Hi moms!
I need some advice. I was recently offered a job in Kauai, HI. It's an amazing job, they pay for all of my relocation, plus money to live there, plus salary! Oh, and travel allowance each year to get back to the mainland. It's about triple what i'm making here, but I'm nervous.
I have a 2 1/2 year old son who's father isn't in the picture at all. He is VERY close to both of my parents, especially my dad. We lived with them for the first year and a half of Max's life, and they just move from Colorado to be closer to him (among other things, they both grew up here, and the rest of our family is here). They of course don't want us to go. I'm just really torn and I need some advice. i don't want to do anything to make my son unhappy, or harm him in anyway. i don't know how traumatic this could be for him.
I just feel that this is an amazing opportunity, and one that doesn't come along too often. The job isn't permanant. It's only for 3 years (the company I'd work for is building a condo resort). If it was just me, I would be there already. I'm just very concerned about what is best for my son. So any advice would be greaty appreciated!! Thank You!
C.,
I would say go, without a doubt. My husband’s brother-in-law is in the army and was recently transferred to Alaska. What my sister-in-law did was bought a webcam and showed my mother-in-law how to use it. Now she is able to see her grandchild whenever she wants, and her grandchild can see his grandma whenever. It works great.
C.
Oh I am so jealous! Of course I would go, kids in tow and in-laws behind haha. Kids adapt so well. My parents live about 1000 miles away and they are still able to be "close" with my boys. Just get a good long distance plan and you should be fine. Best of luck!
This sounds like a wonderful opportunity for you and your son. Yes, he'll be far away from your parents, but they won't be totally out of his life. I moved around a lot as a child and i beleive that if it's the best for your family (meaning you and your son) then you should go for it!
Hi C.
Wow, what a choice you have to make! I know half of you must be saying go go go, and the other half has to be thinking you can't. Have you ever seen/visited Kauai? I think before you decide on the move, forget the fact it's Hawaii, is that a place you would want to live? Hawaii is a wonderful place to visit, but think about it, this is not just a visit, you have to live there, function daily. New doctors, day care, schools, stores, an entire new way of life plus a new culture. Are you ready for that daily. Do you know anyone there, and even though you said the pay is good is it enough to cover living expenses. The cost of living for normal daily, week to week, or monthly expenses is higher because they have to get it over there. Clothes and shoes are more expensive. If you need more then sugar your going to pay a lot more then if you bought it here. Sugar is made on the island so no shiping required. How long is job offer for, is it a year or 2 or for as long as needed. If its short term I would go for it, but if its for more then a few years I would give it more thought.
As far as your family, that's a really tough call especially since they moved to be closer to you. I would take into consideration the health of your family especially your parents. If all is healthy and well then that's not a factor. I realize any thing can happen at any time, but if everyone is well then you don't have to think about spending as much time as possible with a sick family member. If all of your family is good health and well enough to travel then they may have a good reason to thank you. They all will have a wonderful vacation spot to visit. From what I could tell (and I just did a random search on orbitz, during winter months,flying out of Denver) Hawaii is not a cheap place to fly to, about $400 a ticket. But with your travel expense from work you could fly home during winter months, giving you and your son a little taste of the cold and snow (in case you might think you will miss that) and family can visit you during the off season which would make it less for them to fly to Hawaii.
If you really think this is a good move for you and your son, and your future and place you want to call home and make a home I say go for it! If you are not 100% on the decision but lean more towards doing it, just have a plan "B" so to speak if you get there and your not happy. That way you know what your going to do incase your not happy you don't have to be unhappy w/o a plan.
It really sounds like a great oppertunity and I think I would have to take it if it was offered to me. I do understand there are a lot of factors to take into consideration. I wish you all the best with what ever you decide to do. You will have to keep us all posted as to what you decide. If you do go, let us know how it is going.
Best wishes, happy, safe travels, and congrats on the job offer.
T.
