T.M.
Hi K.,
OMG...Yes, you are not alone in this one. I found some products on the market. Matrix has a product called Sleek.look and it works great for when you want to wear your hair straight, they also have a similar product same line but for curly hair. I mix this with some bio-silk just a few drops of that but it works great the bio-silk gives it that shine most people get after they blow-dry their hair. If you want a more wet look when you wear it curly you can get Vavoom hair gel to put in it but be fair warn the gel after it dries and you get out in the wind will also as well look fuzzy but as long as you are in a not so windy area it works great. Now these are not cheap products. Now, Sally's has a line of products as well, it’s the generic brand of these products but be warned their form of the bio-silk I personal don't like.
Good Luck,
T.