Funny Questions for SAHM...

Updated on April 01, 2010
S.V. asks from Plano, TX
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How many of you SAHM actually wake up before your child(ren) do and get ready for the day? I'll be honest. I most defeinitely do not! My wake up call is my boy letting me know he is up. He is still young enough that I can leave him in his room and go get ready real quick if I needed to. I have a friend who's kiddos wake up at 630 -7am and she is up by 5-530 am to be ready by the time her kids are awake. WOW, unbelievable! I dont know how she does it. I enjoy my sleep too much. I have noticed a lot of my other SAHM friends wake up before their kids do too.. I guess my fault would be that I dont go to bed on time. My son goes to bed about 9pm every night so until 11 sometimes even 12 my husband and I have "our time" and also show watching time.. I know I'll probably get some responses to "suck it up" and get up early or go to bed early, but I am curious: How many of you are up and DRESSED before your kids are? How does this benefit you?

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Wow this was great!!!!

I think I may have miscommunicated when typing my question, I was not trying to bash anyone who gets up early, I was just wondering what other Mom's did, because I for one, cannot do it! lol. My friend has a 2 year old and an 8 month old so I can see how it might be hard to try and get ready while they are both awake, plus she is a very busy gal and does most of her activites in the morning so I can see why she would get up before they do. As for me, and it seems like most of you momma's too.. I don't get up early unless I have to. There have been times where I'll be invited to go somewhere, or I'll have an emergency errand to run and I feel irritated because I have to find time to get ready while my son is awake.. Usually I would do it during nap time.
Thank you all for your responses, I had fun reading them!
OH.. and one more thing, some moms have told me they get up earlier for bible time and such, to me, I do that stuff at night lol or in my car driving somewhere, ect.. or even right before bed.
Plus, it's hard to say when my son wakes up, like I said he is in bed by 9pm, and wakes up anywhere from 730-9am... so I don't want to wake up at 630 and sit around until 9am lol. We will see, I have been thinking about trying it, and I did one morning.. pffft FAIL!! :) Went RIGHT back to sleep for another hour yay!

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R.N.

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I am the first one up and the last to go to bed. I wake up and get my older 2 up for school and then by the time they are up and ready and my husband is out the door, the baby is up. Well not a baby anymore, but he is the baby. He's 2. By the time my family is fed and bathed then I put them to bed and my husband goes to bed early, so it just leasves me to finish some chores that I didn't get a chance to do, or study, or spend my time with The Lord. I do get a nap sometimes when my 2 year old takes a nap, but it's rare.

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I am the first one up and the last to go to bed. I wake up and get my older 2 up for school and then by the time they are up and ready and my husband is out the door, the baby is up. Well not a baby anymore, but he is the baby. He's 2. By the time my family is fed and bathed then I put them to bed and my husband goes to bed early, so it just leasves me to finish some chores that I didn't get a chance to do, or study, or spend my time with The Lord. I do get a nap sometimes when my 2 year old takes a nap, but it's rare.

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L.W.

answers from Lubbock on

If I don't have to get up to get my daughter to school, my kids (8 and 5) are usually up before me too, the only quiet time I have is after everyone is in bed. I've done this since they were born. Don't feel guilty for me it's normal too!! Plus I am not a morning person, I like my nighttime.

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A.G.

answers from Dallas on

Oh my gosh, I am right there with you! I do not get out of bed until my sweet little Reece has been in his bed talking to himself for at least 15 minutes... he wakes up so sweetly (he's 2) and he's fine playing by himself for a little while. I, too, need that quality time with my husband (or just by myself!) at night. I don't see any benefit to getting up early- I think maybe some women are just morning people, and they see that as "their" time in the morning when they're getting ready, drinking coffee, etc. You have no reason to feel guilty! After my son wakes up I will eventually get dressed, etc.

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W.L.

answers from Dallas on

My children are 12 and 21 years old and unless I have something specific planned for the day that I need to be ready they are my alarm clock and always have been. That is the beauty of staying at home, do what works for you and quit measuring yourself by what other women do. Spending time with your husband is very important and be happy you get that opportunity.

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K.G.

answers from San Francisco on

Oh this makes me laugh, and it makes me feel better. I admire those moms who are ready to go before their kids wake up. This is NOT me.

When my kids were in public school, I would wake up with enough time to fix my husbands lunch and coffee and then drive my kids to school half awake. We are home schooling now. All of my kids usually sleep until aobut 8:30 or 9:00, I still get up around 7:45-8 to make my husbands lunch, but then I hop on the computer, enjoy some coffee and admire the quietness of the house before the little noise makers wake up. LOL

Some days I spend most of the morning in my PJ's and totally forget to get ready. I TRY to shower before we start homeschool, but this rare.

Unless we have somewhere to be early, I have a hard time getting ready first thing. I have tried getting up and getting ready before the kids are up, and I'll admit, our day was much more fun and organized. But, then the next morning comes and I just want to stay in bed.

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L.U.

answers from Seattle on

When I am not working I am NOT awake before my children. I get up when they do. I think a lot of the women that you know who are up and dressed and ready for the day enjoy their quiet time BEFORE the day starts, whereas I (and probably you too) enjoy our quiet time at the end of the day. I personally do not see a reason to get up before my children, because I NEED that time at the end of the day to unwind. Some moms need it at the beginning of the day. Whatever works!
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J.G.

answers from Cleveland on

For me it depends on what day it is... school days I wake-up before my daughter. I have to have a least a 1/2 hour to get away enough to "deal" with the morning get ready for school stuff. On non-school days, the kids wake me up - usually letting me know they are hungry.

Sometimes on the weekends - if nothing is going on & the weather isn't the best... I stay in my PJ's all day. They are more comfertable then most of my other clothes, but I guess that is because I haven't given in yet & bought maturnity wear.

I also stay up later then my kids... the boys 2 1/2 & 4 1/2 are in bed around 8 or so. Then I work w/ my daughter (kindergardner) to do her homework... once we get the daily reading in, the worksheets her teacher sends home & do her word flash cards it is almost 9... she messes around still some, but does get it done. The hubby & I watch our shows and have cuddle time and sometimes I mess around on Facebook, here or e-mail stuff - which puts me in bed anywhere from 10 pm to 1 am depending on the night.

If I had to be up at 5:30, I guess I would be, but my daughter doesn't leave for school till 8... so I see no point in it. My alarm goes off at 7 and she gets up around 7:30... and we ready to leave the house by 8, a little earlier if she wants to walk. It only takes 8 min to walk to school & about 3 to drive and school starts at 8:15. So, it works for us. But I'm not a make-up mom - I'm all natural... and we do all the bathing & such at night - less to do in the am.

My opinion - whatever works for a family is all good... as long as everyone is happy, healthy, loved & taken care of! That is all that matters really :)

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S.C.

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well i for one am relieved that i am not the only one that just cant get up and going before my kids, im kind of a bum to be honest! lol however the moms who do had somevalid points i think i might try it! thx ladies and thank u for asking that question i am not a SAHM btw, i work full time and go to school part time so no promises!! lol

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R.M.

answers from Nashville on

Not me! I am a night owl and even having a kid and being sleep deprived hasn't changed that. I don't go to bed until 2 or 3 in the morning. That is my "me" time. I don't wake up until my son comes into my room in the mornings. When he was in a crib I woke up when I heard him yelling and singing on the baby monitor.

We don't go places most days, don't have school to get to, so I see no point. I wake up with him and feed us both breakfast, and get dressed and ready if we have to go somewhere. I set an alarm if we have to get somewhere early, but that doesn't happen often. I don't schedule things like doctors appointments until the afternoon. We have playgroups in the mornings but those are late morning. I shower at night or naptime. I can't seem to get to bed early enough to even consider waking up before I absolutely have to.

When I have to deal with school, it will be different and I'm sure a difficult transition, but it would be a difficult transition now too, so why rush it? Even then I will be one of those that gets stuff ready the night before so that I can sleep as late as possible. We don't do big breakfasts at my house. Cereal, oatmeal, fruit and yogurt, that is about it. My son eats yogurt almost every morning, and I have to force that. I have never been a big breakfast eater, I didn't even start eating it til I got pregnant (except when I was little and my mom made me), and my son seems to be the same way. I see no benefit to a cranky non-morning person mommy. I need to wind down at night, not wind up in the morning.

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A.C.

answers from Cincinnati on

Um, no. I'm not a morning person, and dragging my butt out of bed when I hear my son is still way too early for me. Getting up earlier than that - by choice? Never.

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D.P.

answers from Pittsburgh on

It looks like I am in the minority here, but I definitely get up showered & dressed before my son. Two days out of the week it's so I can get ready for work before he is up for school. He gets up at 7:30 so I'm usually in the shower by 6:30. The days that I am home, he gets up the same time (7:30) and I HATE the days that he wakes ME up. I like at least a half hour or 45 mins to get my strong tea, etc. before he wakes up. That's just me. :-)
Oh, and I go to bed at around 11-12 every night...

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C.S.

answers from Charlotte on

Please, like you said, I squeeze every second of sleep in I can. When I hear the baby crying, I brush my teeth and go get her. I get the rest of them dressed (I have 4 kids) and get them breakfast. Most days I don't get dressed until 10am when the baby takes her first nap.

My husband and I stay up late also. Our kids are all in the bed by 7:30 sleep by 8. We stay up and enjoy each other's company until 10 or 11pm. If I know I have to go out early the next day to take someone to the doctor or something, I'll get up and get dressed. But that is very occasional, I'm on my own time and I get things done in the morning whether I'm fully dressed or in my PJ's.

To each their own, but as for me, I'm snoozing until I hear the baby playing in her crib or the boys running through the house.

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M.K.

answers from Stationed Overseas on

I am never up before my daughter unless we are going somewhere and that is rare. I plan all appointments and playdates for late morning. She is most definitely my wake-up call and even then she usually plays in her crib for another 30 minutes or so. I am not a morning person at all so there is no way I would get up before her. Plus she doesn't wake up at the same time everyday.

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R.S.

answers from Dallas on

NOT ME!! My son is almost 2. He goes to bed around 8 and wakes up between 6:30 and 7. My husband and I attempt to go to bed at 11 but it never happens. We wait till we hear him and then one of us drags booty out of the bed to go get him. We both work (he full time, myself part time) but we are lucky enough to have flexible schedules that allow us to not really start OUR day until closer to 9, so that's how we're able to laze around in the morning. I must admit, though, there have been a handful of times in his life that for some reason I was up before him and I did feel much more human when I went into his room. But, still not worth it to me.

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J.L.

answers from Dallas on

Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't. I, like you, love my sleep!!! But I will tell you it does make it a lot easier. If I want a shower (and to actually do my hair) I really have to get up before my kids. Otherwise it is too stressful for me to try and get ready. 4 days a week we go to the gym right after breakfast, so those days I try to get up even just 10-15 minutes before the boys, just enough to through on my gym clothes and brush my teeth. Even that helps. Otherwise I don't get to shower until naptime, and I like to use my naptime to rest or get things done around the house. It really does make for a more successful day for our family. But I know how precious sleep can be!! Good Luck and do what works best for you!

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H.S.

answers from Salt Lake City on

S. - When my older children were young I was exactly the same as you. Now that I have 4 kids with 2 in school I have had to adjust my schedule. I am a mom who is struggling to keep all of my ducks in a row and I found flylady (www.flylady.net), who suggests getting up just before your children and getting dressed to shoes. It has changed my life. Something about getting the shower in, dressed and shoes on helps me start my day off on the right foot LOL. I am much more able to get things done around the house and get my life organized when I am ready for the challenge of the day before my kids get up.

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S.T.

answers from Dallas on

When my kids were younger I would take my shower at night. That would allow me to get dressed before they woke up in the morning before they were awake. We do foster care and when we have a child in the house I do the same thing even if I'm totally exhausted I still get into the shower so in the morning I can be dressed and ready for the day before they wake.

C.M.

answers from Los Angeles on

I am never up before my kids. Unless it's a school day (MWF) I don't get up until about 8am. My kids get up between 7:30 and 8am, so once they wake up, they come and get me and just snuggle until I am up. We are not morning people at all either! By the time we are all ready to go somewhere (not on school days) like to the park or mall or somewhere, it's already like 11 or 12pm. Don't feel bad at all!

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L.P.

answers from Dallas on

Are you kidding me.....I would NEVER say "suck it up!" My favorite part of being a SAHM is getting up with the kids, eating breakfast and hanging out in our pajamas!! It is so much fun and isn't that why you stay home with your kids, so you can play and hang out with them? The days we have to run errands and get stuff done, I do get up before they do and get ready, but on our "days off," it takes us all morning to get ready. It's great and I'm so thankful everyday that I have that time with my kids! I really feel sorry for other moms who have to wake up 5 days a week and miss these precious moments! I know I couldn't do it! I'm glad there are moms out there like me, because sometimes I feel very lazy, then I think of my kids and think they love having me home! Thanks for posting!

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S.H.

answers from Honolulu on

I wake up before my kids.
I am also a night-hawk. But since having kids try to sleep the same time they do.
But I also do not need much sleep, just the way I am.
My Dad was like that. I am like him. I can also cat nap.

How you wake or go to bed has no indication of what kind of Mom you are. Its just sleep survival or lack there of.

Me, I get up earlier than the kids and get ready, because once they are up, they are like trumpets and very ambitious about being being awake and calling me and doing things I can't do without my cup of coffee. LOL

So, since kids, I do things that are convenient for me in the getting ready department... and I like to have that quiet time, just for me, before the kids wake...and then my world rock n' rolls.. and orders from the gallows come in, even from Hubby. LOL

oh sure, sometimes i DO sleep in. And I tell my kids to let Mommy S.l.e.e.p and they do. They are good about that... and Hubby will even entertain them and I can hear them whispering "don't wake up Mommy...shhhhh....or she'll be grumpy.... " as they put their ears to the door. LOL

All the best,
Susan

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M.M.

answers from Dallas on

Not me! My schedule is the same as yours. My kids go to bed at 9pm and my husband have 'our' time until around 11pm. I too, love my sleep! Don't worry about what other moms do. Some people are morning people, some are not - I am a 'day' person myself :) Just do what works for you and your family.

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L.N.

answers from New York on

my five year olds are in bed by 7:30. i have a book in my hand by 7:35. i read, or if there is something that interests me on tv, i will stay up until 10. 10 pm finds me in bed.i am asleep usually before my head hits the pillow. i get my kids up for school at 6:40. i myself get up at 5. i have an hour and 40 min to drink my coffee, get their lunches going, do a load of laundry, empty dishwasher.
get dressed? well, i go to bed in my gym pants and whatever i happen to be wearing. i take my kids to school, then come home, take a shower and get on cleaning or doing whatever needs to be done.
there has been just a few times that i had overslept and woken up by my kids. that was painful. i couldn't gather my thoughts for most of those days. i will never do that again.
:)
our alone time happens never. husband works hard 12-13 hrs a day. by the time my kids are in bed, my body and mind crave reading. so i give in :0

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K.W.

answers from Dallas on

kiss my hubby goodbye and don't actually get my day going until my 7,3 or 7 month old awake. I'm with ya!!

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J.M.

answers from Dallas on

I am in the same boat as you are. My 4 year old goes to bed at 8pm and she wakes me up every morning by 7:30am. She's even dressed before I am most of the time.
And I never go to bed before 2am, but that's mostly because I don't need much sleep.

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S.M.

answers from Washington DC on

I have always thought that would be a great idea, but it has NEVER happened this far. (However, I used to work one day a week, and I would be up before my first son then.) Now, my kids are my alarm, and we all get dressed after breakfast. It's quite a process. I keep telling myself that when my baby sleeps more at night, then maybe I'll get up earlier. Until then (and maybe much later!), I love my sleep too much! And I was always a morning person, maybe one day I'll be again. (BTW - I go to bed by 10pm, my boys at 6:30/7 and 7:30/8.)

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S.O.

answers from Oklahoma City on

I am a SAHM and I never wake up before my son unless we have somewhere to go early in the morning. Then, I'll get up and shower so we have enough time before we leave to get him ready. My son is 17 months old and still wakes up at night, so I need this rest. At this point, I don't think I will ever make up the amount of sleep I've missed out on.

I say, if you don't have anywhere to go, don't wake up until they do! I'd probably just be on the computer anyway :)

S.

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N.L.

answers from Dallas on

I see you have 42 replies and i have not read any of them so if this says the same thing as others I apologize. My only point is why whould you need to be up and dressed before your kids if you are a stay at home mom. If you had to be out the door early morning for work or appointments, then I could see getting up early. Otherwise I think you are just fine sleeping until you "have" to get up!! Moms definiately need all the sleep they can get!!

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C.M.

answers from Austin on

I have friends who do this, too. I can't even imagine doing that. What is the point of getting up that early? You can feed your children and yourself at the same time. It takes, what, 15 minutes to get yourself dressed? I can do that while my kids are hanging out in their room or mine. Ever since I've stayed home, I streamlined my "get ready" routine so I don't spend more than a few minutes putting on makeup, doing hair. I take a shower at night.
Any chores that "need" to be done without the kids can be done at night. I'm also not big on big breakfasts. I have a friend who wakes up early every morning to make fresh pancakes and eggs. WTH? My family eats toast, cereal, oatmeal. I just don't see the point in killing myself to get up early when everyone is happy either way.

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S.W.

answers from Dallas on

I am right there with you. I guess it depends on if you are a morning person or not. I am more of a night owl. I go to bed after 10 and before 12 every night. My 3 children go to bed between 8:30 and 9:30. Most often then not I am woken up by one of them. Now during the week I have to crawl out of bed just before 7 to get my son up and ready for school. My neighbor takes him so I don't have to wake up the other 2. Of course there are few times when I have a scheduled appointment in the morning and will have to get ready before they wake up but generally I am right there with you on this subject. :) You are absolutely normal if you ask me!

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H.J.

answers from Minneapolis on

When my daughter 5 in preschool has afternoon school I do not get up before the kids they are my alarm....When my daughter had school in the morning leaving at 8 I would get up about a half hour before to get myself up and ready first. I can't imagine waking up an hour before my kids....no reason to in my opinion unless we are going somewhere early.

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M.D.

answers from Dallas on

I was just like you up until 6 months ago. My kids would wake me up most mornings and then I would get up and get them milk, start the coffee and then make breakfast. Now I do get up at 5:45, but it is not to get ready before the kids get up it is so I can do a bible study before they get up and be uninterrupted. Once they are up I start with the breakfast and getting dressed same as them. I don't see why a mother has to be up and dressed before the kids, but that is just me.

M.

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S.D.

answers from Topeka on

Up before my kid's HAHAHA I go to bed after them bed time is 8 no later if I have a few things to get done then I'll do them it takes me forever to fall asleep I most ofet wake in the middle of the nite to check on them my 1 yr old still bf @ nite my hubby snores & I have alot on my mind.So as much sleep as i can get from all this is great.I do get up & get myself dressed before all of them if there is an appt that is scheduled,I have alarms set & 7 to get up get my son ready off to the bus stop outside our front door by 7:45 usually by then we are all up ate breakfast get my other kids dressed just to stay home for the day & get things done.It may seem like alot to wait to get my other kids dressed but i'm a planner I have them showered at nite clothes out I get myself in the shower after I get them all dressed and feed then myself is usually last off we go to our appt. or preschool for my 3 yr old.Being a sahm I seem to have flexible schedule however I wish I could nap during the day but that is rare since my 3 yr old refuses.But getting up 5 or 6 unless you go to work isn't me my work is at home with my 3 kids

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P.W.

answers from San Francisco on

I never woke up before my kids. Once in a while I would hear about those really together moms who got ready before the kids got up, and it did sound like a good idea, but I never managed to change myself. I'm still kind of a morning slacker (note the sitting around on Mamapedia).

Oh well.

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V.S.

answers from Dallas on

Yes. My husband gets up super early and my littlest comes and crawls into bed with me each morning for a cuddle and to go back to sleep. Then I get up and get dressed. I also homeschool my older ones and I cannot tell you how many times already being dressed has saved my day. The times I don't, I always regret it. I'm not as productive, things get busy and then I don't get ready and then EVERY TIME someone or something shows up and I'm caught out and embarrassed. My stress level is so much lower as well. It is easier to plan things out and we have better days when I am up and dressed with the kids get up. It is also easier to train them to do their chores, etc., when you aren't stumbling around trying to wake up and brush your own teeth.

VickiS

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T.M.

answers from Philadelphia on

I hate mornings! I don't get up before the kids either! We all get up at the same time and stumble around together... my daughters are not morning people either...lol! You need to do whatever workd for you. I know my SIL's like to tease me about our late mornings :( My husband and i are just like you and your husband. We go to bed between 11 and 12... we love our nights together!!

G.R.

answers from Dallas on

i am not

i usually wake up at 7:20 to get my 6 year ready to school and then a watcha little tv and my twins wake at 8:30 i give them breakfast i usually take a shower around nap time at 11 or 12:00 because i don't go out in the morning unless i have to go somewhere

K.I.

answers from Spokane on

I get up before my kids and I go to sleep later than my kids, mostly for the peace and quiet~ It is the only alone time I get during the week and I love it!

I get up early and watch the news and drink some coffee. I get dressed but only to slippers (I hate wearing my kicks inside) but I never get a morning shower. Due to the amount of people in my house, I am on the shower at night schedule....which honestly sucks... my hair is always harder to manage and mostly gets stuck up in a clip, and it is true that when you wake up to a shower you feel more energized and ready to go, but alas, not for me, not at this time. So, even though I am up and ready before my kids...I have no where to go and no where to be...I do it solely for the quiet time!

~I used to sleep everyday til 11am before I had kids....now I can't remember the last time I slept til 7am...makes me feel kinda old~

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T.

answers from Dallas on

i just started doing this and like you, i totally enjoy my sleep so it is hard for me!!! but, on the days that i do get up before my kids (4 1/2 and 16 months), i find that i feel less hectic and rushed which is a much better way for me to start my day. the first couple of days are hard and if i have a late night i don't get up much earlier but i have found it helpful.

B.F.

answers from Dallas on

No way.....I'm with you. I wear my pajamas as long as I can!!! :-) And don't feel bad about it...geez...there is absolutely nothing wrong with you not being fully dressed and in full make up when your kids get up. Does your friend think its 1950 and her kids are Wally and Beaver? :-)
Just enjoy the fact that you get to stay home with your kids and don't worry about what others think.
~B.

D.C.

answers from Dallas on

I wake up ten minutes before I wake my kids up and I get their clothes ready as they are brushing teeth. I also go to bed around midnight and get up at 630, some days I get up at 640. The part that I don't like is that when it's time for breakfast, I don't cook my kids any hot meals, it's usually cereal and I feel bad some days for that but I am so exhausted for staying up late. Anyway, you don't have to feel bad for your routine, if it works for you then it's no one elses business what you do or how you do it. On the weekends my kids always get up before us, they are 5 and 3 and they know to stay upstairs until we wake up. They'll either play or watch tv until we are ready to go downstairs and fix breakfast. It works.

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S.T.

answers from Kansas City on

During the week I do get up an hour before I have to get my son ready for school my daughter will sleep in. I like my quiet time!!! On the weekends I get to sleep in!

L.W.

answers from Dallas on

If I didn't know any better I'd think that you were living in our house with us. My 12 yo son gets himself up and off to school without me getting out of bed....I know, I know that's terrible and I need to be up with him. I have major guilt about that. Then my 8 yo daughter and I get up around 8:15 and rush around the house so that we can get ready, grab the baby and change his diaper (and if he's lucky he gets dressed), and run out the door so that we canget her to school by 8:45. I guess that was a really long way to say that I don't get up until I have to. On the weekends I sleep in until the baby (ok, he's 2 now so I guess he's not really a baby) cries to get out of his crib. I'm sure there are better ways to do it but this is what works for us (on most days) and I guess this is the way we will continue. It sure is good to know that there are others who sleep in too.

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G.W.

answers from Dallas on

YEA for you S.! I don't get up before my kids do either. Many mornings I'm running out the door after them to give them their lunchboxes, and I'm in my PJ's! ha ha ha Do what works for you, and I agree that evening time with your hubby is important so don't sacrifice that!

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A.L.

answers from Las Vegas on

Hi
I think it's all a personal preference, IF you don't need to be dressed and anywhere first thing in the am.. then I suppose trying to get as many ZZZss is ok. why not. As for me, I was ALWAYS up before my child.. why. well for me. it was just LESS stress.. I felt like I was AHEAD of the game if I was up and had had some alone time for myself before the day began.. in that I didn't have to rush around and try and get myself ready, eat or shower while at the same time my son....
I tend to be the type who is always either early or on time.. never late..
again, it's just me.. running around last minute just adds too much stress in my life. so to avoid that EXTRA stress, I simply get up earlier..
however, it's what works for me... again, there is no right or wrong way..

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K.B.

answers from Dallas on

I didn't read all of the responses, so I don't know if anyone else had the same problem I did when my kids where young (and even somewhat still.) If I got up early, then the kids woke up early! It seemed like they could sense that I was up and figured they needed to be up too! Even now at ages 15 and 11, they tend to get up within 15-30 minutes of when I get up, whether it is at 6 am or noon! I have experimented with this in the summer. I think I will get up early and try to get some things done before they get up and as soon as I start on something, here they come wanting breakfast!

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S.R.

answers from San Francisco on

I have those great intensions of getting up early while my husbands getting ready for work so I can work out before the kids wake up but it doesn't happen. Until daylight savings they were always up around 630-645. Since daylight savings I've been in heaven, they've been sleeping until around 8! The last 2 days have been more like 715-730 so I think they are reverting back. I usually get up a few minutes before or when they get up. I exercise while they are napping. I'm usually in bed between 10-11. They are in bed between 830-915. I like a little down time at night to relax and unwind too.

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A.W.

answers from Seattle on

I always say I am going to be that mom who gets up early, but it never happens! I cherish those mornings I can sleep in!! I mean some times I wake up at 7am and my daughter isn't awake yet, so I get that time. Normal she is up around 730am. Luckily, I can keep her interested in a TV show for about 30 mins with some milk and a snack while I take a quick shower and get ready. In the rare instance that she sleeps until 830am - I am still in bed and in total heaven. LOL
I know a lot of moms who do this (some even up at 430am to go to the gym!), but they also go to bed shortly after their kids do and their spouses are home around 430pm or 5pm to help out.
My husband is rarely home before 7pm and leaves about 7a in the morning. And he gets up about 15 mins before he has to leave. So, we stay up late to visit, catch up, etc....
I guess the benefit would be quiet and alone time....But to me, sleep is better than that.

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H.H.

answers from Hartford on

LOL. love it, it depends really but most of the time I am not up and ready b4 my 15 mo. old bc I am so tired. she used to go to bed very late (anywhere from 12-4 am!!!) so naturally I was sleeping when she was and never got up b4 her. when she went to bed a bit earlier (10ish) I woke up at 9 got ready and woke her up at 930 and I LOVED that. so nice to shower by myself and make breakfast and the diaper bag w/o her. now she goes to bed at (8-9) and wakes up with both of us around 6-7. He feeds her while I shower and then he goes to work (he is hubbie) that works GREAT for now, but who knows. and I would have to say that you should not have to suck it up and get up early or go to bed early (if people said that I did not read) bc it is really really hard to do so. I found that I wanted time to myself so I did stay up too late, just relaxing etc. and then could not get up. I also found that if I was over tired I would just lay in bed and could not sleep. that is the worst. maybe if you cant way up early you can get your diaper bag etc. ready the night before that way you are not rushing in the am if you have a playdate. oh and a great tip I got from another mom: we now have a clear shower curtain, weird I know, but my daughter sits and reads books/plays in the bathroom while I shower (if she is up and I need to get ready) and I can of course see her bc the curtain is clear. I know this was written poorly sorry, but I am in a rush while dad is bathing her. lol

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S.D.

answers from Grand Rapids on

I sleep until my daughter wakes up and even then, I will take 10-15 minutes to get up and get downstairs. She just sits in bed talking to herself, so I don't mind. We don't get dressed until after breakfast, so we are definatly some lazy people in the morning. I used to have no problem getting up at 5 or 6 in the morning, and now, it's a struggle to get up at 7.

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K.B.

answers from Dallas on

I have three boys 2 and under (2, and 5 month old twins) - if I'm not up and showered before they wake up, it just doesn't happen. with our nap schedules, mornings are the only time i can get out and do anything (people sleep and nap pretty much staggered all afternoon) so i don't have the luxury of waiting until later in the day to shower. i try to get up after my husband gets out of the shower (5:30 or so) but it usually doesn't happen until a little after 6 - although i am usually greeted by wailing babies, so i know i need to get started a little earlier! my husband and i also are usually in bed by 9:30 or 10, so i am not up all night doing laundry or anything else like that. it works for us, and it helps that my husband leaves for work so early (out the door before 6) so that forces us to get to bed early, too. also, our kids are all in bed by 7:30-8, so we still get a little "us" time, too. :)

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T.T.

answers from Dallas on

I definitely wait until they are up! The only exception is when they sleep late on a school morning and then I do as much prep as possible until they get up. I just don't have it in me to get up that early regularly!

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C.R.

answers from Seattle on

I NEVER get up before my daughter... Yeah right! Way to go moms who can - I am NOT one of them! :)

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A.O.

answers from San Francisco on

My son's bedtime is 8:00, but he doesn't fall asleep until about 9:30 or so. My hubby and I have "our time" until about 11:00. My alarm clock goes off at 7:15 and my favorite thing is to hit that snooze button about 3 times. My body's waking up but my mind is still drifting. Sometimes my 7-yr-old will come in and I've taught him to crawl in beside me until the clock hits 7:30. Other days, I have to struggle to get him out of bed. Either way, I stay in my pjs while he gets dressed. I make his lunch and his breakfast then at 7:50 while he's munching away I get myself ready.

So the short answer (after a long explanation, lol) hell no. I don't get out of bed any earlier than I have to. I'm a selfish sleeper and if I have to get up too early, I am not a very happy mommy.

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N.D.

answers from Houston on

The only time I get up before my daughter is when I need to be somewhere early. The rest of the time I'm like you...enjoying my sleep way too much! My daughter wakes up starting around 6:15. I'm 5mths pregnant with #2, so I'm taking advantage of all the sleep I can get! I guess we'll see what I do after baby #2 :).

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A.S.

answers from Dallas on

I don't get up until my kids come and get me up. I am like you and don't go to bed until 11 or 12 at night. It's our time alone, and I enjoy being able to sleep a bit later in the morning.

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K.H.

answers from Washington DC on

I sometimes manage to shower before they get up but certainly not ready completely , my 3 are all usually up between 7/7.30 and I try to set my alarm for 6.45 so I can shower before they all get up but it's not always possible and I don't stick to that , it depends how I feel.

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E.A.

answers from Amarillo on

I don't think you should feel bad for sleeping until your child wakes you up. I see on all the doctors show that sleep is very important to the body and you should get a good nights sleep and if you go to bed late, you should get up when you feel rested. Some people have the energy to get up early and are early risers. Not me. I am a mother of three and one of them is 4 yrs old and he is on a weird schedule which I hope to straighten out soon. But I sleep until my girls wake me up to take them to school and if my son stays goes back to sleep after we drop them off then I sometimes lay down with him. I feel like I am just now trying to catch up on my sleep from years of being up late with babies, so don't feel bad, everyone is different and some people like to get up early and some people like to sleep. It is good for you afterall.

✪.P.

answers from Chicago on

Hi,

When my twins were little, I did the samething as you. I tried alternating my schedule to be more like your friend's but it didn't work for me. I enjoyed the time after the kids went to sleep to have time to read, or watch tv with my husband. On the nights that he was home, he'd help me tidy up the kitchen and then we would spend some time relaxing. (Sometimes I'd continue do laundry, but I'd fold the clothes in the family room while we watched tv.
Your friend has her schedule because it works for her. I bet she doesn't stay up three hours after her kids go to sleep AND gets up two hours before her kids wake up. (Usually we do one or the other as our routine.) I do recall sometimes waking up 15 or 20 minutes earlier to read and have a cup of coffee in my pajamas before the kids would wake up. (That was enough time for me.)

A.E.

answers from Dallas on

I do wake up before my kids...who are 6,3 and 1 But I am def not dressed before them. IMy kids are in bed at 8:30 and my husband and I also have "our time" till atleast 11 on most nights. I have never been a morning person. I am lucky to be dressed before I pick up my 6 yr old from kinder. I do not think you need to suck it up and I think most moms wish they could do as we do :)

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H.B.

answers from Dallas on

S., I agree with you, I like my sleep WAY too much! I don't ever get up early to get ready before the kids unless we have something we have to be at and I need to make sure I am able to get ready fast!
Our normal daily routine is to get up and go to the gym, then we get home and I get ready and dressed for the day. Sometimes, when the kids are being particularly fussy, I am not ready until the afternoon. I don't mind though, because I usually have other things to do around the house and am not planning on going anywhere! I wouldn't worry too much about it, enjoy your sleep!!!

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J.K.

answers from Cleveland on

If I don't get up and shower before my kiddos do during the week, I feel groggy and look like a mess. So, in order to feel good enough to start the day, I get up around 6:30-6:45 AM to shower before my husband and kids wake up. On weekends, the kids are most definately my wake-up call!!

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