Your daughter sounds just like my son! It's so frustrating, isn't it? I totally feel for you and want to offer lots of encouragement. I don't have a huge amount of advice. Someone suggested to me to coat soft fruits and veggies like bananas and avocados and sweet potatoes with rice cereal so that it doesn't stick to your baby's fingers (never worked for me). You can try one of those mesh bags, just make sure you wash it extremely well between uses (also never worked for me). I'd say to keep offering little bits of food separately and eventually something will click. That's the experience I had. I just kept sticking little diced up bits of food in his mouth, and he'd just swish it around then spit it out until suddenly one day, something in his mouth and brain woke up.
My son is 1 year and 1 week old now. He was never a great eater and even went on a food strike for 3 weeks once. Up until 3 weeks ago, he would only eat smooth purees and actually preferred jarred food over mine. I think I just couldn't get it smooth enough for him. He hated any texture except for Cheerios. Only about 6 weeks ago, he started eating bits of string cheese (I think he liked the salty taste). It was so frustrating when all of my friends' babies were eating solids and homemade foods. So, I was stuck feeding him "stage 2" foods. "Stage 3" foods that had chunks of fruit/veggies/pasta/rice amongst the thick purees made him gag and even vomit (my husband said it was like watching "The Omen").
Then, 3 weeks ago, we were on vacation and he suddenly HAD to try whatever we were eating....scrambled eggs, toast, waffles, french toast, hash browns (we ate at Denny's and diners a lot for breakfast), cheese, fresh bread, Kashi TLC crackers, corn on the cob (I worried that he'd gag on a whole corn kernel in public, so I'd squish out the inside and feed him--now he'll eat frozen mixed veggies at home and absolutely loves whole corn kernels and whole peas!), beef, roast chicken, fish (he loved the SPICY fish tacos I had for lunch once), tofu, and (horrors!) hamburgers and french fries. Now, he'll barely eat his baby food that I still give him to make sure he's getting a variety of fruits and veggies (he still spits out any soft fruits or veggies). And he hates for me to feed him; he has to do it himself, so I have to get his baby food down him fast! The only weird thing is that everything has to be diced up for him. He won't bite off a piece of food but stuffs the whole piece in his mouth. Oh well, at least he's eating.
So, I'm going to hope and pray for you that it will just happen one day. She sounds like a good eater otherwise. And you sound like a wonderfully loving and patient mom!