Having Another M/c

Updated on June 13, 2012
J.M. asks from Melrose, MA
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Just learned my hcg is decreasing, I am only about 5 wks along, they tell me to expect bleeding soon. This is 3rd one total, second in a row. Luckily I have 2 great kids, but I am 36 and probably going to stop ttc for a third, but not prevent for a few more months. No real question, just looking for others' thoughts. Disappointed but I guess it wasn't the right month.... Thanks

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Thank you so much, mamas! I truly appreciate all the positivity. My husband and I haven't told anyone about these 2 mc, bc don't want our families involved, etc, so it is nice to share it here.

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J.M.

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I'm sorry. I recently lost my twins at 21 weeks, but they were the only miscarriage I have ever had. I can't imagine the pain of going through it again. :(

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P.N.

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I'm so sorry to hear this. I've suffered 3 losses...I know how you feel. Mine were 5 weeks, 9 weeks, and 10 weeks. Hang in there; have a drink if you partake, and try to get some rest.

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C.O.

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I'm sorry.

After any miscarriage you should wait about 6 to 8 weeks before you have sex. Double check with your OB/GYN and see what he/she says about it.

Just keep a positive attitude. I know it's not easy. I've lost 3 babies myself (12 weeks, 14 weeks and 22 weeks). Since this is your third miscarriage, please check with your OB/GYN to see if there are blood tests that can be ran to see if there is a DNA issue or you might be having hormone issues and unable to sustain levels for certain periods of time.

I'm truly sorry. I wish you all the best.

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L.W.

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Just wanted to express my sympathies to you. I personally know how it for that happened to me as well. I feel your pain and know that you aren't alone. ((((hugs))))

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☆.A.

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J.,
I'm sorry. It's so disappointing, I know.
I've had 3 m/cs--all around the 10-12 week mark.
Listen to your doc about when to start having sex, unprotected sex, etc.
Just hang in there. ((hugs))

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J.C.

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<hugs>. So sorry to hear this.

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J.T.

answers from New York on

Sorry to hear that, is never an easy thing to deal with.

I went thorugh that before my daughter was born... but 36 really is not to old... I did have my 1st until I was 38. After she was born, we waited about a year and then were trying for another for 2 years, but after I was referred to a fertility specialist we stopped actively trying but did nothing to prevent. Now about a year later I am pregnant with a boy.

So if you really want a third, leave that door open... if it was meant to be then it will be.

I will say a prayer for you

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L.A.

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Oh J.. I am so sorry. I will be thinking of you and sending you peace. Love on your children.. they can give great comfort.

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H.W.

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Hi J.,

I'm so sorry. I hope you have good support and loving, encouraging people around you at this time. I've had three miscarriages myself. Try to remember that well-meaning people may still say unhelpful things-- know they mean well and be easy on yourself. Get good food, good pain relief and know you are not alone.

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S.W.

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Sorry to hear this. I had three m/c in a row before I got pregnant with my daughter at age 40 and everything went fantastically well! She was the birthday present I got for my 41st birthday (just 4 days early). Your experiences may or may not have anything to do with age.

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L.F.

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I'm so sorry. I have had two miscarriages myself, but not two in a row. That must be just all that more heartbreaking. Please take care of yourself. Big hugs to you.

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J.K.

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R.R.

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Sorry you are going through this, {{HUGS}}

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J.K.

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Are you a negative blood type? I had to get that shot really early on when I was pregnant with my son because of spotting, everything turned out fine. Sorry to hear about this.

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S.G.

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I had a miscarriage prior to each of my pregnancies. One dr. told me to go ahead and try again asap after because it would be easier to get pregnant when my hormones were still up. Sorry you are going through this.

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S.A.

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Just wanted to say that I'm sorry to hear this.

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M.G.

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I'm so sorry you're experiencing this again. I've been in your shoes albeit at a younger age. Look to your 2 great kids and if you desire a 3rd I truly hope you get your wish. Honestly after my m/cs I realized that I could not handle another so I tied my tubes in spite of my desire for a 3rd child. I am not recommending that for you, just stating what I did. My heart goes out to you and hope you've got great support at home.

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R.M.

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I'm so sorry-your little heart must be broken-Take care, Sweetheart. I'll be thinking about you and praying for happier times for you.

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M.R.

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take an aspirin a day and see if that helps. sorry to hear about your miscarriages. I've had two. They are no fun.

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So sorry to hear. Sending peaceful and loving thoughts your way.

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P.K.

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Wrapping my arms around you.

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