She needs, feedback.
That is a how a young toddler, with limited understanding of complex emotions, does it.
They need feedback and validation.
It is normal.
This 'irritating' phase, is actually teaching them something: ie: how to have 'conversations', how to ask questions, how to speak up for what they need, how to fathom emotions, how to bond with their Mom, how to socialize, how to figure things out, how to ask for help, how to interact etc.
Repeating, is how kids learn. It is through 'repetition' that they learn and practice it.
Like learning how to ride a bike.
Except, communication and emotions are a lot more complex and takes a lot longer, to master.
Some adults have not even mastered communications or their feelings. For example.
By the time the child starts to 'yell' their statements/questions/wonderings... they are already, fed up.
They have no more patience, for the parent. Either.
They have tried. And gotten no response. So then they yell. It is an act of last resorts.
Its okay.
She is verbal.
That is good.
Many girls are.
Mine included.
Its okay.
What you need to do is: Teach her about feelings and the names for it. Or how to say anything, in order to express herself... more articulately as she gets older.
Teach her, that you are there for her. A parent has to actually SAY this, "I am here for you...." to the child so they u.d.e.r.S.t.a.n.d
Then show her how you are there for her.
Just like an adult, would need that, too.
Confirmation of it. That you are there for her.
It is a phase.
But a NEEDED phase.
It also reflects: a Toddlers fledgling and unknowing 'skills' at rudimentary communication and expression of feelings.
This is GOOD.
If you clip their wings about it... then you will have a child that will NOT tell you anything. And will turn inward. Because they will 'learn' that their parent is not listening or there for them, nor confirming, them. It is also a reflection of their changing 'cognition' and imaginations.
Which is GOOD.
She is fine.
She is normal.
She is developing... in the right direction.
That is good.
Envelope her for this, with your heart and arms.
So that she has and DEVELOPS: a sense of self, self-assuredness, and confidence. And knowing who she is.
This is how, a Toddler, gains these abilities.
Or not.
Nurture her.
She is at an age, in which she needs these things. It is an intrinsic developmental phase.
2 year olds, ARE attached to their Moms. This is normal.
They need to be close to their Mom.
"Bonding" also affects their brain development too.
An older child, in a sense needs more time with Mommy.
And, they do not suddenly become perfect or more 'grown-up' just because they are now the oldest. They are their same age. Not older. Just because a baby is around.
all the best,
S.