Health Problems

Hi, B.. I too am diabetic. I am 27 years old and have been diabetic for 26 years. I have a 4 year old daughter who is the love of mhy life. I too stay at home because of many health problems. And yes, I too get depressed. There are more things that I eoul doften love to do with my daughter, but because I am a sinle mom I can't. I try to stay upbeat, but a lot of them time I get very upset, mostly with myself. I do not have kidney disease, but I do have minor kidney problems, catarcts behind both eyes, hearing loss in both ears and I recently had a very bad A1C (8.5). My liver function test was unacceptable too. I think stress helps keep my health all over the place and I everything I'm supposed to and try to keep myself calm, but sometimes that's just not enough. It's nice to see someone going through what I have to everyday. Helps me to feel better.

Country living is the best! However it can be somewhat isolating. If your daughter is high functioning and physically up to the challenge maybe some good old fashioned gardening could be something you can do together. To make it easier give her the herb garden part that is a more forgiving as far as form. It would give her a chance to see a result for a little hard work. In my area its almost time to start my annuals under the lights inside(See online helps to get started) . What a joy to see those sprouts after this long winter. Its such a lift!!! Seasonal depression is my biggest problem.
P in Buffalo

It takes a very special person to take care of a special needs child. I have a sister with CP and I see how much work and stress it is for my mom. But she is also very optimistic and even when she gets depressed, it's just for a short time.
Good luck to you and thank you for being so upbeat and reminding me that things in life happen to us for a reason and we are never given more than we can handle.

Hi B.

I am sorry to hear of your health issues.
Since you mentioned keeping the faith and trusting God, I want to let you know about a website you can go to.
It is LTFChurch.com and there you can watch some short video clips that will help you tremendously.
Let me kmow how you make out.

God Bless You!

N.

Hi B.,I too suffer from health problems that keep me from working....I have fibro,crohns disease, arthritis and COPD....I also suffer from depression....There's more but I won't list everything here....I have 2 grown children that live in Maine, a dog and my husband....I love all kinds of music and listen to country a lot....I love living in the country too....Good luck with your daughter.....Keep up the good work....I know how hard it can be especially on those days when you don't even want to get out of bed....You can email me if you'd like...D. S

I am very sorry to hear about your health problems and the situation with your daughter. Take one day at the time and put your trust in god is all you can do. I will pray for you.

Dear B.--
I am glad that you found mamasource and reached out to others. Your life is certainly very full of trials and you would be out of touch with reality if you didn't get depressed. I was heartened that you were able to say that you are taking it one day at a time and doing the best you can--with all that is going on it is very difficult to do so and not fall apart. I was once very upset and overwhelmed about something and complaining to my father, and I cried, "I don't want to do this!" He responded calmly with, "Well, you have to," and proceeded to talk to me about what were my options.
Men can do that calmly and without judgement, I think. At any rate, when I feel overwhelmed I hear my Dad's calm voice whisper in my ear, "Well, you have to," and I take a deep breath, blow it out and try to focus on one thing at a time.

With all your health issues, I wonder if you are able to get out and go for a walk every day. One of the most important things that you can do as a diabetic is exercise, as it helps tremendously with the sugar regulation. I have worked with diabetics both as a physical therapist and as director of a fitness program, and I have seen the most amazing improvements in diabetic related problems with just a walking program. The hard part is getting started, and I suggest start very small--even if you try walking for 2 minutes, rest a minute and then walk back for 2 minutes. I suggested outside because that way you get out of your environment for just a bit and maybe witness something beautiful.
May you be blessed with some beautiful things in your path.

Hello B.!

My heart goes out to you as well as others in your situation, including the ones who have replied to your post! I do not have any of the health issues you mentioned and cannot imagine the struggle day to day that you face, however, I can say that God has certainly blessed your daughter with the right mom!!! You obviously love her and have done your very best for her! What an honor to able to be chosen by God for such a task!

I am a sahm mom of 3 young boys and homeschool them. I also have a home business helping others with many health issues including many you have mentioned. If you would like to find out more, please feel free to contact me. I am not pushy at all. I just love what I do and love helping others! I have 2 friends with diabetes that have been greatly blessed and another with arthritis that has also seen much improvement. I myself suffered from migraines for 15 yrs. and have had those reduce from 6-8/mo. to one every 2-3 months! I am so very thankful for that! It has made a huge difference in my ability to be the mom I want to be.

I also totally agree with the post about taking a few moments a day for yourself and to try getting some exercise, even a little, each day! That will do wonders for both your physical and emotional health!

I pray that today you and your daughter have some fun and laughter and are blessed by each other!

May God continue to bless you and hold you in the palm of His loving hand.
I have my share of health issues also at the age of 53(just turned this month).I was blessed w/7 children,and now 7 grandchildren.None of my children were special-needs,but I've had my heartache as a result of them.
My second oldest,a son, committed suicide in Dec.1987,and my oldest,a daughter,was killed as a result of domestic violence only 5 months later.My youngest,also a daughter,has put me through the wringer w/drug and alcohol problems as a teen.Praise God she is clean now w/4 children of her own.
Life still throws it curve balls,but as you said,it still goes on one day at a time.
God is w/us always,through everything if we want him there.All we have to do is accept Him into our life after admitting our sins.He alone can get us through anything.
You and your daughter will be added to my prayer list.May God bless and keep you.

Dearest B.~
I do not have some of the struggles you are speaking about. I have some different challenges, As many of us do. B. you are right about what you said. Have faith! You must keep God close in your heart and believe that In ALL things God works for the good to those who love him and who have been called according to his purpose(romans 8:28)
And remember... we have all been called!

Any time you feel for a coffee to just "get out" give me a shout!
Blessings,
D.

Good morining, I just joines because my friend signed me up. Your name popped up because like me you live in the farmingville area. I read your story and will pray for you. Life definitley keeps moving. During life we can have the most insane problems and then they just willow out. They come and they go. I try not to stress even though it's so hard sometimes. I had a stressful morning and I guess it was meant for me to see your story and now I see I should shut up and move on because there are others who are being tried and have more to worry about than I right now. I hope you will be able to smile alot today and I pray for you to have an easier day today.

Hello B.,I was reading your letter and i wanted to let you know your not alone.Iam 41 years old with cardio problems.i battle with cevical cancer on and off.i bleed 3 weeks out of the month and am trying to get a historectomy(spell?)i keep being told i could die if i have the surgery.iam going to another dr.next month.with hope.I have a 9 year old daughter with downs syndrome also have a 18 year old son with aspergers syndrome(they are the sunshine in my life.Its very hard to be positive.but when you have children with special needs you realy HAVE to be strong.they say god gives special children to special people.Because he knows we have the heart,soul and love to be the parent they need.Stay strong.maybe we could be there for one another.your in my prayers.A. R.