Having Trouble with 7 Yr Old Wetting Her Pants

give her time.my daughter wet the bed til she was 10.put a plastc slip cover on her bed and just help her get to the bathroom evry nite incourage her to go.let her know if she can not go in the bed for one week then you can go get a new pj set. or ice cream.reward her.

I would take this behavior into great consideration. Does this child get to see MOM? Has something happened when she was visiting mom? Is this transition to living with you a new one?
Any number of reasons could cause this behavior. Something as simple as a bladder infection and a trip to the doctor could solve. Or it could be something serious. Maybe she is trying to get a little more of your attention. Wetting her pants gets your attention! She is 7 years old and I would sit her down for an important chat to try find out whats going on in that sweet little head of hers.
please whatever you decide to do don't ignore it. She may be trying to ask for help.

Was she fully potty trained before? no accidents? Has she been exposed to any new people in her life? Have situations drastically changed? Is she jealous of the baby? Was she angry at you or someone else right before wetting her pants?

You really need to take the time and sit down with her, ask questions and listen to the responses. Find out how she feels about the baby, staying with your family, and the situation with her mom and her grandmother.
You should have the good touch bad touch talk, and you need to make sure you talk often. Ask questions.

I can see when my girl needs to go to the bathroom, she squirms and wiggles while she is playing. I remind her and she'll shoot off like a rocket to the bathroom sometimes.

Make sure that you try to give her as much attention and affection as you can. Try to make her feel like she belongs to your family and that you are happy to have her with you.

My 8 year old step daughter has had the same problem. Her doctor told me it it is a very common problem--kids get so busy palying, they forget everything else. She suggested I remind her before she goes outside or is about to start something that may take awhile--to just go, even if they feel they don't have to. Also to remind her it only takes a couple of minutes to stop, go to the bathroom, and return to playing. It will take longer to clean her up and put on new clothes if they have an accident. I also try to tell her to be more aware of her body and suroundings, and not get so focused on one thing that she forgets everything else.

Hope this helps,
J. Z

it might be bugging her that she dont live with her mom so she acts out

I'm sure the problems in her life contribute. I can remember having this trouble when I was her age. I would sit down with her and figure out about what time these accidents happen. Then give her a little pocket timer to keep in her pocket, set to go off about 15 minutes before you think she will have an accident. She needs to stop everything, even if she thinks she doesn't need to, and visit the bathroom. This happens because in her mind she is thinking,"I think I'm going to have to go soon, but not yet, I can make it a little longer, and puts it off until she can't make it to the bathroom. Ignoring the timer would bring some sort of punishment, whatever you decide together. You can make her part of this training process in this way. She needs help training herself. I assume you have ruled out urinary tract infections.

My (now 9yr old) did the same thing at 7, so we made her wear pull-ups when she was at home and when she went to sleepovers. She wore them for 3 months or so. She got embarrassed when one of her friends saw she had them on, but she kept doing it. We also used www.bedwetting.com
tools for a while, which did help at night.
Finally,I took her to the doctor and she had some female issues. I hope that's not her problem, but try the pull-ups & see if that might help? Good Luck! CarolC