How Do I Get My 4Yr Old Out of My Bed

I put a sleeping bag on the floor and told her there wasn't enough room in the bed for her so she was going to have to sleep on the floor. she went back and forth between her bed and the sleeping bag for a while. Honestly, she has now moved into her brother's room. She just doesn't like sleeping alone.

We coslept (by choice) since infancy and when DD got a little over 4 I made a big deal about her new room, decorated it, made it very special and then moved her in there. We talked about it in advance. She woke up for a week or so and would come and get us "for a cuddle." We accommodated that and walked her back to her room. She also has a flashlight, one of those turtles that makes stars allover the room and lots of stuffed animals.

I didn't get mad at her but I did keep reminding her that we need to sleep and the waking thing went away after a week or so. After 5 mos she had a gi bug and I had her in my bed for a few nights (easier to be there with the bucket when right next to me). When she was better she went right back to her bed, no issue. She does occasionally wake my DH "for a cuddle" in the middle of the night but when he is away (travels a lot) she doesn't wake me, so I think it's a case of what the parents will put up with. I just kept telling her she was not to wake me for a cuddle (not in a stern way, just matter of fact) so she doesn't do it with me.

I think what was helpful was making a really cool room for her, making it a big girl thing, talking about her friends who slept in their own rooms and keeping my cool about it, not engaging in a battle over it.

Take her back to her bed time and again...repeat for hours if needed. Only say "Time for bed" the first and second time. Then return her to her room/bed without conversation.
I don't blame you.
Our bedroom is a special place for me & my husband.
You are fostering her sense of security and independence by teaching her how to be comfortable sleeping on her own!

Use the Super Nanny Method

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I wish I knew 2! Our dd is 4 and flat out refyses to use her toddler bed (which is right beside ours!) Says there are monsters. Who knows! But I do know our bed seems to get smaller every night!

ha..let M. know when you find out...actually I know how to do it..but I'm so tired at the end of the night, I could care less....My daughter likes M. to lay beside her until she falls asleep and then I ussually do too.on the rare occasion I don't shes ussually good about staying in bed by herself...unless she wakes in the middle of the night, it takes the same thing to get her back to sleep....bad habit...but now that I have to share custody of her with her dad, I J. take it as extra time beside her...
Hey I figure if she keeps this up, atleast I won';t have to worry about boyfriends sleeping over, and sneaking out when shes a teen...lol....

I apologize if this is going to sound harsh but your daughter doesn't think she needs to sleep with you, you think she needs to sleep with you. I found Paula's answer very helpful because they chose to co-sleep and then successfully transitioned when they chose not to. Children respond to what parents do. Yes, there may be some resistance because it's change. If you aren't willing to manage that resistance then no change will happen. This is more about your discomfort than hers. You don't say if you're married, but if you are, this may be hurting your marriage. The best gift you can give your children is a strong, successful marriage between their parents. Often this means putting your relationship's needs ahead of your child's desires. It's not something that gets a lot of support in our culture but it would go a long way to reduce the divorce rate.

My daughter will be 6 in Sept and is only now transitioning out. Didn't bother us - tho my husband grumbles about it sometimes. If my child feels safer and will sleep better with me - then that is what will happen. She will not always prefer being so close to me and I will enjoy it while I can.

i would like to know also .. my 3.5 year old son wont sleep in his own bed either!