"Hard" Pregnancy, "Good" Baby

Well, I don't know if it's true or not, but I was sick my entire pregnancy (including the day of delivery!) and my son was the best baby ever--hardly ever cried, ate well, and was always a good sleeper. However, he's 26 years old now and so awful, he's up for adoption, and we don't even care if he goes to a good home or not. He still sleeps well, though.

Dear D.,

I remember hearing if you have an ugly baby, it will be pretty when it grows up. "hard pregnancy, good baby"? Both silly and not necessarily true. It will be fun to hear all the things people tell future Mama’s!

Who ever told you this, is trying to make you feel better. Get some crackers and 7 UP, your nausea will “probably” pass in the next several weeks. Eat healthy, exercise, get plenty of rest and try some deep breathing when you feel queasy.

Blessings…….

Every person is different, just like every pregnancy. I had a very very very hard pregnancy (I was sick until the day I delivered, less than a 1/2 hour before to be exact) and my daughter was and still is a very easy child. People have told me that as well, but also that any easy baby makes a hard teen. Who really knows, everyone has bad days. My son was also a hard pregnancy, not as bad, but I was still very sick all the way through and he is a little cling-a-sore-us, I love him more than I can say but he did give me my first Grey hair at age 25! Some babies are just hard and some are easy. He is a love bug, but I do wish I could go to the bathroom by myself again tho, lol. People would tell me that sickness only lasts the first few months but for me that was not true. I think it has more to do with you and your body and hormone levels than the baby.
Good luck to you, if you ever want to talk to someone who also had a very hard time during pregnancy drop me a line anytime. I can maybe give you advise on what worked well for me.

ps A few people have said that hard preg means easy labor, not true! I had a hard labor of 26 hours then an emergency c. (not to scar you, but just so you hear both sides)

Hi D.,

I had a very difficult pregnancy, severe all day and night sickness and throwing up, my wisdoms were coming in and my gums were infected, severe seasonal allergies, bronchitis, spotting and bleeding, and pupps (that very annoying itchy rash that looks like poison ivy rash that you get all over your belly and there is no cure for it, except delivery. It itched so much my skin was bleeding and I was up every 30 minutes trying to soothe it with all kinds of remedies). I had a smooth labor and delivery but a horrible hemrhoging after my daughter was delivered and required surgery and 3 bags of blood transfusion. Then it took a good 3-4 months to get the breastfeeding down. My daughter refused to take a bottle or pacifier and gave me no choice but to persist in breasfeeding eventhough my nipples were bleeding,cracked, super sore, and got thrush (a type of yeast infection in the breast and milk ducts area). My daughter has always been deemed a high need child and didn't sleep through the night until she was almost 2, she nursed every 2 hours 24/7, and always needed to be held or it was the end of the world, and only by me. So I would say what your friends are telling you is not necessarily true, not in all cases. But do keep in mind that everyone and every pregnancy is and will be different. So the best thing for you to do is take the best care of yourself and try not to stress too much and take it one day at a time. I realized that the best way to handle coping with all the aches and pains of pregnancy is to remember that it will all be over in 9 months time and you will have a wonderful baby no matter the temperment. My daughter was very difficult the first year and a half but is a wonderful, sweet, loving and caring toddler and individual now. I really could have done witjout all the pains and difficulties during my pregnancy, but it was all very very worth it. My daughter and I are very close and have a great mutual love and understanding with each other. She taught me to be a much more patient and loving mom. Good luck with everything and relax.

J.

I don't know if ther is any truth in "hard pregnancy good baby" but take heart, The more morning sickness you have the less likely you are to miscarry.

I'm not sure about that. Every prenancy is different. But when i was pregnant with son. I just was quizzy with son the frist 3 month then after that was a brezze. I love being pregnant with him. everything about it was wonderful. he came a little early but after the premiee stuff. He always sleep through the night after 3 month doctor told us not wake him to feed him. well he never woke up. he is 5 now and still sleeps 3 hour naps and 12-14 hours at night. But my daughter I was sicker than a dog. Iwas on bed rest 22 week until seh was born. she got up every 45 mintues. she is a hand full climbing on everything.I can leave her a lone for a second. she is a hand full. But I was really sick iwth her horrible pregnancy, I could wait for pregnancy to be over. and with my son I never wanted it to end. I just think ever child is differnt

I am extremely lucky - lovely pregnancy, lovely baby. I did have a difficult delivery, but in listening to my friends' stories, there does not seem to be any pattern. We'd all like to think that it evens out somehow - we all like for things to be "fair" - but it doesn't work that way. Good luck!

I had a difficult pregnancy (MS until 22 weeks, etc) and have a challenging baby. He's a doll but didn't sleep through the night until 1 year! That's not to say you won't luck out. But you definitely can't predict temperament. And like others said, the nausea will pass. And then you can really enjoy your pregnancy!

I got a "double whammy" of a tough pregnancy and "difficult" newborn (he had severe reflux and cried a lot.) But I survived it and now my son is a delightful toddler. Whatever happens, I'm sure you'll do great!

Hi D., I am also 9 Weeks pregnant, so I know exactly what you are going through. I have food aversions, and the smells make me sick, sometimes I can't even think about certain foods or i'll want to throw up. I also have this really bad taste in my mouth that makes everything taste so nasty.

Despite all of this I am happy for every symptom, because it means a heathy pregnancy. I have 3 and 4 year old boys, but I also lost a baby in early pregnancy and with that pregnancy, I had NO symptoms, so I knew something was wrong. Be grateful for every symtom, and trust me in 3 to 4 weeks, they will be gone, then you will feel the baby move and love every minute of it.

Old wives tales have a 50% chance of being true. LOL

D.,
Well, I had hard preganacies with all three. The first I was sicker than a dog. The second two I had preterm
labor. The babies were all good and we did not have feeding issues, and by six to eight weeks they all were sleeping thru the night. So, I guess in a way you could say that is true. I just never thought of it that way.
W. M.

I had a terrible pregnancy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My daughter is so easy! She is almost 3 months old and sleeps through the night...she has since she was 3 weeks old. She is so happy, smiles at everyone, laughs, and NEVER fusses (unless she is hungry). I believe it! My sis in laws had the BEST pregnancies and both babies were VERY fussy...still don't sleep through the night (6 months old) and it is like pulling teeth to get them to smile.

Starting at 9 and a half weeks I threw up every morning at 7:30 & 9:30 like clock work. It was like that every single day including the day I went in for delivery. I also had gestational diabetes. I had to give myself injections in my stomache 3 times a day & poke my finger six times a day to check my sugar levels.

Becca turned out to be the best behaved little girl. She is all smiles and super happy. The only time we have issues is when her allergies are bugging her. Though... she didn't sleep through the night completely until she was two. At 18 months she started slept most of the night, but still woke up at 2 AM. She went back to sleep easily.

My mom was sick her whole pregnancy with me and said that I was a very good baby and slept through the night by 8 weeks.

So it could be true.

Hi D.,

I can't tell you that there is definitely truth. Honestly, it's probably an old wive's tale but on the other I was sick as a dog with four of my children (the two I miscarried did not come with morning sickness)and I never had any colic with them. So maybe it is true. I didn't find anything that helped with the n/v but my friend just told me about a supplement for morning sickness (not that I will ever need it but she thought of me when she read about it) it's called Morning Sickness Magic by Mommy's Bliss. I don't know if it works but it may be worth a try.

Morning sickness is truly awful! I had terrible morning sickness with both pregnancies; the second even worse than the first! That pregnancy turned out to be twins... All I can say is it will get better and soon you won't be sick at all. Just get through one day at a time. you will probably start feeling better in the next few weeks and the rest of your pregnancy will feel much better. As for a "good" baby, I'm guessing you will love your baby no matter what. Babies that fuss aren't "bad". That is also a phase...Some days/nights are good, some not so good.
Hang in there! You won't be sick forever, even if it feels like it.

I had continuous nausea and vomiting in my first two trimesters with my son - no matter what I took for it and lost 30 lbs including baby weight! He was a very demanding baby and he didn't sleep well due to reflux problems. I think it's an old wives tale.
Being very ill and even losing a bunch of weight are common in pregnancy and aren't usually terribly serious medically. I wish someone had told me that (besides the doctor who I thought was just not listening to me) and I hadn't spent so much time worrying. Hold on!

I dunno D.,

I had easy pregnancies with all three, a hard labor with number one. Number one had more sleep problems, my other two slept great. But I changed my tactics with how I put the last two down for sleeping after my first (who I would hold all the time, bounce and rock.) I think that makes a pretty big impact on how babies sleep.

For your nausea and morning sickness take vit B complex and vit K.

I had a hard pregnancy that was considered high risk. i didnt have the nausea and vomitting but several other issues and so far my baby has been pretty good. She sleeps well, she doesnt like to go to sleep so she will fight it but other than that things have been really good. good luck!

I hate to break it to you, but that's just not true. I had nausea and vomiting almost till my 20th week and I was told the same thing! My beautiful little girl was a great baby but never a good sleeper. She is 20 months old and still wakes up during the night. Even though it gets rough being sick all the time (I was nauseated 24/7) it is so worth it! I would do it all over again in a heartbeat! Good luck!

Well, as you've read...not necessarily true. I'm writing to say, "I've been there..." I was nauseated ALL DAY/ALL NIGHT from about week 6-14! I couldn't even throw up to feel better. Just sick all day long....the ONLY thing that sometimes helped was when I was at work distracted by kids (I'm a teacher). As soon as distractions went away nausea was there. ALWAYS. It was so bad that a few times I regretted getting pregnant at all (that was before I was able to hear the heartbeat and feel really connected with my baby)! Hang in there, and hopefully you'll feel better soon. Sincerely,
N. (the mom of a really AWAKE, lively and exciting newborn who is now almost 17 months old!)

People are telling you an untruth. It is you that will make a baby good or bad by making and keeping to a schedule. At 9 weeks you are having a normal pregnancy that often includes the nausea and vomiting. Some people get it bad others like me not at all. It should start to get better in a few more weeks. If you take your vitamins at night switch to morning after eating or to night before bed if you take them in the morning. Try to keep crackers or a little something handy at all times. Your clothes should not be tight as that will cause nausea as well. Good luck with your little blessing.

Dear D.,
It's amazing how many old wive's tales still float around.
I had one uneventful pregnancy (except for morning sickness the first several weeks and heartburn toward the end) and one horrible pregnancy. Both of my children were born healthy, not fussy, great sleepers from the very beginning and great eaters.
I had two different pregnancies with the same outcome.
My mom told me that when she was pregnant, she was told the wive's tale about heartburn meaning that your baby will be born with lots of hair. She had terrible heartburn both times and one kid with a headfull of hair and one bald baby.
When I was pregnant with my daughter, I had a dream that she was born and had six fingers. I told my mother in law about it and she said, "Oh no! You "marked" your baby!" I was like, what? She said, "Now you've done it. You've "marked" your baby". It really upset me.
Thank God for my mom. She said, "Don't listen to that crazy old bat." (Only she said a different word that started with a 'B', if you know what I mean).
Needless to say, my baby was born with the perfect number of fingers and toes and not so much as a mark on her anywhere.
Old wive's tales are just that. Tales. And most of them are older than the hills. I find them kind of intersting and amuzing, but they really don't have any basis in fact and can even be upsetting. Take them with a grain of salt, as the saying goes.
Just take care of yourself. Don't stress too much. I found that when I was having such nausea, it helped to have saltines on hand. I found that nibbling and keeping something in my stomach throughout the day really helped. Make sure you're able to keep enough liquids down. Ginger ale might help your queasy tummy.
Your baby will either be fussy or not, a great sleeper or not. You won't know until it gets here and that's part of the joy of it.

Best of wishes

Morning sickness with my daughter was horrible, and just a little nausea with my son. Must be a family thing because one of my sisters had two girls and was very sick, and the other sister had two boys and was never sick.

I was extremely sick with both of my babies, sick all day, couldn't sleep etc. I had 2 easy deliveries and 2 easy babies. (3 years old and 10 months old) I don't think it is the pregnancy or the delivery that makes a baby easy, I think it is the parent's. If you are relaxed and not uptight and take things as they come your baby will do the same. Just like when the baby is inside of you, he/she can feel your stress, anger etc and reacts to it. Once the baby is born, the same goes. My 10 month old goes through phases of crying, but it is short-lived. All babies fuss, it is your attitude that dictates how you and your baby get through it. There will be difficult times, (you will want to pull your hair out) and times that you can't imagine you've lived without. Cherish both becuase they grow up so fast. You will look back on it when your kids are grown and laugh and say, you can't believe you made it throught it, but it was worth it!! Congratualtions on your pregnancy and good luck

Hey D.,
I hate to be the bearer of bad news but I think that is a wives tale! I have a 2 month old little girl who made me puke my guts up way more than my son did and she has COLIC!!!!!!!!!!!! :) That being said, she is the prettiest sweetest most wonderful little thing in the world and I wouldn't trade all the nausea in the world for that little girl! However, I HAVE heard that nausea means your baby is growing healthy which is WELL WORTH IT! So, good luck with your sweet little miracle and I hope you feel better SOOOON! S.

D.-
my 'hard pregnancy' involved toxemia and some other issues. great baby the majority of the time. just some normal growth issues.
my second pregnancy that had me sick all day, fat, miserable (convinced i was having a boy since no girl would do this to her mother this early) was a girl who at almost 3 does not go to sleep on her own. she is willful and wonderful, but much the same way she was in the womb.
i wish there was a way to tell by your pregnancy how the baby would be. just love the little one when s/he comes.

Of course everyone is different, but i do hope that the nausea and vomiting may indicate a lot of hormonal changes and may be beneficial to the baby somewhat ... in terms of intelligence hopefully ;-) ?!

I had a lot of those during my 2nd pregnancy and my baby was very engaging when she was born!

My sis in law had it really badly during all three of her pregnancies (until 6th month), she said she took it from her mom, so that must be hereditary...

But maybe there's a logic here: the more you take care of yourself (with the n & v- hopefully you are not able to eat junks), the better health for your baby...

Enjoy and eat healthily all food groups; the nausea and vomiting though unpleasant is a small price to pay! congrats and take care!!!

Hi D.,
Unfortunately, this is just another one of those old wives' tales. It would be nice to believe, but it doesn't mean a thing and you get what you get when that baby is born! A "good" baby (whatever that means) usually is the result of good parenting skills and the individual personality of the child....which believe me shows up VERY early! I had hyperemesis with all 4 of my pregnancies all 9 months each time, and all 4 of my girls have their own special personalities and habits. We have been blessed to be able to train them to sleep 10-12 hours through the night by 2 or 2 1/2 months. It takes a little work, but it goes so fast and boy, is it worth it! As this is your first pregnancy, I really encourage you to enjoy this time of your life as much as possible. You will never have a first pregancy again. If your husband/boyfriend/significant other is in the picture, this is a wonderful time for the two of you. Enjoy it to the fullest!

Wasn't true for me. I threw up until he day after my son was born and he didn't sleep thru the night until he was 5.

Here's how I looked at it: like you I has some big fertility issues so it was a pure miracle that I even got pregnant the natural way. We were prepared to do in vitro, adopt , etc. So when I got pregnant and started getting sick, I thought "Is this all I have to do to have a baby?" I knew I could stand it and I knew he would be worth every minute and he is.

I have heard that too. My Ob told me usually if you have a hard pregnancy and/or delivery then the baby is usually easy. So, if your pregnancy and/or delivery were easy hold on to your hat! Pretty much all three won't be bad and all three won't be easy. It seems to hold water amongst my mommy group but who knows!

Nope. No. Naw. Uh un. Nay. .... Nothing predicts the baby's demeanor.

That stage is short lived. You'll be out of it soon.

Stephanie

hadn't heard this one, but sounds silly to me! i had about the world's WORST pregnancy (SEVERE hyperemesis, vomitting about 40xs daily for the ENTIRE pregnancy, along w/other things).......our twins (born preemie) had severe acid reflux for the 1st yr (very painful for them and TONS of screaming!) not to mention both had colic! one never knows! try to focus on what u can do today to take good care of u and baby!

Hi D.,

Don't worry you are not alone. I had nausea/vomiting for 6 months, I couldn't even swallow my own salvia! I did keep hydrated by eating ice and freezing favorite drinks. My 2nd pregnancy wasn't any different, was also nauseous/vomiting for about the same time. However, I did have very healthy babies. First, a boy, weighing 7lbs 9oz and the 2nd a daughter weighing 7lbs and 4oz! Best of luck getting thru the feeling ill part...it does get better! both kids were great sleepers and happy!

There isn't much to the "difficult" pregnancies lead to "easy" babies myth. Genetics and child rearing tactics have more to do with it. Nausea and vomiting are normal at 9 weeks and do not necessarily consitute a "difficult" pregnancy unless you are hospitalized for it (even though it is rather miserable for you). For most, these symptoms abate between 10-14 weeks. For some unlucky people they do not and they experience them throughout their pregnancy. I'm sure you got many tips for the nausea from others but these are a few I can think of 1) take your prenatal vitamin at night before you sleep-hopefully you will sleep through any nausea it may cause 2) worst case - take two Flintstones vitamins a day instead of prenatal - it can be easier on your stomach 3)eat small amounts (even just 3-4 bites) of food frequently all day long instead of meals 4) if a particular food sounds good at the moment -eat it (or at least try!). It may not sound good later. 5)some people say that carbs or fried foods help the nausea (kind of like they do for a hangover).That being said, try to still eat protein - proteins are the building blocks of human life. At any rate, good luck to you. Best wishes for a healthy baby.

Well, I do know I had a wonderful pregnancy and delivery. Couldn't ask for anything better. My son is so stubborn and hard headed.

I have heard of "hard" pregnancy "easy" labor or the opposite. I had a very easy pregnancy and a difficult labor. But my little boy is one of the easy going babies I can't complain!

Hey D.,
Well, I was sick, had severe bladder pain, a cerclage, bedrest for 5 months, pre-eclampsia, gestational diabetes, an emergency c-section, and my blood pressure after delivery was 200/110. My baby was the happiest, most good-natured newborn, and she is still a little ray of sunshine. My sister had two really easy pregnancies, and two really fussy babies. So go figure?
Congratulations to you!

I have never heard of this until just now, so it's probably an old wives' tale, but it's fun to read all the answers! I had what I would consider a hard pregnancy with my son. So sick that I never gained any weight until the last three months when they finally put me on Zofran to take the edge off the nausea, the worst case of puppps my ob has ever seen in her 30 years of practicing and some other skin malady that resembled an auto-immune disease.
I'd like to think my son was a good baby, but some may say otherwise. He has GERD and, while he is a good sleeper, it made him cry and spit up A LOT. He's a happy baby though and that's what I remember the most.
P.S. The mom who gave you all the tips on how to prevent nausea is right! Taking my prenatal at night helped a little and so did eating small meals or eating what sounded good right then. I sometimes ate nothing but peanut butter sandwiches all day long! Don't forget to stay hydrated too. And if you start having an aversion to water (I did) try sports drinks or adding Crystal Lite packets to your water.
Congratulations on your pregnancy and best wishes for a happy, healthy baby!

I don't know if there's any truth to that misnomer. I had morning sickness until the 7th month and had a persistent cough through out the pregnancy and my daughter only slept through the night twice! She's now 5 and has been sleeping well. As for being a good kid - SHE'S THE BEST!!! Smart, funny, kind, animated, talented, you name it, she is it!!! I absolutely lucked out w/ her! So, while she didn't let me rest early on, she sure as heck has put my mind at ease (so far! :P)! Take care & Good Luck!!!

Hi
Congratulations on your pregnancy! I too was really ill and everyone told me that the sicker you are, the less likely you are to miscarry! My baby is a year old today and was not fussy in the least.
If you haven't already, try the following for your tummy:
ginger candy
morning sickness tea
those sea sickness bracelets
Good luck!
N

D.,
I HAD to respond! I have a 5 year old girl and 4 month old boy....both pregnancies were difficult. I threw up every morning my entire pregnancy with both, including day of delivery. My daughter slept great at night starting around 6 weeks, but was a terrible at naps during the day.
My son, well, he still doesn't sleep well at all!!
I always thought my girl was very fussy, now I think she was just tired and needed to eat more often. I am more clued in this time around with my boy, and I feed him and put him down more often for naps.
All I can say for sure, is that every baby is different and if you expect too much, you will be let down. Everyone told me boys were easier. I don't think its true--each little personality is different.
Congrats on the little one on the way, savor every moment you have with them, and accept help when family and friends offer it!
All the best,
G.

pregnancy is hard, parenting is hard, and they are both the most rewarding and magical experiences ever. relax, eat well as you can -- avoid simple carbs and try to get some protein down -- and soon enough you will feel and see the baby grow in you and it will make such a difference. your attitude is the most important factor in having a good baby. so start now practicing to relax, because patience and calm is the key.

I am on my 5th pregnancy and I don't belive that statement is true. However, I have allowed myself to believe it before as I have had some really bad nausea with pregnancy. A new trick I did not know about in the past that works really well. Take Sublingual liquid B complex. You put it under your tounge, let it sit then swallow and with in minutes the nausea subsides for a while. My Dr did say not to use it more than 2x's per day along with the B I am getting in the prenatal. Two times a day to feel better is so helpful if you bad all day long. There is a really good chance that as you enter your 2nd trimester you will start to feel better. This is my first pregnancy that is ture. Yippee!

I think people are being nice. And frankly it's a little scary to set yourself up for the expectation of an easy (I never say good) baby. I had a difficult pregnancy with really bad morning sickness (borderline hypermia) from 5-16 weeks and was still sick for several weeks after that. I also had a VERY high needs baby.

I will say that you will get through this and you will get through the newborn phase and you'll be happy you did. I absolutely adore being a mommy and every single month my daughter is more fun than the month before.

(((hugs))) Hang in there! You can do this!

I too was always sick with my pregnancy. I got sick brushing my teeth, washing my face...haha. After awhile it went away.
I had a terrible labor. Had to end up having a c-section.
My son was a sweet sweet baby. Always slept. Didn't fuss much. An Angel.
And then he turned into a toddler and low and behold he is a demon child .. hahahaha. Still can be as sweet as can be but boy is he one onry kid. lol.

I wish you all the best with your pregnancy.

The sickness is usually a good sign that hormone levels are high and the pregnancy is "taking" but I know no other pattern. (and obviously some folks don't get sick and still have healthy pregnancies.) I was sick a lot with both kids, what helped was eating watermelon or drinking lemonade before getting out of bed or periodically throughout the day.

Don't know if this helps, but I had a difficult time with my first pregnancy (24/7 morning sickness for 6 months) and my son has been a great sleeper since day #1. My second pregnancy was fairly easy throughout, and my daughter is an even better sleeper, if that's possible. They are both easy going and even tempered. Besides their innate personalities, it has helped to respect their sleep needs and tailor our days to their profound need for sleep.

There's no rhyme or reason for a baby's temperament, but work hard to learn their cues from day one and pay attention to how much sleep they truly need. Some babies have reflux or colic and are fussy due to pain. All you can do is be the parent you can and help your baby as much as he/she needs. I suggest reading "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Baby," by Marc Weissbluth MD. I found it invaluable even though I've had easy babies.

GL

dry crackers by your bed-a standard remedy.maybe try eating before you sleep.i never had nausea and ate like a pig-gained 40 lbs and lost it all.success!

D.,

I don't think you can judge the kind of baby you will have by what your pregnancy is like. Your baby will turn out to be whoever they are supposed to be.

Congratulations on your pregnancy!~

Molly

I think that they are just trying to make you feel good =) My first was a very hard pregnancy. Morning sickness for the first six months and then bed rest for a month and a half before Katie was born six weeks early. She was a very fussy baby and didn't sleep very well until she was a year. My second pregnancy was a breaze. No sickness and she went full term. She is the best baby. Never cries and has slept through the night since she was 3 months old (5 months now). Hang in there though. It is all worth it in the end!!!

congrats on the baby! i don't think there is any truth to the rumor. i had an easy pregnancy and an easy baby (except she didn't sleep long). now i'm pregnant with 2nd and everyone tells me this one will be the "bad" one, which i don't believe either. although this has been a tough pregnancy for me so who knows. good luck. i bet you will feel better soon and really enjoy your little bun in the oven.

Nah, I think it's an old wives' tale. My first pregnancy was really hard (sick constantly, huge weight gain toward the end). My daughter didn't sleep through the night for a year (ALTHOUGH - had I been clued in to the miracle of "Baby Wise" at the time, that might have been different - we tried attachment parenting with our first and boy was that a nightmare! But that's a whole other post.) My second pregnancy was super easy and my second daughter was the easiest baby ever. I swear she slept the first 6 months straight. Anyhow, I'm pleased to tell you that now that my girls are both a little older, they are both so fantastic! So no matter how difficult the pregnancy or how difficult the newborn, it is ultimately totally worth it!

Good luck with your pregnancy and hang in there! =)

I have horrible pregnancies. I vomit and am nauseated the entire time. But after I deliver I feel great. It is a little strange to people that I look forward to the delivery. Anyway, my first was born premie and had colic and acid reflux. It was not fun and he definately was not a good sleeper. His had to be my roughest pregnancy. My second was still rough, but she started sleeping through the night at 6 weeks and has continued to be a great sleeper. We will find out what is in store with the third one in two months.

I know that for most people the nausea and vomiting goes away after 12-14 weeks. If you feel you can hang in there to see what will happen with your pregnancy that is wonderful. But if you feel like you aren't going to survive it, don't be afraid to ask the doctor about some medications. There is some really great stuff out there now that we can take. I like taking Zophran over Phergan because it doesn't have a drousy affect. I didn't have it with my first, but it has helped tremendously with number 2 and 3. Also for some reason lemonade and lemon drops helped keep the nausea at bay. Also eating little bits every hour helped too. I hope you feel better soon and don't have to suffer through it for the entire pregnancy.

Good luck.

HA! I wish that were true - I was sicker than a dog from week 7 ON - the entire pregnancy - had to be on IV's for dehydration, meds to keep the vomiting at bay - I was miserable the entire time. I can't say I have a "difficult" child, but he seriously did not sleep until he was 15 mths old - so that part was very challenging! I'm now preggers with #2 & it's been a completely different experience - still on meds for the vomiting, but I'm much more comfortable & just feel so much different with this one. I'm not anticipating anything except what God deems this child will be like.

That's the adventure from the moment you find out you're expecting - you have no idea what you're gonna get! Good luck & just have an open heart that's willing to love your child no matter WHO they are from Day 1. :>

I've never heard that, but it sounds like an old wives' tale to me. I had a very easy pregnancy and now I have a very easy baby who sleeps well at night (not so much for naps). I'm not trying to make you feel bad, I just don't think there's any "pregnancy formula" for figuring out what "type" of baby you're going to end up with.

I do hope your nausea clears up and you feel better soon! I didn't have it nearly as bad as you, but it was gone by week 11, so maybe yours will be gone any day now! Hang in there & know that you're going through all this now and it's tough, but it's the beginning of the most amazing journey you can ever imagine. Good luck!

More important is that the pregnancy is probably strong since your symptoms are strong.

I had two pregnancies with very bad :all day" sickness; I don't think it affects the babies personality or sleep patterns but there are benefits.... The nausea is caused by excessive hormones in your system. These are the same hormones responsible for safe and easier labor and for healthy babies. The theory is that the extreme cases of nausea usually have less health issues for the baby developing and a more "textbook" labor. Both of my kids were healthy and labor was pretty easy. I was given so many suggestions for my nausea and I found only 2 things that worked. If you can get food down and keep it down it makes you feel better , but the trick is getting it down and keeping it down. I eat really healthy food and never sodas , but during pregnancy I found if I drank a little but of Coca-Cola with my meal I could eat easier. Also, if I ate while in a hot bath (I know it sounds strange) but if my husband would cook and I didn't have to smell it and he brought me a plate in the bath I could eat every bite and felt good afterwards. Of course this isn't always practical but when I really needed it. Also, protein packed smoothies are usually easy to get down. Once they were down I could usually eat something else afterwards. Good luck!! It will pass and its definately worth it!!!