How Can I Convice or Say to the Principal So My Daughter Can Stay in the School

Updated on December 09, 2016
R.M. asks from Garden Grove, CA
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I recently moved to another district and the school that my daughter is going she doesn't belong there I want my daughter to stay at her old school and they want me to get a permit transfer so how can I convinced the pricipal so he can approve the permit for my daughter what can I tellhim can someone help me plz

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S.T.

answers from Washington DC on

if you approach the principal reasonably and make logical arguments for your daughter to remain in her school, and it makes sense for her to do so, that should be all you need.
there is no magic incantation, at least that i know of, and i'm in the bidness.
how far out of the district are you? do you have daycare that's still in the old district? how do you plan to get her to and from school? is there something particular about the old school (or something wrong with the new one, for that matter) that would cause your daughter undue trauma if she had to move?
because switching schools, while certainly disruptive and sometimes upsetting, isn't actually an issue in and of itself. kids move and switch schools all the time, and unless you have a compelling reason that your daughter is either too fragile to withstand it, or being so brilliantly supported at her old school that it would be measurably beneficial for her to stay, this is probably not high on their list of priorities.
if it's just the old 'my child is special' that principals and teachers hear every day, you probably won't get too far.
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B.C.

answers from Norfolk on

How do you know the new school would be a bad school for your daughter?
I assume you made the move and checked out the school before you did so.
It's hard when a move is needed and you can't find a place that will keep you in the same district but sometimes there's nothing you can do to keep your child in their old school.
If it was her senior year, you might be able to argue that's she's almost finished so let her do it with her friends and get her diploma.
But if it's elementary or middle school it would be better if your daughter made new friends and got use to her new school.

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M.G.

answers from Portland on

I might be wrong on this, but I believe friends of ours used their terrific child care arrangement as a reason to ask for a permit. They had odd working hours (shift work) and their sitter lived near the school. They may have said it would have been very difficult to find care that would work around their work schedules.

When we moved, we also moved schools. My kids enjoy living near the kids they go to school with. Just something to consider.

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D.B.

answers from Boston on

Welcome to Mamapedia. We are a group of caring moms and would like to help you.

However, there is not enough info here. Please edit your question - write "ETA" ("Edited To Add") and then provide more info.

How old is your daughter and what grade is she in?

Did you move to another town (vs. another district within your city)? If so, you do understand, right, that your tax dollars are no longer supporting the school district she is in? So how do you expect the school to continue to educate your child if you are not funding it? Is your move permanent or temporary? If it's temporary and you plan to move back into your daughter's district, it shouldn't be a problem.

Have you even looked at the permit form and policy? This is not about what you can say to the principal - the principal does not make the policy! So you have to find out what the requirements are for the district - that would be something you do through the district office or superintendent's office.

What is your reason for not moving her? If she's a senior in high school, of course you don't want to move her with 6 months left. But if she's younger, what's the problem with the new school? Did you move to an area with substandard schools? (If so, why did you choose this area? Did you investigate the schools before you moved?) If you had to move in a hurry (loss of housing, for example), that can be understandably stressful. If you are worried about your daughter making new friends in a new school, why? Does she have social issues?

These are all answers you could provide to us for more help. It's hard to understand what your concerns are if you don't express them.

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W.W.

answers from Washington DC on

R.,

Welcome to mamapedia!

I need more information:

1. What grade is your daughter?
2. How far is the old school from the new school?
3. What's wrong with the new school?
4. Does your daughter have language immersion education?

How do you convince the principal that this is the right school for your daughter? I would write a letter that states the following:

My daughter is very happy in this school and is thriving (hopefully she is) and then I would point out:
1. Mid-year changes are hard - especially if she is in high school.
2. Stability and the quality and relationships with teachers is vital for her education.
3. You are NOT expecting the school to pick her up - you will provide transportation.
4. IF she is in a language immersion course and the new school does NOT provide said course, best for her to finish the school year in the "old" school.

Don't use emotion. Use facts. Provide information that any reasonable person would accept.

Good luck!

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M.D.

answers from Pittsburgh on

In my district, there is a standard form for this. The request isn't a big deal as long as the school is not overcrowded. People don't do this all the time in my district because of these 2 things:
1 - you have to pay the tuition for your child to attend the school outside your area. This is because your tax local tax dollars no longer support the old school. In my district, it is >$10,000/year for a non-resident student to attend school here.
2 - you will have to provide all the transportation.

Your district may be different. Make sure you know what you are getting into before you make the request.

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T.S.

answers from San Francisco on

Just apply for the transfer. Since it's mid year and your daughter is already a student there I'm sure they will approve it.
ETA: my answer is based on how it works here. We have a very popular district so we get people tying to transfer in all the time. The policy here is that as long as classroom limits are not exceeded kids will be accepted.

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N.B.

answers from Oklahoma City on

You moved out of your home school district?

You don't want to move your daughter from her old school but they've found out you are no longer in their district and want you to pull her out? Or the new school is being difficult and saying you have to enroll your daughter there?

There are a lot of questions about what you posted, please update with more information.

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J.C.

answers from Philadelphia on

Are you asking just to finish the school year? I can understand that argument but since local tax payer dollars go to the school where you reside I think your daughter should go to school in your new district. Why did you move if you want her in another school district.

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L.U.

answers from Seattle on

In my area the principle has nothing to do with asking for a "permit transfer" or letting a kid stay in a particular school. It's done through the actual school district.
The principle or teacher may be able to write a letter of recommendation for you, pointing out all of the good this school is doing for your daughter.
Or you could lie....and just keep your old address in the school file. (I know I know...lying is wrong...but really? I have absolutely thought about doing this)

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