Getting My Son Out of My Bed

If he wont listen and you want it to happen... when he goes to sleep pick him up and take him to his bed. When he comes back do it again,etc...He will be sick of doing it after a while.
Good Luck!

You may start by putting a toddler bed next to yours or at least in the same room (this worked for a friend). My son wouldn't even get in his toddler bed, but now I pat his back for five minutes until he goes to sleep.

My son is 4 yrs old and he had been in my bed since he was a newborn. To get him out of my bed, we went shopping to the bed section of walmart and i let him pick out his own set of sheets of anything he wanted. He was so excited about it that he couldn't wait until he got home to put his new sheets that had cars on it on his new bed. Since that day he has been sleeping in his bed but i also will make sure he gets a story and a kiss and hug before he goes to sleep. If you make a habit of reading a story and then giving a kiss and hug and give him a stuff animal and telling him that animal will be there to comfort him anytime. It usually works. Give it a shot and see how it goes.
J. T.

All the advice you've gotten so far is very loving and kind. If you've been working with him for a while and he's just not cooperating then I would be a little stricter. This might become a defiance problem rather than a habit problem since he is older and able to follow rules. It's o.k. if he gets mad with you and it's o.k. if he crys about it. Kids can be persistant so mom's have to be more so. You're not being cruel and your not throwing him out of bed. You're doing him a huge favor in moving him towards his independance. Stick to your guns and he'll thank you for it later.

E.

My daughter just turned 3 and slept with me from birth. It was horrible to get her into her own bed but what I did was bought her a new toddler bed of her choice (Dora) and I put it beside my bed. That worked fine! Then about 2 weeks later I moved the bed against the wall, it stayed there for awhile and then I moved it into her room. She hated it and had trouble dozing off alone so I put a TV and VCR in there so she could watch a movie til she fell asleep. It worked wonders! Now I just take her to bed and we say our prayers and give hugs and I leave, it took a lil time but she no longer comes for midnight visits either...and when she would I would just walk her back to bed. I think by the time a child is 5 they should understand enough to stay in bed when told to. Develop a bedtime routine and stick to it is my best advice...good luck

I went through the same thing. Except I am a single mom. The dr. kept telling me not to worry about it since it was just him and I. I didn't agree with that. My son needed to get out of my bed! He had night terrors so that is how all over our overnighters started. He is over them for the most part. I read something in a parenting magazine years ago. It works! Talk to your son about the nap fairy. Everytime my son stays in his bed all night then he gets a surprise under his pillow. It can be something small like stickers, Hershey kisses, or anything. In the beginning I would leave anything that was under a dollar. Well this has gone on for years. He is 8 now. I told him soon that the nap fairy will stop coming because he has been staying in his bed and he is getting to big now. He still believes very highly in the nap fairy! It works miracles!!!!

Ok, both of my girls were sleeping in my bed until the oldest was 6. This worked for me. To start off I would lay down in their beds with them, until they went to sleep. Then gradually I started to leave right before they dozed off. Then I began reading them a book or two till they got nice and sleepy. Finally I was able to just kiss them goodnight and leave them in their bed. Then they got sneaky and would get in my bed while I was sleeping, so I had to put them back in their beds for a while but eventually they got the idea. Now, it is a slow gradual process. You have to remember that he has spent the past 5 years nurturing this habit (that is all it is, a habit). You will have to spend some time breaking the habit. Just try and remember to give him extra love all day long.

If you ever get the chance to watch "THE NANNY" on Monday nights, you should do so. Lots of helpful things come out of that. This has been addressed on that show before and it basically requires the parents to be strong and consistent. The older the child, the longer it takes to break and start a new habit. So, here's what I remember...
Pick a day on the calendar with your spouse regarding when you will start the new routine and then on that day, set the ground rules for your son earlier in the day (that he is too old to sleep with mommy and daddy, he has to sleep in his bed, etc..)
Establish a bedtime routine that your son has some input on, that ends with him crawling into his bed. Once he is in bed, you can read him a short story, say prayers with him or whatever it means to "tuck him in" to your family. Kiss him goodnight and leave the room. When he starts resisting and getting out of his bed, be strong and consistently put him back in his bed/room. The nanny discourages any talking during the tantrums that will ensue. The talking has already been done, don't say a word and just keep putting him back in his room/bed. This could go on all night depedning on his persistence and ability to test, so you might want to pick a weekend to begin the process. At 5 it could take up to 7 days for him to "get it" and realize he is sleeping in his own bed. Or it could take as little as 3 or4. In addition to this, I've heard other parents say they have an "off-limits" rule regarding their bed for the children. And if the kids genuinely wake up scared in the night, they are allowed to bring blankets in the parents' room and sleep on their floor, but they cannot crawl into bed with the parents.
Good luck!

Suggest to him to do a "camp out" in your room. Have him lay on the floor right next your side with his pillow and sleeping bag and just play pretend that you all are camping out together. I do this with my 5 year old daughter and it works great! Good luck!!

we have 3 year old son when he was 2 we broke him from sleeping with us he slept with us since he was infant we just let him cry it out one night we only had one bad night good luck