HELP Mother in Law (MIL) Cant Keep Her Mouth Shut!!!

Well, I'm really sorry to hear about that, I was in a VERY similar situation only with my grandma. Ultimately, the thing that really helped me through it all was to distance myself from the negative people and just live my life. I know it sounds like "whatever", but it really works. You know, if you and your husband are working on another child and already are dealing with other children, you are going to have your hands full without listening to you MIL's c-r-a-p. Have a sitdown with your husband and try and work out a plan without anger. Just simply a plan of "avoidance" or "little to no contact" until things get back on their feet. This might mean changing hair stylists for a year or so. Let Yolanda know how much she means to you, but at the same time, you need to know that whatever your MIL and you say will no be shared between you. (Honestly, if Yolanda told you what your MIL said about you, there is a very good chance that she also shares info with your MIL about what you say) Changing hair people should avoid this. Also, moving is way too drastic, but you could all be "conveniently unavailable" everytime there is a party or family get-together. Become more involved with eachother. Have more family activites, picnics in the park, movie nights, walks around the block. This will bring you closer as a family, relieve stress, and help with the bonding while there is another child on the way. This also sends a message that you guys are BUSY and having fun without them (ie. instead of: you are just sitting at home and not doing anything so why can't you come over so we can torment you!!) This will also help without having to "make excuses". I think the best thing to do right now is to just stay away if at all possible. After a few months of that, you can be sure that someone at the salon will tell her that you "heard somthing" and that's why you are staying away. If you guys are actually having a lot of family time, she can't come back with anything.
Good luck, been there done that, I hope everything goes well.

Hi. I can tell by your request that you're at the end of your rope and I can relate a little bit. I'm in a second marriage and have had to fight hard to make my marriage thrive, but it is thriving now and I'm so glad I fought for it. You're right about your daughter deserving happiness, but I think you need to understand that happiness begins with you and your husband. She deserves to see a happy marriage, not mom running away from a loving husband just because of in-laws. I know it would be ideal to have the whole family's support and involvement, but that doesn't always happen and you need to be strong enough to accept that and rise above it ... and make your marrige thrive for your daughter's sake. You've already said you love your husband, so stand by him and make a happy life together. I'm sure it's difficult for him to be in this position so try to support him. I would suggest couples counceling so that you can work through this together. I urge you to make your marriage a priority; your daughter will see that and respect that and in the end will feel much more secure and loved because of it. Best wishes!

You are asking your husband to choose between the person that cared for him all his life up to now and the one he has chosen to spend the rest of his life with and that's unfair to him. That is probably why he clams up.
My husband is 9 years my junior and I went through something similar when we first got married (except I had 2 kids from 2 previous marriages). My mother-in-law told me flat out (in front of both kids) that my daughter was okay but that there was no way she could accept my son as family because he was too old. I told her that no one had blindfolded my husband or forced him into this marriage. I also told her that as long as he had accepted my older ones as family she should too because they were going to be around whether she liked it or not and if they weren't welcome, we weren't welcome and that she should say so and we would pack up and leave.
A couple of years later, my youngest daughter was born and my mother-in-law turned into the doting grandmother. She wanted us up every other weekend and on all holidays. We did our best to visit whenever we could (we're 5 1/2 hours apart) but my oldest daughter never forgave her for that statement. She is very gracious and courteous towards my MIL but doesn't go out of the way to make contact in any way and my MIL has never seen the grandchildren from my daughter. My son, on the other hand, decided early on to make her eat her words. He has always been very helpful in any way he could and now it is the son that was too old to be considered family that is asked about and he is the one whose children she has met.
They say that time heals all wounds and it seems to have been the case in my instance. Let nature takes it's course without ultimatums and try not to over spice the pot. It's entirely possible that your mother-in-law will mellow with time. If you truely love your husband, don't let her ruin a good thing just because she doesn't like her life. (Gossipers gossip because they don't have anything worthwhile going on in their lives!)