My sister is losing her mind my seven year old niece always likes to be the center of attentions she is a very bright girl but she gets distracted very easily she loves to talk in class big talker and gets up from her seat she’s been always very active since she was a baby but my sister is losing her mind doing it all by herself since her husband is in the military. My sister is working with her and told her if she has a good report card by the end of the week she will get rewarded little things here and there but she keeps getting distracted in class by getting up or talking she has no idea what to do it seems as she is talking to the wall her daughter will say I want do it again but than it is the same story again please any advice will help thank you in advance.
I took you guys advice and told my siste she is working with the teacher and her daughter is doing better thank all of you for taking the time and responding :)
Perhaps the base or whatever she is connected to has some programs for helping families and kids whose parents are deployed. If this is new behavior, then it may be connected to missing dad. If it's not new behavior but is just harder to handle since dad is away, perhaps talking to the teacher/pediatrician to find out if its ADD type stuff so it can be dealt with. She doesn't have to do it alone, but she needs to ask the right people to help.
Your sister should be talking to her daughter's teacher.
How does the teacher handle these distractions? Is what the teacher is doing not working?
Also, is she this way at home or just at school?
Really the teacher is the one who should be dealing with the behavior at school and making recommendations.
If her behavior is affecting her grades your sister may want to get the school counselor involved as well. They can work with your niece and her teacher, and decide if there are deeper issues which may require evaluation.
My oldest had a problem staying in her seat in 1st grade and the teacher complained endlessly. But, in 2nd grade, her teacher told her it was fine to stand at her desk (while working on something) as long as she didn't disturb the others. Maybe the teacher is being intolerant. Maybe you can reach a compromise.
My daughter eventually outgrew this phase. And did not have ADHD. Now my son did have ADHD, and quiet things, like stress balls, can help with the fidgeting. And, of course, meds.
Good luck.
Is she like this at home and at school and everywhere? Or ONLY at school???
If she is like this, everywhere and not only at school... then perhaps she has some attention issues. Talk to the Pediatrician. Get her assessed etc.
IF this only occurs at school only... then it is something that she can switch on and off. And she has an issue with respecting the Teacher and listening to direction and cooperation and impulse control, and respecting rules, etc.
And I imagine it must irk/bother the Teacher too AND all the other kids in class.. and distract them, too.
It sounds like maybe she is missing her daddy and can't verbalize her feelings.
adhd? talk to teacher and pediatrician. They have questionnaires for teacher and home to determine this. Or if it is only at home not at school, might be a different issue. Doctor should be able to help.
My advice would be to have the mom create a partnership with the teacher. Have mom call up to the teacher and say "how can we handle this situation". Teacher can work with mom to award rewards (stickers) for good behavior that the kid can turn into the mom for small rewards at home 15 mins extra tv, or special dinner or snack or extra time playing at the park after school...etc. Mom/Teacher can also work out deterents for bad behavior if the kid gets real unruly in class. But in my son's case the rewards always work better... Just have your sis work with the teach and make sure that they are united and working together. Don't have her try to manage what is going on in the school without the help/input from the teacher.
Try getting her a stress ball to squeeze - that way she can be "active" but still stay in her seat. It might also help keep her head in the game
