excited and want another one then the best of luck to ya.

It's not like you did it on your own. :P Once you find out for sure, sit down and discuss it, either way. I hope he stops being so insensitive. (If you are pg, make sure you have LOTS of weird midnight cravings, heehee!) >;)
Good luck, and HUGS!!!

J.

First off you need to find out for sure and then just go from there. If he has stated he doesn't want anymore then ask him what HE plans to do to prevent that from happening again. Please let me know what happens and what you find out. ____@____.com is my e-mail address. Thank you swwetheart and good luck. you will be in my prayers.

Well, IF (heaven forbid) I got pregnant again, both my husband and I would be upset. He had the V done, but so did his dad (had one more about 2 YEARS later) and so did his brother (had one more about 2 YEARS later). Don't mean to scare you, but that does not always work. In our case, thankfully it has worked... so far. (fingers crossed)

But in your situation, it is what it is. It's really hard to accept that your life is going to change in a way you never thought (or initially WANTED) it to. I know that's how my sister-in-law felt when she found out she was preg for the 3rd time. She was very upset. But ya know what? Their 3rd fits into that family (obviously). It was meant to be. =]

I'm sure he will be okay in a while. Give him time. It sounds like this is quite the shock. If you have a strong enough marriage and strong enough relationship, you WILL get through this. Be patient with him.

Best of luck to you!!!
(BTW... are you?)
~K. =)

Well if u don't believe in abortion then he'll have to deal with it.

Reality is a Mother_ _ _ _ _ _ ain't?
Well, if he doesn't believe it now, he will in about three months
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J.
I think in due time he will come around to the fact that you are having another baby.I have known other women in your situation and eventualy their husbands came around.It will just take time.Good luck.
J. W.

personally I would wait till you know for sure. This way you wont be worried about the what if. Then if you are I am sure your hasband will come around. I found out after I had my daughter my husband did not want any kids at all. Even thou he was behind in all the feritility treatments and all. He said he figured it would come as it needed to. Well once he saw our daughter he was hooked he was in love with her and he now couldn't imagine life without her. He says she is the best thing ever. She is a great child and makes him happy when she say "go away Mons ster." in the voice only a two-year old has. I would just find out for sure and then let him know again and I bet he will warm up to idea sooner or later. A new unplanned child is a big change and for some it is hard to deal with. Just be suportive of his feelings and then if you find out you are not pregant tell him if he doesn't want a "scare" again he might want to do what he needs to do to ensure that it doesn't happen again. If you find out you are pregant I would tell him the same if he doesn't want number four he might want to do what needs to be done. Then just give him some space to come arounf. :)

Hey J.,

I would maybe just give your hubby some time! He might not accept it now, but it will come! :) I had a friend in the exact situation, then about a month or two later he accepted it! Now she said if he wouldn't have accepted it, she would've just kept on and eventually he would've chilled out! Good Luck!
C.
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I'm not sure I understand...he is mad that you may be pregnant, but wasn't he there when it happened??? Tell him it takes 2 to tango.

There's a difference in "might be pregnant" and I am pregnant and will not be terminating the pregnancy. Okay start with a cheap test at Family Dollar, Dollar General, The Dollar Store. You need a blood test and written results to show him what realitity really is. But you can't get him to accept a maybe, he needs facts.

Then you can tell him if he wants to prevent this in the future then he needs to be the one to prevent it. Hormonal contraceptives aren't 100% any more than condoms are. Even surgeries fail.

Plus if you aren't pregnant but still feeling symptoms then you may have a hormonal imbalance and would need medication.