My 15 month old daughter won't wear a hair bow and never would. She pulls it out as soon as I put it in, looks at it, and then tosses it on the floor. I distract her with a toy or a treat, stick it in, but she notices it within a minute (smart little cookie) and yanks it out.
Any suggestions?
Ok! I did put a tiny little bow in her hair, on the top of her head, toward her left hand side, last night and it stayed in for an hour! Success!
My DD never did, either, but she did learn to accept pony tail holders and I just add cute barrettes near the pony tails/pig tails.
Maybe try giving it a break and trying again on occasion. My 19 month old, poses the same problem and trying it on occasion and not forcing it has gotten me a few pictures and moments of cuteness. But I agree with the others don't force it. Maybe pick a few bows and give her the choice of which one to wear and even if it doesn't match it is a start.
Yes. Stop putting it in her hair.
My daughter was the same. She still isn't a fan of dressing up in girly girl clothes or "doing" her hair. She has long beautiful blond hair and wears it pulled back in a simple ponytail, every day. She is almost 10 yrs.
When she was little, nothing stayed in her hair or on her head. No cutesy hats or bonnets for her!
It wasn't until she was 4, going into Prek that I was able to REASON with her to leave one barrette in her hair WHILE she was at school--to keep her hair out of her eyes while she was writing/coloring and working at her desk/seat. As soon as she was in the pickup line outside the building at 11:45 a.m... that little barrette was pulled out of her hair. I'd find them by the hand full in the floorboard of the car.
Just let it go. She doesn't care for it and it is her head/hair. She will have more opinions about herself as she gets bigger and bigger. Prepare yourself mom. :)
If you keep forcing it, she will NEVER wear them. Leave it alone for 3-6 months. Then let her pick out some for herself. Don't make it too big a deal. The more you want it, then the less she will. Odds are she will be a 2 year old walking around with 5 mismatched bows on her head. Until she is 4 and won't let you touch her hair again. Get used to this.
- from a mommy of 3 and 7 year old girls
yeah, stop putting them in her hair. if she does not like them then leave it alone. I know they are cute and all but are they really needed? And who is the hairbow for you wanting her to look cute or her needing her hair out of her face? I went thru a simmilar thing with hats and boys.
Sorry Mom, you're going to have to let her have her way on this one. Some girls will and some girls won't.
I found the small rubber bands helped because my girls couldn't pull those out as easily. When I put a bow in their hair, I would secure it with those small rubber bands and sometimes that would prevent them from tugging it out. For example, I'd put a little pony tail in their hair, secure it with the small rubber band, and wrap the rubber band around the bow clip so that she can't easily pull the thing out. It worked sometimes.
But mostly, if she doesn't want them in her hair, it's a losing battle! Try again in a couple months.
Sadly, you're probably just going to have to stop trying. I get that you want it in b/c it does look super cute, but she's not going to wear it so why fight the fight? Maybe someday she'll come around, but until then save yourself the heartbreak.
Ahhh I know this heartbreak well. I was so excited about my daughter wearing bows and headbands. All she did was rip them out...constantly. If she wore it for five minutes, I considered it a win. If I put her hair up, she ripped it out. I just stopped trying. Every once in a blue moon, I gave it a shot. FInally when she was about 2, she stopped ripping them out so quickly. Her Dora doll has pigtails and she would wear "Dora hair" for longer periods. Now that she is 2 and a half, she brings the bows and headbands to me and will wear them all day.
I just put them in my daughters hair until she takes them out, i try and show her in the mirror and say "see pretty", and I wear headbands alot too, so she sees them on me.
Now only a few months from 15mos old at 20mos, she will wear them when SHE wants to and only then. She almost always asks for them when getting dressed and sometimes she will leave them in, sometimes she doesn't. My daughter doesn't have very much hair yet so I used head bands a lot and she likes those ok and will wear them for a long time.... I don't like her to look like a boy with no hair so i try too. Just keep trying but don't be pushy about it. it is like veggies, she will eventually try them if you keep giving them to her, but if don't ever try again then she will probably never eat/wear them.
I have found that my 17 month-old wears hair clips a lot longer if I put them quickly on top of her head rather than on the side. Maybe she forgets about them up there, because when she touches her hair, it's mostly the side since their arms are so short at this age. She eventually finds it, but it's lasted almost four hours on top!
No suggestions, but I can empathize. I have two girls and neither one of them, at ANY age, ever liked anything in their hair (other than pony tails and braids when they got older.)
Her hair, her choice-no bows.
LOL. Oh the memories of fighting my daughter daily to just put a bow in! She looked like a boy as a baby so it was key to have a bow in, but she HATED it and would pull then out immediately. I gave up!
With my oldest she would tear them out as well, but I tried again when her hair got long enough for a pony tail and ever since then she has left them alone...I have a 10 month old that absolutely will not wear them so I'm just going to wait with her. I will tell you they sell these tiny clips that work well and I used those with the oldest when her hair was an odd length and she kept those in...I think as long as they can't feel it they will keep it in! Good luck and just know I feel your pain!!
Don't make her wear a bow. It's not worth the trouble. When she's older, she will probably love them.
