R.J.
I've learned that MOST people, when they say "nothing"
ACTUALLY MEAN
Anything.
Not "nothing".
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Some people, however, actually mean:
- Nothing. For real. Nothing. And THAT'S the only "thing" that will make them happy. Disregarding and doing anything at all makes them feel disrespected or put on the spot.
- No money spent on them
- No money spent on them but TIME spent
- Very little money spent on them
- A whole LOT of money spent on them that "looks" like no money (like a photo album, or a homemade sculpted cake, or whatever that's "home made" but the materials actually run very pricey).
- Not to have to spend money / time on others (if you get me nothing, I don't have to get you anything)
- Yes! Yes! Yes! I want a pony, and a speed boat, and a trip to paris, and those boxers, and maybe that table lamp, and a bag of jelly beans, and comfy socks, and a new pillow, and and and oh! That shiny thing over there!!!! (And are either being polite, or passive aggressive)
- An 'experience' instead of a material gift
- Some combination of the above
- Something I never even would have considered (Like the time I was asked for an introduction, or the time I was asked not to use a certain word that drove them crazy, for a whole year).
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So, for MYSELF, when someone says "nothing", I go on an information gathering campaign. To find out what they REALLY mean.