K.H.
I catching up on reading old emails. Your daughter is fortunate to be in the GT program. My sons have been thrilled with the program which provided challenges and peers who have similar interests. Of course, the program is only as good as the school and the teacher but we have been very lucky. Imaginative children are a gift to the program, as well as to you, for children are given many projects and opportunities to express themselves creatively. It's not that the work is so hard but that teachers don't have to teach repetitively and have time to extend the curriculum.
My kids benefitted socially too. In fact, that is probably my favorite thing about the program. My oldest was teased for the books he was reading in his base school. On the first day, he jumped off the bus so thrilled that the other kids had asked him about his book and that they were reading some of the same things. And, he is kind of competitive about everything he tries and he was thrilled to be great at sports with his new friends. My sons' friends have been lots of fun - they are very interesting young people.
I've seen girls flourish too. They don't fall victim to the playing dumb problem as they hit puberty. The kids learn to respect each others quirks and gifts. And the boys and girls seem to stay friends throughout and learn to work well together on projects.
As for failure, it is tough when you expect kids to earn all high grades and then they don't. I've gotten a lot better at letting my younger son take responsibility for his work. He doesn't get perfect grades but he is proud of his hard work. The teachers have a no nonsense, no excuses policy at his school. He forgets things but is learning to take responsiblity for himself. That is a great thing. I was still chasing after his older brother when he was in high school. And ironically, grades were higher in the GT classes than in high school where the material was not as difficult but was boring. So a little failure early on can be a great learning experience. Good luck.