Girls Night Out - Dallas,TX

While I enjoy (rarely) going out dancing with my girlfriends, it sounds like you were looking for something different, and chance to catch up and talk, which probably won't happen in a club with loud music.
I suppose you could always go, and see how it goes, you may have some fun. The kind of women I hang out with have NO interest in picking up men so that is never an issue, and nobody gets drunk. Still, I always drive myself, and no one else, that way if I'm ready to go I can GO :-)

Go! Have fun!

If after an hour you are still not feeling it And wishing you were home in your jammies, say your goodbyes and scram.

But you never know, you may enjoy it, or you and one or two similarly-minded friends may find your way to a quiet patio to catch up and it will be worth it.

Why don't you suggest a dinner out before the club? You could decide if you connect with any of the ladies that you don't know and you could decide if you want to go out to the club after dinner. Drive yourself so you can leave at any time...I wouldn't totally give up yet on the evening, but I agree that clubbing just isn't my thing anymore either.

I would go anyway and next month plan an intimate dinner. I wouldn't get mad, ladies were just excited and then it spread and became something many wont really want once they get there.

I'd not go. This isn't what you had planned. You're wanting to make a connection with those particular friends and doing so will be difficult at a loud club with dancing. Their attention will be spread amongst everyone. I'd just say, "I'm sorry but I'm not up to going to a loud club." Let them know you'd like to get together when it's just the 3 or 4 of you. Let's plan for another time.

Eh, clubs and late nights are not really my thing. Dinner and talking and getting home at a decent hour is. I'd probably make an excuse for not going, honestly. I don't really like outings with large groups, where I don't know 1/2 the people. Kind of defeats the purpose of getting together with and catching up with your friends.

That's not the type of GNO that I would enjoy. But, you did say that you're not opposed to the club and dancing, so perhaps go this time, but make sure the next one is the quiet evening you'd hoped for, or let them know you won't be able to attend.

If it was me? I just wouldn't go and when asked, i would politly tell them why - club is just not my thing anymore, I would want to spend some good quality time with my close girls catching up and having some great conversations over dinner and some wine.

Plan a dinner first, everyone has to eat right? Then see how you feel and decide if you want to head home or continue the evening.

I love live music, concerts, nice bars and lounges with friends but a nightclub with DJ and packed in crowd not so much. To me that's a place for young, single people. If that's where the rest of the group chooses to go you may find the group itself is not people you want to spend the rest of the evening with. Sorry your plans got changed!

If I were in your situation, feeling like you are? I'd send regrets. You won't really get to be with them anyway - they've invited friends and the total dynamics will be different.

Can you invite who you want next month to YOUR house? Ask your husband to take the kids out and bring them back at bedtime and put them to bed. I used to host Bunco in my house and my husband did that and took the boys straight upstairs and to bed. It was good for my boys to see that not only did they have playdates - so did their mom.

Dawn

maybe tomorrow you'll feel different about going out for now have a good nights sleep and what you feel tomorrow go with that

It sounds like fun-and you may be around a couple of gals who don't often get out and may need to be around...friends.

I definitely wouldn't go. Enjoy your evening another way. :)

You have really answered your own question......DON'T GO. The next get together, explain to your close friends that you feel more comfortable with just the few of you.

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You have really answered your own question......DON'T GO. The next get together, explain to your close friends that you feel more comfortable with just the few of you.

I hate it when people change the plans on me, so I understand the internal mess you're dealing with.

Go take a hot bath and try to adjust your attitude and expectations. That is what I do. More often than not, I'm able to switch gears and have a good time.