Having a Rough Time Starting Daycare

Hi V.,
This is a tough call, because my first instinct would also be to go to him and comfort him. When I had to leave my son at daycare after a year of being home with him, I talked to him in detail every night about what we'd be doing the next morning. I would play with him for about 5 minutes or so when dropping him off, then tell him "I have to go to my office in one more minute". We had a ritual when we said good-bye, which was helpful to him, but that may have just been his OCD. I don't know if you already do all of this, but thought I'd pass it along in case you found it helpful. Keep in mind that this isn't damaging him. He does have happy moments during the day that you don't see. I hope things get easier for you!

L.

I think his teacher has a great idea! It can take kids a couple weeks to adjust. Once he is fully adjusted I am sure things will be fine and he will be having such a great time he won't even notice you!

My son started at a day care when he was 3 months old and I didn't have a problem but I always observe new babys/toddlers coming in and witness what you are talking about. The good news is that after about 2 weeks ALL of the one's I've seen have adjusted completely! It just takes a little bit of time. I know it's heartbreaking but it will get better.

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Thanks, R. Gagnon

V.,
I understand completely. I am the director of the daycare where my son attends. Now my son is 4 years old. Our center is small, so I do encounter him throughout the day. The worst is nap time, he wants me to help him to sleep, but at the time I am not in his room...and I don't think it is a good idea for me to be. Anyways, I am writing with compassion...not too much advice. It will get better...promise :) He will be use to it and love going...itjust takes some time. Best of luck!
Abby

It must be tough for both of you that you work at the day care! I think his teacher's suggestion was a good suggestion. He needs to figure out that his teachers are his primary caretakers during the day and that he is safe there. It is probably confusing for him when he sees you...so he never quite gets the chance to adjust. Good luck!