Getting Baby to Bed Earlier

Updated on December 29, 2009
L.F. asks from Saint Paul, MN
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My daughter is almost 3 mos. old. We are still having a hard time getting her to sleep at night instead of during the day. We typically cannot get her down for the night until between midnight and 2 AM. If I get her down any earlier than that, she only sleeps for about 30 - 60 minutes and then she's back up and wide awake. She just doesn't seem sleepy until after midnight, and it's often quite a bit later. She's usually happy, just not sleepy. If I try to put her in her crib awake, she plays in there for a while until she gets bored. Then, she starts screaming. I've tried letting her cry for a while, but it's not that tired cry that they do and then cry themselves to sleep. It's a totally awake, angry cry. I can't let her cry to long/hard for fear that she'll throw up. (See below about her MCAD, for why I can't let her throw up.) I also have a 3 year old, so I can't just change my sleep patterns to match the baby's. Also, I'll be going back to work in a month. I don't know how I'm going to function!

I'm not sure if this has anything to do with her day vs. night problem, but I'll give you some more background just in case. My daughter has a rare metabolic disorder called "MCAD." She absolutely MUST eat every 3 to 4 hours. If she goes too long without eating, she could have seizures, go into a coma, or even die. So, once she does go to sleep at night, I have to wake her to feed her. Here's an example of a typical night: I feed her at 10 pm. She's wide awake and doesn't fall asleep until midnight. I then have to wake her between 1 and 2 AM. I feed her and she's goes back to sleep easily. I then have to wake her again around 5 AM. Etc. Etc. She is then typically very sleepy until late morning until she wakes up for the day.

Does anyone have any ideas on how I can shift her nightime to a more reasonable hour? I am so exhausted. I don't know how much longer I can do this. It really scares me that I might get so tired that I accidentally turn off the alarm some time and not get up to feed her during the night. If I had the time or energy, I'd read some baby sleep books, but . . .

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K.D.

answers from Madison on

My oldest daughter has a metabolic disorder called SCAD, which is similar to MCAD. Has the pediatrician suggested cornstarch to help keep her blood glucose up? Is she on Carnitine supplements? Even if she could go longer without eating, you prob would not sleep since you would be worrying about her! It will get better, my daughter is now a healthy 16 yr old. I would try to find some support groups of parents that are going through similar challenges, good luck and blessings!

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S.O.

answers from Lincoln on

So sorry to hear about your daughter's disorder and your lack of sleep. Honestly I don't think I slept like a "normal" person until my little one was about 10 months old.

Shot in the dark, but try to get in contact with a support group to see what they did with their infants? There's a link in the below site that has one.

http://www.savebabies.org/library/FamilyHandout-AnnasStor...

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M.N.

answers from Eau Claire on

"Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" is a must read. You can get it on Amazon for a good deal and read a little about it. My son is a little over 2 and has been a great sleeper since he was 2 months old. I attribute my success to this book and consistency. Best of luck!

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C.D.

answers from Omaha on

This is a hard one. I had a similiar situation with my oldest son but not because of a medical issue just because it didn't want to sleep at night. I finally ended up keeping him awake during the day so that he was tired enough to get a few hours of sleep at night. I wouldn't irritate him enough to make him cry but he would be a bit fussy and then I would let him sleep for an hour or so periodically during the day. It didn't take long for him to develop a good night time routine. He never did sleep all night long until he was over 1 year of age. I understand that you want to get sleep whenever your little one sleeps but a few days of adjusting her sleep pattern will make everybody much happier and you with alot more energy to deal with being up every 3 hours. I did some reading about your daughters condition and I pray that everything goes well for you. Do you have a partner that would be willing to take a middle of the night feeding so that you can get some sleep?

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C.F.

answers from Rochester on

Wow, what a bummer! It's understandable that you're exhausted. I would suggest picking whatever time you think is a reasonable time for her to be awake(maybe by 8 AM?) and start adjusting her schedule by keeping her up. Do whatever it takes to keep that baby up. Keep tapping her, singing upbeat songs, have your other daughter play with her, whatever it takes to keep her awake! If you can try to get her to wake up a little earlier in the morning every morning for several mornings in a row, you should be able to start bumping things back so she's going to sleep by 10 at night. Maybe adjust by 20 minute increments every day? And feed her 20 minutes earlier, etc. Hopefully that will get her on a good schedule within about a week or so. Good luck!

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J.Y.

answers from Scranton on

How much is she sleeping during the day? Everyone needs only so much sleep, so if she is getting all she needs during the day it can cause her to stay up later, we had to adjust my son's napping when he went through this. I also recommend starting a routine that is very calming, bath wih nighime bath soap, snuggling and book reading, massage, etc that prepares her for bedtime and start this routine a little earlier every few days so that her body can adjust to the later bedtime.

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