Go Ahead, or Stay Put

Updated on January 12, 2008
B.H. asks from Fort Worth, TX
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I have a very intelligent 7 year old daughter. When she was in Pre K at age 4, the teacher told me she already knew everything they were doing and started sending her to the Kindergaten class everyday. Then at the end of that school year the Kidergarten teacher had her tested for 1st grade and she passed with flying colors so she went from Pre K to 1st grade. She's now in 2nd and her teacher (as well as the 1st grade teacher last year) suggested that I put her in magnet. I definitely want to give her the best advantage possible, but I'm also afraid of putting too much pressure on her being so young. She's already ahead, but is still advanced. What should I do? The district is having an Academic Fair this Saturday to display the schools and options available to us, but I don't know if I'm being a pushy parent, or if I'm doing the right thing by advancing her. Please help. Any advice is good advice.

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So What Happened?

I went ahead and enrolled my daughter in the Special Interest Program (SIP) at Morningside Elementary where the main focus is Math & Science. SIP is what used to be called "magnet." This has been the greatest school year for her yet! Not only has she been identified as "GT" Gifted & Talented, she's also one of the top students in her class, has been in the spelling bee, a math competition (based on math benchmark scores), and received Commended performance level on her TAKS reading test! It's amazing because I keep forgetting she is age wise a year behind her classmates, but you would NEVER know judging by her grades and work ethic. She has made a new "BFF" that is in her class, and she loves the garden that the school has that the children get to plant and do lessons from often! I'm glad I went ahead and advanced her after all. Thank all of you for your words of wisdom!!!

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J.J.

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I think you should ask her opinion. If she has friends she doesn't want to leave behind, then perhaps leave her where she is. Social pressures are often more difficult than academic ones. However, if she wants the challenge then by all means move her. If she is more mature than kids her age, she will probably have an easier time making friends with slightly older kids anyhow. I had the chance to skip 4th grade and my parents didn't take it. I always wished I could have done it. Granted, she is younger, but a child still has opinions that should be considered.

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C.S.

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Your biggest challenge will be to keep her stimulated. By all means, help her find her path and be all that she can be. Trust that you will get strong signals if she is getting too much of it.
C. S.

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N.

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If it were me, I would give my child every advantage that is available to her. Most public schools do not cater to gifted children so they often get bored and can even do badly in school because they are not challenged. I would let my daughter continue to advance as long as she is excelling. If she starts to exhibit signs of pressure, that's when I would back off. There's a fine line between being challenged and being stressed but my guess is you will know it when you see it. Good luck!

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C.S.

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I agree with Joanna. At her age, social interaction is very important too and if she is ok with moving up, go for it. I know it's a hard choice. Good Luck!

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D.B.

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At 7 years old, esp. if she is advanced, I think you should ask her for her input. She can tell you if she's getting bored or if she wants to learn more! :-)

Definitely go to the Academic Fair with her so she can see what she might be headed for, and so you can gauge her reactions. If you decide to go ahead with the magnet school, it's not like you can't have her go back to her old school if it ends up not being a right fit.

Good luck!

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C.W.

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I homeschool, so that is where I am coming from, but I say let ehr work at her own pace and if they can do that in a magnet school but she will still be around kids younger, her own age and older then herself then go for it.
If she will only be with onlder kids I would say, no way. The social pressures are too great not to mention the things she might learn you would rather her not at her age.

Have you thought about bringing her home, they you could taylor her school, for just what she needed? Just a thought.

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