D.B.
How awful for everyone.
I don't think kids can deal with this on their own. I really wish the father hadn't said "suck it up and go back" - that's just ridiculous and a total dismissal of the trauma. I think the parents have to be parents - and either put her in the trauma counselors supplied to the school or get her independent counseling. Acting like this will go away if she just homeschools is naive on the child's part, and while I understand the mother wanting to give her time, staying home doesn't solve anything if there's no serious therapy attached to it. It's not just about getting good grades in math or English - it's about being whole again.