Help Please!!!! - Apopka,FL

Updated on February 20, 2008
J.W. asks from Apopka, FL
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i need some help.i have a five year old boy whos father walked out on him 3 years ago.i am with a new man now for 3 years,he is so great and loves my son more than anything.the problem im haveing is my son as very bad anger issues and was put on meds.for them.the meds the dr. put him on is called risperdal.every since he has been on this med.he is afraid to sleep in his own room,or be alone when it is night time,even with lights on.he tells me he hears voices,and sees people in his closet making faces at him.i have tried everything to deal with this.i dont want to take him off,it has been the only med.than has controlled his anger.the anger is so bad he has been kicked out of day care and fights all the time with his brothers and sister.but on the med. he is so calm,sweet ,helpful,ect..does anyone out there have any advice for me. PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!

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M.H.

answers from Sarasota on

I don't have any direct experience with this and I feel horrible that you son has to go through this. My mother-in-law is on a lot of meds, so my first thought for you is to have the Dr. simply lower the dose. It this doesn't work, is there another med you can try? I know bouncing around doesn't sound appealing, but hearing voices must be terrifying!! Please let us know how he does!

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S.S.

answers from Panama City on

J., you NEED to tell his Pdoc about this. These could be delusions that could be handled by changing to a different med. There are other atypical anti-psychotics available that might not trigger these side affects.

The flip side is that he was having auditory and visual hallucinations before and just responded to them through his rage. Now that he is calmer, he can tell you about them.

Either way, his Pdoc ( psychiatrist ) NEEDS to know! I hope you have looked into the CABF ( Child & Adolescent Bipolar Foundation ). They could be a BIG help to you!

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T.O.

answers from Sarasota on

I can only offer a little support and understanding to you. Not sure if I have any advice. My 5-year old son is also on Risperdal. Fortunately, for us, it has been the closest thing to a miracle we've had. I would be interested to know what kind of doctor, what diagnosis, etc. as I'm sure you know Risperdal is a POWERFUL drug that isn't to be taken lightly. All the things I'm sure both of us have heard more times than we could say! I'd be concerned a little about the dose, as I know that the drug itself should be helpful with the auditory and visual hallucinations. Maybe he's on too little of a dose? If you would like to email me privately, I'd love to chat, see what I can do to offer support, guide you toward some of the services we use, or just be a shoulder. Best of luck to you J..
T.

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T.T.

answers from Tampa on

i don't know if i can be of any help,but i can offer up some support.i have delt with the same issuses with my son.he is adhd,odd,byepoler,ect, on and on...he was on the meds,that you speak of,and a few others.try this,try that,ect.on and on...well i really liked the resperdal and he like it too.got to where it was the only one he would take and then he finnally had enough and said no more.wouldn't take it and there is really no way to make someone take something they don't want.before he started taking the meds he was having the halushinashions,but sounds like the meds are giving your son the halushionashions.i would talk to the doctor and don't waight for your appointment.call him and tell them you want something done now.it could damage his brain and then he get worse.they will either down his dosage or up it,but they should down it or take him off of it.he may not need it.i was told my son had adhd,so they put him on meds for that and he got worse and strong.more physically agressive,very violent.worse than before.they ran more test and found that he was also byepolar on top of the adhd and when they give a byepoler the meds for adhd,it makes them worse and sends them off the deep end.so as we did all the things the docter said to do and nothing seemed to work on the long run.we found ourselves in a place not knowing what to do,about to have to place him somewhere else.i found this great place called dorthy thomas.it is a program where they go to live and relearn how to live.becouse with childeren like this they need things normal childeren don't need and sometime mom just can't give it to them.no matter how hard we try and no matter how much we love them and i do love my son,dearly.i have now been able to love him and he now loves me back.it broke my hart to leave him there that day.i felt like my hart would actually die,it hurt so much,but now as time has passed and he has been there almost 1 and a half years.he is getting close to comming home and yes he had his times he goes backward,but i wouldn't change my desision.it was the best thing for both of us.he just told me over winter holiday that he was glad i sent him there,cause if i wouldn't have.then we wouldn't of been much of a familly and we wouldn't of been able to have fun together and we wouldn't be able to love each other like this.when he said this,i cried.it ment so much to me and the thing is,he was right.he is a very smart little boy.i am so proud of him.like i said i don't know if i could help with advise,but i can be a big support and if you ever want to just have someone to talk to just let me know,i am here,with an ear to listen.if you need it and if you want info on that school i will be glad to give it to you.there is a long waighting list,but it is well worth it.he will be comming home soon and is taking no meds.learned to control his own behaivior.but he still likes to piss the cat off,um,i think that could be just the boy in him..lol..they come home on the weekends and that has been his hobby today.well let me close this before you have to read another chapter.lol...bye T....

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I.M.

answers from Daytona Beach on

Hello,
My name is I.. I have raised two children and have 3 grandchildren. Please get your child off these drugs that and get to the root of his anger. We never needed these years ago and do not now. The side effects as you have seen are far worse than the anger problem. A quick so called fix is very bad.

God bless,
I.

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M.M.

answers from Orlando on

There is a lot of great advice, so I will add just one idea.
Try cranial-sacral therapy. All of my 4 kids have had it, it's a special type of massage therapy. One had emotional issues and is now a happy well-adjusted 12 year old. Another was behind in school and is doing well. We are still working on another issue (he can't sit still for long periods) and it only gets better with this type of therapy. I just do what's best for my kids, but will try anything before trying meds. Poor kid, seeing monsters is normal at young ages and his sounds much more pronounced. What ever you try, good luck.

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P.G.

answers from Orlando on

Psychotropic medications (medications for psychiatric disorders) affect each person differently. If he wasn't having the hallucinations prior to the Risperdal then it's probably a side effect of the medication. Whenever you use a medication to treat an illness or disorder you have to weigh the costs (side effects) of taking the med against the benefits.

I believe that people who are taking psychotropic medication should seek counseling, either before they try meds or while they are taking them. Counseling can help your son express his anger more appropriately. I can provide you with resources for low cost counseling if you want to email me privately. Good luck!

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B.L.

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J.-- it sounds like your son is having hallucinations in response to this medication. I would ask the psychiatrist to help you wean him off it immediately-- but not cold turkey because that usually causes problems. Have you tried counseling for your son? Maybe he needs help to cope with the changes in his life, and maybe he could work through it with a kind and nurturing therapist. If he does need medication, I think it has to be a different one. I can't imagine how frightening that must be for a little child-- it sounds scary even to me as an adult. If I were you, I'd help him through the process of being weaned off the medication by staying with him until he falls asleep (or maybe all night if he wakes up and has the same issues?) and reassuring him. These voices and faces appear very real to him, and he needs to know that you're there to help him through this and that he's safe. Please let us know what happens-- I feel so sad for your little guy, and I hope this side effect subsides quickly as the medication leaves his system.

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M.M.

answers from Ocala on

i have a seven year old girl,been single until 2 years ago that i married.her father left too,she was very anger too.
i use too wook al thay,i went to the same problem.
i dont belive in mesicine for kids.
i belive in consouline,and time you spend with them.real time,i think that he just need more of your time,and tolk abuot what bother him of his real father.try that wooks with my girl.
you are luky you are a stay home mom,you have old the time of the world.

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M.P.

answers from Orlando on

Hello J..

PLEASE GET HIM OFF THE MEDS!!!
there is a lot of good advise here but meds is not one of them. the side effects are going to cause permanent damage to your son.
if you have an open mind, i agree with the cranial therapy. there is also EFT. Emotional freedom therapy. It works well and I think that he is not too young. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9nRY3UtTHvo
please look at this video. it will be a real eye opener.
I wish your family the best.
M.

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M.S.

answers from Sarasota on

I would suggest you check out this web site and be open minded. naet.com
You may say but my child doesn't have any allergies but I would say that they are helping children with ADD, ADHD, Autism just to name a few. My daughter has had severe allergies and through the help of a NAET Dr. she is doing great and can eat almost everything now without any problems.
We go to Dr. Hongjian He in Clearwater her number is ###-###-#### and the consult is free. She is so good we drive an hour just to see her. Hope this helps M. S.

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P.S.

answers from Tampa on

PLEASE LOOK AT ANY DIET FOR YOUR SON THAT ELIMINATES ALL SUGAR & ALL WHITE FLOUR PRODUCTS. I am a teacher who saw incredible results in several students after their moms went on line to find such diets, & shortly after the kids were taken off all meds.
Please investigate anger management online to find a way to help your son. Some angel intercession wouldn't hurt either. Do you have some retired teachers around who can befriend your son ? Males are valuable helpers for him.
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A.C.

answers from Jacksonville on

Getting to the root of the anger problem and then helping him find constructive ways to deal with and release his anger and pent up energy is the way to go. Medicating a five year old is helping you (by managing his behavior for you)and destroying him. He is a child whose body, mind, and spirit are only beginning to develop. He does not deserve to have his feelings and emotions repressed just because he is not old enough to know how to properly express them. This kind of medicine brings on the exact symptoms it is suppossed to repress if they are taken by someone who does NOT need them. Just one mom's opinion.

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R.E.

answers from Jacksonville on

RUN, don't walk to a family/child therapist.

My son had anger issues similar to yours and I took him to the best in the state and he told me to take him to a therapist for 3 months to see if we could resolve the ISSUES that were making him angry first, rather than just medicating him to 'cover it up'. My son was the same age as yours when my ex and I split. I know there is a connection.

Since going to therapy, my son is 100% better, the therapist is showing him ways to deal with stress, how to talk to us about what upsets him, and how none of this was his fault.

PLEASE PLEASE take your son to talk to someone. They may want him off his meds for a month or two while they're talking with him, but it doesn't sound like the meds are working well anyway.

Remember, it's easier to build boys than it is to mend men.

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K.J.

answers from Tampa on

I have been in your exact situation before. My own son was having it issues with fear and anger and my "boyfriends" kids were ok. I PRAY THAT THIS RELATIONSHIP IS HEALTHY FOR YOU AND YOUR SON! Because mine was a HORRIBLE reality.

My son now is going to be 15 and has been on loads of different meds in his life... Risperdal was one... The only thing that one did for him was made him blow up like a balloon. Kids/people respond to meds differently... My son had a VERY BAD reaction to antidepressants...
Your son sounds like he is not responding well to Risperdal... You should take call the pharmacy and ask them how to wean him off starting today... DO NOT JUST STOP THIS MEDICATION... Then contact your Peds. Psych. Dr. TOMORROW.

If you need to talk let me know.

Peace and Blessings to you!
K. J.

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K.G.

answers from Las Vegas on

Wow, J.. I'm so sorry your son and your family are going through this. I would not cut your son off the medicine cold turkey. That can cause other issues, but I would speak to the doctor about weaning him off at the correct dosage so that his body doesn't react sharply. My daughter was on an antiseizure med after she was born and when it was time to take her off, the Neurologist told us to never cut it cold turkey, but wean off slowly. The side affects for cold turkey were seizures (which is what the meds were supposed to prevent). I've been reading a book on ADD/ADHD diets. It does talk about food allergies and how kids react hugely to different kinds of foods. You might want to do research on this this in regard to how your son reacts after eating certain foods.

Good luck.

KarynG

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F.R.

answers from Pensacola on

Be patient with the process. Any kind of behavioral medication will need to be adjusted with time to find the correct medicine and the correct dosage. Keep going back to the doctors until it fits him best. It's like getting an eyeglass prescription. Every person needs something different.

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A.F.

answers from Tampa on

i can tell you from experience - get him off this med. there are other meds to help with anger and counseling may help also. but this med is absolutely horrid for kids.

my son was violent and when we used this med, he had horrible nightmares and was impossible at bed time - just like you are describing with your son. i have a friend who had the same problems with her son on this med.

find another med. find another doctor if necessary. but take him off this med......

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T.V.

answers from Jacksonville on

I have always been very skeptical about the drugs that we are prescribing children today. I can't imagine what it would be like to be a single parent with this type of problem though. My brother suffered from (and still does if you ask me) severe food allergies. He was allergic to wheat, yeast, all dairy, tomatoes, apples, nitrates along with several other artificial preservatives. I have also read several articles on how food allergies are causing the autistic symptoms in young children as well. I suffer from migraine headaches and after many years of different drugs and going to the chiropractor, I met a chiropractor who mentioned I may have a food allergy that I am not aware of.
Maybe you could try an illimination diet and eventually not have to deal with the meds?

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E.C.

answers from Orlando on

I understand your frustration and concern. I recently learned about ripserdal, not for use in children, however in an adult, it caused hallucinations; very similiar to what your son is experiencing. It seems that many doctors are trying to put children on meds for a quick fix. Maybe you could try a child psychologist if you cant get him to open up to you as to why he is angry. Usually, it is caused from a lack of undivided attention. Maybe an afternoon walk and talk in the park would help. Additionally, a change in diet is also an option, eliminate white sugar and such. There are tons of nutiriton information for children on the net. Best of Luck!

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M.H.

answers from Fort Walton Beach on

Hi J.,

Risperdal is an antipsychotic developed to control schizophrenia in adults. Antipsychotics are terribly dangerous to adults and even more so for children. And they tend to turn on you! He may not have an anger problem at this moment but it could possibly return with a vengeance.

Please go to www.risperdalsideeffects.com and make your own determination. I personally would beat the doctor that put him on it. Antipsychotics are terribly hard to withdraw as just one pill can be difficult.

There have to be other issues that caused your sons anger and you need to figure out why and what the trigger is and remove it. If you decide to put him on meds for anger issues, please investigate them carefully. Once on an antipsychotic, doctors tend to believe that the person needs to be on it forever and it's on record. (On record he could be considered unemployable as an adult.) It messes with the neurotransmitters in the brain so they can't think straight. Think about it...the drug companies can't test medications on children so they only know what is happening to them by their behavior.

Antipsychotics do cause people to see and hear things that aren't there. I'm not trying to scare you but please, please, please be careful. If he's seeing things that are scaring him, he might take it into his own hands to take care of them.

God bless!

M.

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K.S.

answers from Ocala on

THAT IS SOMETHING YOU NEED TO BRING UP AT HIS DOCTORS. I WORK AT A PHARMACY HERE IS A COPY OF THE INFORMATION WE HAVE

RISPERDAL® (risperidone) is used for the treatment of irritability associated with autistic disorder; the treatment of schizophrenia; and the treatment of acute manic or mixed episodes associated with Bipolar I Disorder.

IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATION FOR RISPERDAL

Elderly Patients with dementia-related psychosis treated with atypical antipsychotic drugs are at an increased risk of death compared to placebo. RISPERDAL (risperidone) is not approved for the treatment of patients with dementia-related psychosis.

The most common adverse reactions observed in all clinical trials with RISPERDAL occurring at a rate of at least 10% were somnolence, increased appetite, fatigue, rhinitis, upper respiratory tract infection, vomiting, coughing, urinary incontinence, increased saliva, constipation, fever, tremors, muscle stiffness, abdominal pain, anxiety, nausea, dizziness, dry mouth, rash, restlessness, and indigestion.

Neuroleptic Malignant Syndrome (NMS) is a rare and potentially fatal side effect reported with RISPERDAL and similar medicines. Call your doctor immediately if the person being treated develops symptoms such as high fever; stiff muscles; shaking; confusion; sweating; changes in pulse, heart rate, or blood pressure; or muscle pain and weakness. Treatment should be stopped if the person being treated has NMS.

Tardive Dyskinesia (TD) is a serious, sometimes permanent side effect reported with RISPERDAL and similar medications. TD includes uncontrollable movements of the face, tongue, and other parts of the body. The risk of developing TD and the chance that it will become permanent is thought to increase with the length of therapy and the overall dose taken by the patient. This condition can develop after a brief period of therapy at low doses, although this is much less common. There is no known treatment for TD, but it may go away partially or completely if therapy is stopped.

RISPERDAL and similar medications can raise the blood levels of a hormone known as prolactin, causing a condition known as hyperprolactinemia. Blood levels of prolactin remain elevated with continued use. Some side effects seen with these medications include the absence of a menstrual period; breasts producing milk; the development of breasts by males; and the inability to achieve an erection. The connection between prolactin levels and side effects is unknown.

High blood sugar and diabetes have been reported with RISPERDAL and similar medications. If the person being treated has diabetes or risk factors such as being overweight or a family history of diabetes, blood sugar testing should be performed at the beginning and throughout treatment. Complications of diabetes can be serious and even life threatening. If signs of high blood sugar or diabetes develop, such as being thirsty all the time, going to the bathroom a lot, or feeling weak or hungry, contact your doctor.

RISPERDAL should be used cautiously in people with a seizure disorder, who have had seizures in the past, or who have conditions that increase their risk for seizures.

Some people taking RISPERDAL may feel faint or lightheaded when they stand up or sit up too quickly. By standing up or sitting up slowly and following your healthcare professional's dosing instructions, this side effect may be reduced or it may go away over time.

Extrapyramidal Symptoms (EPS) are usually persistent movement disorders or muscle disturbances, such as restlessness, tremors, and muscle stiffness. If you observe any of these symptoms, talk to your healthcare professional.

Some medications interact with RISPERDAL. Please inform your healthcare professional of any medications or supplements that you are taking. Avoid alcohol while taking RISPERDAL.

Inform your healthcare professional if you are pregnant or if you are planning to get pregnant while taking RISPERDAL. Do not breast-feed if you are taking RISPERDAL.

RISPERDAL may affect your driving ability; therefore, do not drive or operate machinery before talking to your healthcare professional.

RISPERDAL may affect alertness and motor skills; use caution until the effect of RISPERDAL is known.

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H.R.

answers from Orlando on

My son is now 14, but starting at age 4, he was put on so many different medications for his "behavioral problems" (my ex got this all started right after our divorce when my son was living with him). It took me 8 years and 8 different psychiatrists to get my son off medication. All during that time, they would just change his medication or up the dosage. It wasn't until we got to the last doctor, the partner of the doctor I saw as a teenager, and he finally took my son off all medication to re-evaluate him and found out that the medications were what was causing most of my son's behavior. It also didn't allow him to learn the right behavior, so now I'm teaching my son how to deal with things at the age of 14 that he should have learned at age 5 or 6.

One of the MANY medications my son was on was Risperdall. This medication made him very violent and he started suffering from sever anxiety. I would highly recommend speaking with your psychiatrist and having them take you child off the Risperdall safely (many of these medications can not just be stopped, they have to be tapered off) and then re-evaluating your child. I understand that the behavior may be more controllable now, but from experience, it is not worth it to have your child going through the emotional trauma that they are going through now.

If your psychiatrist will not take your child off the meds, I can highly recommend another psychiatrist. I will say this, if anyone is seeing Dr. Viyas, please, PLEASE, find another psychiatrist! This psychiatrist did not care for my son as he should have! He did not run the blood tests that he should have run when my son was on some very strong medication that could have (and started to) become toxic to him. If you are seeing the psychiatrist, I highly recommend you find another one as soon as possible. From my experience, all he is interested in is over medicating children to keep them doped up and under controll. This is my opinion from my experience.

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M.M.

answers from Orlando on

hi.
Actually rispedal is suppose to help your son sleep and minimize the voices that he is hearing. My son is on risperdal as well.
You may need to talk to your doctor about a different medication, my son takes concerta during the daytime because of his anger issues. Also another option is to give your son benadryl at night with the medication. Make sure when giving the medicine he will be ready to go to bed in the next thirty minutes. He should have already taken his bath for the night, done his homework or any other chores.

I hope this helps.

M. M

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J.P.

answers from Orlando on

First of all, consult another physician for a second opinion about the meds and options.

Second, he should be in counciling for his behavior, not just put on a med for a cure all.

His anger stems from something and that needs to be cared for so that he does not grow up dependent on medicine and can come to terms with whatever is bothering him.

My 12 year old niece is afraid to sleep alone and it came on all of a sudden. When she stayed with us for nearly a week we had to move my son's matress into our room so she could sleep in here.

A little spiritual guidance might not be a bad idea. I am still horrified some nights when I go to sleep. I see things too (in my mind) and no one understands when I describe it to them. They are grotesque figures and all kinds of very scary things...and it only happens at night in the quiet.

Another side note that I found to be more common: I used to plan escape routes when I was younger on how to get out if someone was in our home.. and I carried those thoughts with me up until two years ago! This began around 6 or 7 years old for me.

Even last night, I was overtired and started to "see" things (except my eyes are closed). I simply tell myself God is with me and His love and power is awesome and untouchable. It doesn't go away right away, and I have to work at it but eventually, with a lot of work, the images cease and I am able to fall asleep.

Through counciling, years ago, I was told that I am not alone in being frightened at night but to cut out any violence in tv and to not read the newspaper after a certain time in the day.

I believe TV is a big contributor to fear and young minds can't process the complexity of some of the things we see. Even cartoons. Try and limit that for your son.

If you are a beliver, read the bible and ask out loud for the angels to come and watch over us. Even last night I prayed for that. I used to be scared, but with a better understanding of how God (or good) always wins over evil, it calms me enough to go to sleep.

I know this seems odd to many others, but it started for me around your son's age and it has been very difficult to deal with being "afraid of the dark" with two kids of my own and nearly being 27 years old.

Best wishes, and please start your son with counciling. He can't be dependent on meds for something that may be stemed from a tramatic event in his life. (I.e. his father leaving ect.)

This world tells us daddy's leave all the time and it's normal. It's not normal and children need their fathers' (or a parental fatherlike rolemodel) in their life.

Either way, you must understand feelings of abandonment, if that is the issue.. which it may not be at all.

Sincerely,
J.

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W.K.

answers from Orlando on

I must say I agree with Micaela. I don't believe in meds as a quick fix; what happened to conditioning? I was a single mother for 3 yrs. before I met my husband. Make sure your hubby is good to him & treats him well and is patient ... Yes, my son had bouts of anger leading me to stop dating for a year or two. He is the most important man in my life-so I spent more time with him.
Most kids that get angry (my son is now 5) do it b/c they want attention, or not getting it at home. In your case, he lashes out in school. Men have a hard enuf time expressing themselves, imagine kids?! So maybe you should spend some time with him alone and away from the house, kids, and hubby. Do something that aligns his focus and costs $0 - like take him to the park, go to the library & read to him, sit down & do a puzzle with him alone, have a picnic @ the park and talk to him. I feel for him; there is no reason for him to hear voices, see things, etc. The meds are starting a new problem which can be worked on by a simple solution called time and energy. That entails yours, & have your fiance do the same, heck, switch every week, 1 or 2 days. Quality alone time with him at the park, let him RELEASE the negative energy that expels as rage. At least give him that, time. b4 putting him on meds. It worked out for me. He doesn't miss his father b/c I was strong enough to be both for him. I wish you the best.

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T.H.

answers from Jacksonville on

Honey, you need to take your son back to the doctor and tell him about these side effects. Also you may want to try and remember anything you can about his father's family medical history..It could be that there is some kind of genetic thing going on that no one bothered to tell you because to them it's a normal thing.
I to am having issues with my son he never had a father in his life until I met my husband in 2003. We are now having some issues with him aswell...refer to my request if you want to know what they are.
My husband's nephew was on risperdal and had the same reaction to it. They took him off of it immediately and put him on something different. Also, it may not have occured to you or your doctor that what your son needs is counseling and therapy rather than a pharmacuetical fix. You can also try altering the dosage that you give him. He may be having too much medication and that's why the side effects seem to be so severe.
I don't know the full details of the situation but it seems to me that there is an underlying issue that is causing his anger...just like with my son you just have to figure out what that issue is and then take the steps to deal with it.
Most children don't just all of a sudden make a personality change unless something they don't understand or can't handle is happening or has happened.
Also another mom on here told me about a program called Total Transformation, you may want to check into it. I would also recommend that you make special time for just you and your one son to spend together, have your fiance watch the other three and take your 5yr old out by yourself ...even if it's just a drive around the neighborhood and talk to him, don't get angry with him, just talk to him and see what he has to say, you may be suprised as to how simple the cause of the problems will be to fix.
After thinking about how to help you, I realized that I never really actually listen to my son and what he has to say. Do any parents in a stressful situation TRULLY listen to their children??
What he says may not make sense to you, what he says may upset you, and you may want to lose your composure, but keep yourself in a calm state and really listen to what he says, maybe the anger he has towards his father is lashing out at you. No matter what the case, sometimes the hardest problems have the easiest solutions, medication may not really be necessary if you figure out the real cause of the aggression issues. Feel free to send me a private message and i'll give you my email and number and you can call when you need to.
Good luck. I hope I've helped you in some way...I know i sure helped myself. -Tracy

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M.F.

answers from Jacksonville on

Hi J.,
I would strongly recommend talking with your son's doctor. Although your son is doing well managing his anger and is improving socially, this dosage of Risperdal is not beneficial to him if it results in terror. My husband is bipolar. It took him three years of continually changing drug combinations until the most effective and least restrictive combination was found. Now, he is more "normal" than most! As a first grade teacher, I would recommend you take your son's fears seriously. Imagine the sheer terror of going to bed alone thinking people are in your closet and hearing voices. I truly understand your wanting him to happier, calmer, and more in control of his actions; however, I feel that you can reach that goal by further exploring drug and emotional therapy options. I hope this helps you in some way. Good luck to all of you.

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M.S.

answers from Fort Myers on

Hi J., I have to ask if you have had your son seen professionally for his anger? Long ago when I remarried (18 years) my then 8 year old daughter had some of the same anger issues that your son is having. I took her to see a psychologist that her school guidance counselor recommended. There are two problems that your son is dealing with first abandonment from his father and then the new man creates a feeling that you are abandoning him because you have given some of your time to the new man. Both of these issues are real to him and you should not feel guilty about having a new man in your life, however, you must address his feelings about the new man and the abandonment of his father. Create special mom and me time for him without interuption by anyone. I learned how important it is to address our children's feelings (no matter how silly or strange you think they are) because to our children they are real! Also, I am concerned about the side effects of the medication...I would research an alternative 'natural' herb and take him off the respirdel immediately.

M.S.

answers from Ocala on

Hello J.,

I am a mother of 3 and i am married and there is no way that i would allow any doctor tell me what med's HE or SHE felt that one of my children needed to be on.

If i was in your place---- I WOULD NOT CARE HOW GOOD MY CHILD WAS OR NOT WHILE ON THIS MED. I WOULD NOT ALLOW FOR MY CHILD TO HAVE TO LIVE IN SUCH FEAR OF VOICE'S AND SCARY STUFF. ALL OF THAT IS JUST EVIL.

You need to take him off of that med today and you need to get on your knee's and pray to GOD to help you and your son and pray everyday with your whole family. Tell the LORD that you need him to protect you and your family from the devil.
Because right now the devil has his hands all over your son. You (AS THE MOTHER) needs to rebuke the devil in the name of JESUS for your son and do it infront of your family so that they can hear you. That will teach the little ones how to rebuke the devil. SAY THIS

" Devil we rebuke you in the name of Jesus Christ! Get away from me and ______ and _______ and _________ and so on. (say the name of every person and animal in the house)". Say " Devil get away from my house and away from my family stay away from us. You are not wanted here and he want you to leave. WE REBUKE YOU IN THE NAME OF JESUS CHRIST!"

Trust me! Everything will work out for GOOD if you trust in the LORD to take care of you and your son and your whole family. Find a Church of God to go to in your area and take your family.

You and your family can get free Counseling from any pastor to help you with this problem. Trust in the LORD first.

ALL OF THAT STUFF THAT HE IS HAVING TO GO THROUGH IS NOT GOOD AND YOU AND I WOULD BE SCARED AND GO OUT OF OUR MINDS IF WE HAD TO SEE THAT. TRUST ME THAT STUFF IS FROM THE DEVIL.

YOU NEED TO PLACE ALL OF THIS IN THE LORDS HANDS AND HE WILL WORK WITH YOU AND YOUR SON TO HELP YOU ALL GET THROUGH THIS.

I am so sorry for all of this that you have to deal with i know that this is alot to handle.

I will pray for you and for your family.
Please take your son off of this med and do it for him do it now. He is so little and he is having to deal with the devil all by himself. Pray for him everyday and bless him and his room and hold him and love him.

I do understand that you have more than one child and that you are getting married and that you have a lot to do all day long and it feels like you have no time for anything but make time for your son. He needs to come first right now.

If you keep him on that med. he might hear voice's to harm himself or someone in the house.

Take care and God Bless you and your son and your whole family.

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