Hi L.,
As a Lactation Consultant, mom of 23 yrs and one who has a degree in child development I STRONGLY advise you to NOT reduce the breastfeedings at this time. What the other 2 posters do not realize is that you will be taking away his MOST important source of nutrition while he is learning to figure out what he likes and does not like with solids. Your concern for his nutrition is valid - taking away the breastfeedings will compromise that and not only that you will end up in a battle of wills with a baby - and NO ONE wins in those situations.
Here are some much more age appropriate ways to encourage your son to eat solids. First: STOP forcing any bites of any kind. Offer the food. If he doesn't want it that is OK. When we get into a power struggle with adults what do we get? Miserable people who do not like each other. When we get into a power struggle with babies we get a no-win situation with both parent and child being miserable and the child WILL refuse to eat - which of course is the last thing you want. By trying to 'do the right thing' by getting in to such power struggles, we can inadvertently cause serious feeding issues. We don't mean to... I know this from personal experience...
Second: Ditch the baby food. Stick to things that are 'real' food - things you are eating that are a bit softer, or easily mushed up in baby's mouth. Take food off YOUR plate if you have to - give him a little of this and a little of that and let him decide what he wants. Let him be in control - you will have much more success this way. Trust me! And, you won't be having any of those potentially harmful power struggles. If he eats - he eats.
Make sure you are offering foods when everyone else is sitting at the table and eating - he is learning by watching. If everyone else is enjoying their meal, it is much more likely that he will too. :) Keep it FUN. No stress at mealtime please! Then no one is happy. Remember, he has YOU for nourishment right now, thank goodness!
YOU are very important right now - YOU give him the ability to take his time to adjust to this new experience while adequately maintaining his nutritional intake. You are one powerful lady to be able to do that! :)
Lastly, babies are PICKY. :) This is NORMAL. Annoying - but normal. They will like one thing for days then suddenly HATE it! Who knows why? Trust him to do what he needs to do with solids in HIS time. If you take away the stress, and the forcing of bites you will allow him to relax and enjoy trying new things - not all of which he will like the first time. Just keep taking foods off your (especially if that is what he is wanting) and put them on his and let him work it out. Some kids just aren't into solids until a bit later (like 15 months or so) and while this is not common, it does happen - and is OK provided you are offering solids. When he is ready, and he is not pushed he will suddenly take off like crazy eating everything in sight! Trust me on this one...been there, lived it!
Finally, I would encourage you to think about one very important thing: What does it feel like when you try to force your baby to eat things he doesn't want to? Is it fun? Does it feel good? How does your mommy heart feel? How would you feel if you were in HIS shoes and someone was forcing you in the same manner?? When we step back and put ourselves in the kids shoes, we can suddenly recognize that perhaps there is a gentler way - a way that we would be OK with too...and it is fascinating how quickly the power struggle ends and all is well when we stop fighting and start allowing.
Hang in there - you two will get through this, he WILL eat fine when HE is ready. Trust him...his body knows what it needs...ditch the stress and enjoy. It really is a lot more fun that way!
Warmly,
J. Simpson, IBCLC, CIIM
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