Getting Rid of the "Binki"

I tried the cutting the tip off, it seemed so logical. Yeah didn't work so I threw them all in the trash, they adapted. :)

Sorry I think you should leave it be. 19 months is not so super old. When he is old enough to have a conversation with about it, if he still uses it, like 2 1/2 or something, try a "binki" fairy coming like a tooth fairy and give him a big boy present.

My girls used theirs till one was 2 1/2 and the other 3 1/2! Because they're 14 months apart, it was easier to get rid of it together. No issues at all in doing so. They are smart, healthy and very well spoken (way above other kids their ages) and have never had teeth problems. They go to the dentist every 6 months and there's no issue. They also used theirs only for naps and sleep.

I totally agree with Patty on this one. Even if it's not the popular view.

I will get flamed but if he loves it and only has it to sleep, I do not see a
problem. Would you want someone taking away your first cup of coffee
in the morning? To me it just is not that important; I would let him keep it. OK everyone let me have it! LOL.

Does he have a "lovey?"
If not, get one that he will like.

my daughter was like that and she was around that age when we got rid of it, she had the soothie binkies and those suckers ROLL and one time it got thrown out of her crib and that was that i was DONE with those suckers and i had to search the house to make sure i got them ALL because she hid them and it was a little rough the first couple nights but after that it was fine

We gathered them up and wrapped them in a christmas package and left them for Santa with his cookies. He was bringing them to children that didn't have binkies. She picked the box, the paper and wrapped them. We talked about it first of course. I was shocked that they all went in and the package went in the trash and she NEVER asked again. If she did I said Santa took them for the other children and she was ok with this. Maybe it will work for you too. Christmas is coming up and now's a good time to start talking about it. My daughter was about 2 as well.

I always went cold turkey once my kids understood the concept of all gone. I'd take all the binkis and throw them in the bottom of the garbage (no going back). Then when they'd ask for 1 I'd say 'well where did you leave it?' and we'd look everywhere. The answer was I guess it's all gone. Fussy for a few days but no major trauma.

To borrow a phrase, "Just Do It!"

My guy was 13 months and I had taken bottles away that morning, per his pediatrician. Between nap and bedtime his "suckie" disappeared, so he had to go to sleep without it, and no bottle :(( And he had loved it for naps and bedtime. He fussed, didn't cry much, but took a long time to go to sleep that night. I stayed with him, rubbed his back as he tossed and turned, and told him it was gone every time he asked for it.

Next day he asked for it at nap time and I told him it was gone, and he looked sad but went to sleep. I found it before bedtime but threw it away, I wasn't going to offer it back and have to re-do this, it would have been so unfair to him. He asked that night, "Sorry, it's gone," and went to sleep. The third night he didn't ask for it and we were done, woo hoo! He did get a wistful look for a month or so when he would see someone with one, but I'd distract him and tell him what a big boy he was now and he didn't dwell on it.

Your son is older so it may take a little longer, a week or even two, but it's doable. Another option is to cut off the tip so he doesn't get the same feeling from sucking on it, and may give it up himself, I've known little ones who did. However you do it make sure he has a "lovie" to cuddle and snuggle, a stuffed animal or special blanket, and that you give him the extra loving he'll need to ride it out.

He growing up, Mom!

I kept the binky for naps only until my son was ready to drop the nap. This was the only way to get him to calm down and sleep during the day (from birth to about 3.5 y/o) and I was pulling the binky out of his mouth as soon as he was asleep. So, the total binky exposure was less than 10 min a day! He was born preemy and was always small for his age, he just now at 4.5 about caught up with his peers size wise. The naps and his rest were more important issues for me. I figured, since he inherited his grandfather's jaw - we will be paying for an orthodontist anyway :) They tell you it is bad for the teeth, but hey, my older son never had a binky and we've been paying for braces for 4 years now! Go figure.
When my baby was staying up late and in general it was hard for him to settle down for naps at about 3.5 - we had a "going away party for binky", we bought it a cake my son chose, we put it in the box, kissed it goodby and dropped it in a mail box so it can go to a newborn baby who needs it now. First night after that he cried, I was very sympathetic, hugging him and telling him how sorry I am that binky had to go to a new baby. Next night he mentioned it again but was much less upset. And then - there was no going back.
Funny thing, some months after that he found a spare binky that I hid in my drawer. His face lit up, he put it in his mouth, chewed a little, then took it out, said "I do not like it anymore, Can we have a party for this binky too?".

Make sure he doesn't need to suck anymore. It he does then taking away the binky will only make him find something else to suck, a finger, a blanket, anything he can find. It will be super detrimental to his jawbone and teeth if he starts sucking on these kinds of things.

I don't think he's that old to still have one. We weened my daughter the same way you have by only giving it at nap and bedtime. Then, when she was 2 1/2 we decided to go cold turkey. We took her to Build A Bear and let her pick out a bear and we placed the binky inside it (you can feel it in it's tummy still). Make sure they tighten the strings really well so he can't get into it. The first 2 nights were a little rough. She threw him around the room and cried a bit, but we thought it would be much worse. Once she realized it wasn't ever coming back, she just snuggled the bear and used him as her comfort. Don't give in once you have the bear and make sure all binkies are out of the house. Good luck!

I would let him have it if it comforts him.

I did it cold turkey with my son and it was shocked at how well he took it. I just told him it broke and I'm not buying a new one BUT he was 2 1/2 years old. He asked for it a few times, but it wasn't a big deal like I thought it would be, if I would ahve known I would have done it a lot sooner!

Ask him when he wants it to go 'bye bye' and there is a reason I say that. When my daughter was about 2 we teased her about letting the binki go, she always said "I'm gonna throw it away" but never would go through with it. True story, we were sitting at a red light one Sunday afternoon, windows rolled down. We were talking about the binki and she said she was gonna throw it out the window. I said go ahead but it will be gone forever. She tossed it out, the light turned green and the binki was gone forever......

My oldest I cut the tip of the binki off and he seemed to suck on a few times but didn't like it after that. Plus and nap time he had his blanket to sleep with. I believe he was 2 when I took the binki away. My 2nd son, we actually lost the binki because he is a thrower and the threw the binki and we couldn't find it. It was rough that night but he too had his blanket for comfort. He was 1 1/2 years old when this happened. You might talk to the dentist and see what his recommendations are. I took both my boys early to the dentist and they weren't too concerened until the were 2 and then start taking away. Good luck too you.

my son, though younger is driving me nuts with his! We only let him have itat bed time and in the car, which I am fine with, but the problem with him is after we went on vacatio a few weeks ago he was waking up a bunch in the night, he is now too and wants his binkie back everytime he does! He throws it out of the crib sometimes when he is extra mad, or it just falls out most of the time...I'm getting tired of finding it for him at night. I was trying to protect the neighbors becuase the walls here are super thin! THey sleep in the room next to his. But I am too the point that the neighbors are jsut goignt o have to suffer a few nights! This binkie thing is driving me nuts!! Anyway good luck!

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We had to get rid of binkis 3 different ways. With our oldest son we just started loosing them. With the twins... our boy we cut a slit in the bottom of it and because it wouldn't work anymore he just started throwing them away. With our daugther it didn't matter that it was cut so we had to start cutting the tips off too finally she got rid of them.

We cut back with our son who liked it past 1. We gave it to him only in the car and when sleeping, then only sleeping, then only at night, then we took it away at night. It was about a week long process. Cold turkey seems to work well, or also giving them to the binki fairy works :).

I pulled my son's binki at 9 months old to avoid any attachment issues. I always say that when the bottle goes, so does the binki. He had feeding issues, so he did have the bottle longer. I'd say just take it. I like the Mama's advice about teaching him to self soothe with something else such as a blankie. A blankie may be a hassle to some, but it's not going to potentially hinder speech or cause teeth to come in wrong. (coming from someone who wore braces for 3 years to fix what my thumb sucking did). I think you should do the tip cut off thing or just take them, but I'm glad to hear that you are thinking of taking it. I hate when I see an older child with a binki in their mouth. Good luck!!!

cut the tip off (very small amount) so that it still has suction but something's a little "off". he'll suck on it, look a little confused, and then keep sucking. 2-3 days later, cut a little more off. keep repeating until it's down to a nub. i tried this and i didn't even have to get to the nub part. by the 2nd snip, my son was done with it. problem is he couldn't sleep well without it. it took 5x as long for me to put him to sleep without it and he started waking up in the middle of the night with no ability to soothe himself back to sleep. i guess thats where sleep training is supp to come into play but i found it easier to just give him back the binky. i actually had to beg him to use it b/c he seriously was not interested anymore. now he's sleeping through the night again and can fall asleep within minutes (with the binky). i think i'll try again when he's older :)