Hi Steph,
We had the same problem a about a year ago after the birth of our 3rd child. Everyone wanted us at their house for the holidays, and we've played that game in the past. Neither my husband or I enjoy our Christmas when give in and visit for Christmas and by the time we get home after the trip we're exhausted and school and work are knocking on the door again so our whole vacation is over and WE didn't get any of it. We finally had to just put our foot down and tell everyone that if they wanted to see us for Christmas that they'd have to come to us. What has also worked for us is staying home for Christmas itself then leaving to visit on the 26th. That way our kids got to open their presents from Santa (us) then enjoy what Santa left for them at everyone else's house (grandma, grandpa, auntie, great-grandma, etc.) I hope these ideas help a little, and I feel your pain about dropping the bomb that you want to stay in your own home for Christmas. Good luck. :)
~Jen
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~SAHM of 3 boys 8,5, & 2