I have a little boy who will be 4 on Sept 28 and he is showing no interest in the potty what so ever. I have tried just putting him in underwear hoping that he would not like to be wet in those but that didnt work. I know he understands the concept I just cannot get him to use it. I must also mention that he has Osteogenesis Imperfecta (Brittle Bone Disease) and we did have some headway on the potty training until July. He fell and fractured his femur and had to have the rod he has in his femur replaced. So that put us a few steps backwards. Are there any books anyone can recommend? Or sites? At this point I am open to all suggestions. Thank you
H.
Some children just need to go at their own rate.
My son was over 4 But when HE was ready he was dry day & night from the first day.
Does your 4 yr old have a favorite character in the movies or TV? I trained my 7 yr old with Spider-man Movie. He wanted to watch it every nite, so we made a deal, if he had an accident, then no movie that nite. He had no pee accidents and 2 poop accidents that first month and none after that. However he may still need some time to recover from the surgery mentally, trama like that will always be a step back. Good luck!
Hello H.! Potty training can be so hard, and you seem to have an extra obstacle. My son did the exact same thing. He knew what was going on, I was trying to get him to potty in the big toilet and he was just not interested. I tried making a huge deal when he "did it" in the toilet, I tried the sticker chart leading up to a prize at the end of the week, or 7 days in some cases. We watched dvd's, we read books and he would say I know how, I don't want to. SO....at my wits end I changed my strategy a little bit. My son loves Thomas the Tank Engine...LOVES. So I let him pick out a building from the book. It was about $45 bucks.....but that is cheaper than cleaning my carpets twice a month. I got the building that my son adored and I put it on top of the fridge where he could see it. He never touched it until he was fully potty trained, which took about 2 weeks give or take. He went potty all the time during the day and we had just a few accidents at night. Diaper free ever since.
So, to address the Brittle Bone disease, that can be a tough thing for a child to get over. He probably associates the bathroom and going potty with the terrible break he had from falling. So maybe if you padded ALL around the potty so he feels more secure. You can buy a big block of sturdy foam from Joann Fabrics, (they will even take Roberts Crafts 40% off coupon) and cut it to fit your space. Foam in a bathroom....grose I know...but you can cover it with plastic....and toss it when you're done! I may be so naieve when it comes to what you have to deal with on a daily basis....but making it a secure place for him might help. He would be more willing to go in the bathroom if he feels that the chance of another big break is diminished. I don't know what your bathroom layout is or if you can dedicate a "foamed" bathroom just to him, but it might help. Gook luck with your potty training and in everything else!
I have been told it is a boy thing. I have a 4yr old who knows what to do but he refuses to use the toilet. He even has melt downs when we try to force him. My doctor says that it will come but it will take a while. He has started school and we have to have him potty trained in a year. I am frustrated but the doctors say he will just do it one day.
My daughter was impossible to train....I tried a lot of things but I think the best one for us was making a very big deal about it when she DID go in the toliet. We would clap our hands and tell her how proud we were of her etc etc. She would get to play a video game or do something extra special that she liked in exchange for using the potty.
She finnally started going in the toliet everytime this summer before she started kindergarden this fall, cause I told her she couldn't go to school if she went in her pants. And that is what it took cause she wanted to go to school sooo badly.
Good Luck!!
D.
Hi H.,
I followed the instructions in the book "Potty Train Your Child In Just One Day" and It was a miricle, it really worked for us in just one day. Keep in mind there are prep days before the "Big Potty Training Day" But this book says it has helped children just starting out OR who have Potty Problems even up into there teens.
You can look it up on barnes&noble.com
Good Luck.
This is the same method as the Potty Train in One Day book, but you don't have to buy the book:
http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/264
Worked like a charm for my 3-year-old son.
I let my son go outside because we are in a secluded area and he has had no problem since. I had him in the house with nothing on his bottom. He only wore a t-shirt so he had a little coverage from his sister. Hope this helps.
Hi there, what helped my daughter was like the other moms suggested, was that we made a huge deal about it when she went and said how proud we were and she is a big girl and that she couldn't go to school till there was only panties. We even went and let her pick out her panties. She thought this was way cool!! When she had an accident, we would be supportive and encourage her to pay attention to the feeling she gets when it is potty time. We also made a potty poster and decorated it and put it right next to the toilet, so that she could choose a sticker when she was finished going potty and washing her hands. It worked good. Good Luck :)
there is a book called, Potty train your toddler in one day.
I can't remember who wrote it but I found it at the library.
It says to throw a Potty Party, not just a little party either, a huge huge party, which can be expensive but it works.
