Help Im Going Crazy!! - Casstown,OH

You need a good sitter, and a break. Meds are not the answer, but if you are feeling episodes of psychosis, they might be. Some moms who got off their psychotic meds ended up killing their children, and you don't want to do that..I would get a sitter, and have a girls night out. Can you rely on dad? Where is he in all of this, and what kind of support do you have with family? Lean on them, and dont feel guilty for how you are feeling. You need a break.

M. O...you are NOT going crazy...

You need help. You need time for yourself. Have hubby or a trusted friend take care of the kids while you go get a manicure and pedicure. Something JUST FOR YOU...

Then you need to talk to your Dr again...the baby blues can last for up to two years in some women. Yes, there are meds that make the brain go haywire - but you need something so you can get your life back.

Start having a girls night out. Whether it be once a week or a every two weeks- find a girlfriend and go out...dinner, movie. something. but go.

If you can't do that - find a M.'s group so you can get out of the house and interact with other people other than your husband and kids.

look to your church for support...they may have a M. group and they may even have a once a week baby sitting "club"...if not - then start one.. you can do this...you are not alone

M. O, you sounds seriously depressed, to me. I see from a previous request that you feel you might be depressed. I've been depressed. Fear of getting help is PART of the depression, and it can keep you stuck right where you are. No matter what direction you look, it looks dangerous or hopeless.

Ask yourself how much longer you can endure being stuck in all this anxiety and stress. It is harming you, and it is harming your children – you can be assured that they are experiencing a great deal of stress because of your condition. This can affect them for years if you don't get help. PLEASE see a doctor, take steps to make life better.

And it can get better – really. The one suicide that you know of is frightening, but rare. A far larger number of people get their lives back once they get some medical help.

Please do this. Your children need you to take care of yourself. You know the instructions you get on a plane trip? In case of emergency, parents are supposed to put on their own oxygen masks first? If they don't, they may become too helpless to help their children? Well, right now, your brain is happiness-starved. As a result, you're drowning in misery, and you can't help your children.

GO TALK TO A DOCTOR! That's an order! And pm me and tell me you did it. PLEASE!

You need time for yourself.
Can't your Husband or partner, babysit???
And you make plans for yourself... put it on the calendar. Plan it ahead.
And then tell him.

What Peg M said.

I have to tell you I started some medication for depression and anxiety about six weeks ago. I didn't want to and kept putting it off. I too exercise and try to use that to assist with my mental health... But it wasn't enough. I just had my third and I have some post partum OCD/anxiety/depression..... Not terrible but enough to make me feel like I owed it to my kids to
try the medication. Let me tell you, I feel so much better. I finally feel like the Mom I want to be.... Engaged and in tune with my kids instead of stressing yet another day away (one which I will never get back... And we all know how fast these little ones grow up.

Please speak with a doctor.... You need some help. You don't have to be miserable. You will be so glad you did something about your anxiety and depression when you realize you are enjoying your kids again!

I would first take a deep breathe and realize that you just took a huge step right here. From here I would speak w/a doctor about what is going on to see what needs to be done from here. It is a good thing that you are doing what you need to for yourself, but most importantly for your children because as you get the help for yourself, the issues with your children may not seem as hard to contend with. I was diagnosed bipolar in 93' and although it can be a challenge raising my girls at times, I apply the same coping skills in managing my own stressors as I do theirs. As far as medications making you commit suicide, there medications w/side effects however what medications don't have side effects. It is almost the same as when I was carrying both of my girls during my pregnancies - the risks of not taking the medications outweighed the risks of taking them. I have been nervous about some medications after researching them, but I also trust my psychiatrist w/my best intersest as well. Best of luck to you. If you ever need someone to listen, you can email me at ____@____.com.

I understand your fear. However, the doctor may not automatically prescribe medication. It sounds like what you will benefit from more is some counseling sessions (with a LCSW or other certified counselor). Even if you do end up with medications, counseling is important - to help you learn ways of coping.
(I have struggled with emotional imbalance and been both on medication and counseling. The counseling really is important, even if it's only 1 or 2 sessions). But the place to start is to bring it up with your doctor. Let him know, also, that you are concerned about medication and why.

I agree with SH. Get some time to yourself. Who do you have around that can watch the kiddos for ya? If there's noone, there's always a neighborhood teenager who wants to make a couple bucks. I am always on a super-tight budget, so what I do is go to a ladie's group at church once a month. It's 2 hours where my son gets free childcare while I get lady-time.

Don't feel bad I know exactly how you feel. I have a 4 1/2 yr old girl that has ADHD and trust me I know I am on medication and don't always believe what people say about anti depressants I am on 2 and it has helped me soooo much if you have a good doctor they will be with you the first month to make sure there are no side effects. I finally had my daughter diagnosed and put on medication I know alot of people are against that but they have NO idea and she is soooo much better she can actually sit in class and pay attention, go to sleep, etc it is a balance chemical in the brain and the medication just levels it just like a diabetic that needs insulin. I have ADHD and trust me you can't stand your ownself because you have way to much energy you can't get it out. You can always email me if you have certain questions ____@____.com

I agree with everyone else, you need more time to yourself, which ius really hard to get and talk to a Dr., he or she can find just the right med for you if you stay in touch keep trying and Try a really traditional relaxing yoga class with lots of breathing and meditation, not a hyped up cardio yoga (you are already exercising) Good luck wish i was your neighbor and could help!

You poor thing, you probably just need a break!
Do you have family or friends who could take your kids for a few hours sometime?
If not, get out in the evenings or on the weekend when your husband is home to watch the kids. Go see a friend, go to a movie, take a class, take a walk, whatever it is YOU like to do. Make is a REGULAR thing, the same day every week, so your husband can plan on it.
And that can be daddy's special time with the kids :)
It is REALLY important that you get some time off, away from the house and family, on a regular basis. When my kids were small I did all my grocery & Target shopping in the evenings. Even though yes, I was running errands, I was doing it without kids and it was HEAVEN!