Help with Post Pardum

After my first child, I was the same way. I gained 80 lbs during pregnancy, and I cried ALL the time. My doctor put me on Welbutrin like the other mother said. And it worked great for me too! It not only helps w/depression, it helps w/weight loss, libido, addictions...EVERYTHING! I also went on Weight Watchers and lost the weight from both my pregnancies. I have gained 80lbs twice and lost it and then some twice! Good luck! I'll put you in my prayers. And I didn't understand the part of you saying you couldn't have any more, but you didn't want any more??? Maybe I need more coffee before I read it agian:)! I just wondered what you meant.

Dear B,

You are not "LITTLE MOMMIE". That is Number #1 issue. You are a GIANT! You are clearly OVERWHELMED ! My word. You are dealing with so many changes right now. Your body is undergoing tremendous changes, hormonal, physical restoration, mental and emotional challenges of figuring out how to love TWO babies, your husband and keep your own sanity. Make dates with trustworthy girl friends to come by to see you. Where are the grandparents? What does daddy do when he comes home? You have to give yourself a break today. You need loving companionship... someone to just listen. Cry, if you need. Whatever you need for release. I just want to put my arms around you. You probably need some help re-ordering your schedule, your routines, so you can re-balance daily living. You are expecting way too much of yourself too soon. With love, C.

That so happened to me but I didn't know it! And we didn't catch it until my baby was 2 1/2. I just felt horrible. I'd gained 20 puonds. I never wanted to have sex. I was exhausted all the time. Just didn't care about anything. Then I went in for my annual pelvic exam and when my doctor asked how things were going I broke down crying (lots of other things had happened around that time, too. Grandpa died, husband hit a deer, etc). She put me on a low dose of Wellbutrin and it worked WONDERS!! I LOVE that stuff! I lost the 20 pounds, started walking, started liking my husband again, and started enjoying life again. I would suggest talking to your doctor, and don't be embarassed about it! And don't let them tell you that you're just exhausted because you have 2 kids. They told me that the first time and it was really more than that! Good luck!!!

I'm all choked up, reading the responses you've received. The outpouring of love and understanding, in addition to the golden advice about pursuing help, warms my heart. Most anything I would add would be redundant, so I will only reiterate that this is hormonal chemistry that needs to be addressed. Once it it, lie WILL get better, I promise. Since you are depressed, the thought of one more thing to do can be overwhelming. Ask someone to make, that initial call on your behalf if you haven't in you to do it for yourself. You wouldn't be the first.

Blessings to you and to all in this sisterhood of moms. We are the ones who mold the future with our capable, loving hands.

C.

Please visit the website mothertomother.org You are certainly not "nuts". Postpartum issues are very real and you truly need to learn how to cope. Please seek help. You are not alone!!!

TALK TO YOUR OB/GYN or CALL A THERAPIST!!! Please get help. There is no reason foryou to feel this way!!!

No!! you are not crazy. its ok. it happens to alot of us. please please go talk to someone. it is a chemical imblance. it is ok to take something to get under control. It was wrost with my second because I was on bed rest for 3 week and had a 2 yr old. Hang in there sweetie. you can get through this. what area do you live in????
I will say a prayer for you
A.

Hey There,

My name is A. Ross. I am a postpartum doula. One of the reasons I began doing doula work was to help moms just like I was helped when mine were young. It is so hard and we were not meant to go it alone. I agree about going to see your doctor and if, in addition, you would like some help, check out my website. It will explain what I do, what I charge and so on. Also, on the links page is a group in KC started by moms for moms with PPD. Check it out and let me know if you have any questions.
A.

Not sure if you're in the area, but there will be a community presentation at Hammons Heart Institute on Thursday May 15th, 6-8pm. ph: ###-###-####

I'm really sorry that you're going through such a hard time. Have you talked to your doctor about your depression? If you haven't yet, I really think you should. If you have, are you taking medication? It's possible your medication may need to be adjusted. You might also want to see about seeing a therapist.

I hope things get better for you soon.

God bless you. this is so "normal" to feel abnormal. oh my goodness, i played hell with PPD this last kiddo. i'm still fighting! i want to wrap you up in my arms, too! i'd love to talk or visit, if you'd like to, let me know. i'm in the olathe area. i do have one thought, might sound silly to some but have you ever been around horses? this is what i do if i need a minute of sanity. they're so serene and strong and quite!!! anyway, you're not the only one and i'd be happy to help!!

I would advise you to speak with a professional. Catholic Charities has counseling in the KC area. ###-###-####

I too went through a very difficult time with post partum depression/anxiety. It really hit me hard when my daughter was 9 months old. It had been going on since day one though. The good news is that it will go away...with help. You are not nuts. Your body is still trying to adjust to the drop & rise in hormones. Not to mention the finality of not having another baby can be surprisingly emotional. I am still not sure I want another one because I am a little worried the post partum with return. I highly recommend contacting Mother to Mother. It is a support group of other women going through post partum. Their number is ###-###-#### ext. 4. It did me a lot of good to hear from other people. I needed to know I was not the only one going through this. I went to see a psychiatrist too. I look at it as a chemist trying to level out my hormones. I don't know if this even helps but please let me know if you need to talk.