Fun Marriage/relationship Advice

"Never go to bed angry. Stay up and fight all night."

LOL ;)

(This one is always good for a laugh!)

This was done at a shower I went to and each guest was asked to provide some advice in advance, and the book was presented at the shower. It was fun to see what all her friends wrote to her. Perhaps you could get quotes from those close to her. Looks like you have some great ones from members here.

Ok, this is going to sound so strange, and people laugh at us IRL when we say this out loud, but here goes...

My husband and I adapted a rule very early in our relationship. If we find ourselves bickering or arguing over something stupid (who takes out the trash or dirty socks on the floor, etc) on of us will stand up and start taking off our clothes. Seriously. It is hard to argue with a naked person standing in front of you, lol. This used to happen in the kitchen, or living room or wherever we happened to be at that moment, but now 4 kids later, we have to preface the "stripping" with "Let's finish this conversation somewhere else." It almost always leads to sex (which is fun and stress relieving), and even when it doesn't it makes us laugh at ourselves. My husband is my best friend, and I have never had fun with anyone like I do with him, and this is just one way to keep things fun.

My husband and I have played a game ever since we got married 7 years ago. We play "5 things I like about you". We take turns saying 5 things that we love/like about each other. The only rules are that it HAS to be affirming ONLY with absolutely no negativity, and we can only copy each other's answer one time.

It's a fun way to reconnect at the end of the day and after you have played a few times, you start noticing little things that your spouse does that you can remember to tell them that you love or appreciate.

Great gift idea, btw! :)

Here's one....(or two)

Lettin' the cat outta the bag is easier than puttin' it back in.

You cant un-ring a bell.

Arguments are NEVER about what you think it is.

There are only TWO theories about how to win in an argument with a woman...neither are correct.

If Momma aint happy...NOBODY is happy.

You probably have two good things in your life..your wife and your dog....people live longer.

Make a man happy...turn on the TV.

Make a man happy...turn on yourself!!!!!

Thats all I got folks!!!!
B's Mom :)

Advice... sorry that these are about disagreement, but these were words of wisdom from my parents and grandparents about marriage!

-Sometimes it's okay to go to bed angry b/c staying up all night to work through an arguement can be counterproductive too. The morning light often brings a new perspective! (from my grandmother who would have celebrated 65 years of marriage this August)
- People who say they never fight probably don't talk either! (from my father after my husband and I had our first real argument)
- Never get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life (my mother keeps this on a tile above her oven as a constant reminder of what's important)
- Give eachother a kiss each day and say "I love you" first thing before the day gets away from you (my grandmother wrote this in our wedding card)
- There is no such thing as a "good comprimise" b/c then neither of you gets what you want. A good marriage involves knowing and accepting that sometimes you don't get what you want b/c what your spouse needs at that moment is more important. (from me to my sister after she and her husband had their first real fight)

how about a marriage coupon book, these are fun especially for newlyweds

How about a coupon page in the back, massage, make up, hug, etc.

It seems like the marriages that work are successful because each partner is ultra considerate and respectful of the other. It's too easy to become lazy, apathetic and take a "what about me?" approach to relationship but those are usually the precursors for a lot of disharmony and disfunction. It takes a lot of effort to treat your partner as if they are something very special most of the time, to try to understand their perspective even if you don't want to hear what they are going to say, and to assume the best, not the worst about your partner, but it is well worth the effort if there is love in your heart.

This is a great post! So here I go.

Wearing a wedding ring on the fourth finger of the left hand dates back to ancient Egypt, where it was believed that the vein of love ran from this finger directly to the heart.

Married life is full of excitement and frustration: In the first year of marriage, the man speaks and the woman listens. In the second year, the woman speaks and the man listens.In the third year, they both speak and the NEIGHBOUR listens.

A happy marriage is a matter of giving and taking; the husband gives and the wife takes.

Marriage is an institution in which a man loses his Bachelor's Degree and the woman gets her masters.

Don't make love in the same place/position everytime. Variety is the spice of life!

The secret to a happy marriage is two TV's!

Fight naked. ;)

Kiss each other all the time. Even when you’re mad at each other, you’ve got to have a lot of kissing. And - she’s always right, she is always right. Keep that in mind

I think the main thing that has kept most marriages together is to remember to spend as much time on the bottom as you do on the top.

I hope you enjoy these because I did!!!

Fight naked, that way you won't be fighting for too long :)

be vocal about sexual needs, nothing spoils a marriage like feeling like roommates

always hold each other while you argue. It's a great habit and it keeps you from hurting each other.

Also, if you're disagreeing about something, just go give your partner a hug. You don't have to apologize or resolve anything by it, just hug. It lets them know that you love, even when you disagree.

I'm all about the hugs. :)

What a wonderful, thoughtful gift!

Don't forget to laugh!

Once you have kids - your life as a couple is limited - make the most of every second you have alone. Don't forget to be a couple.

If your husband comes home and fires you from cooking - don't ever ask for that job back. He'll turn into quite a good chef... or he'll starve.

YMMV
LBC

In addition to 'me' time, there needs to be 'guy time' and 'gal time' where each person can go off with their friends to stay connected with them. Although don't be surprised if those friendships start changing, particularly if the friends are still single. They will probably find that as their marriage progresses, they will gravitate towards other married couples and move away from single friends.

Keep God at the center of your marriage. "A marriage without God is like cookies without baking soda. They may still be cookies but they won't look too pretty and they won't taste too good." ~Amy S.

Don't let the sun go down on your anger. (Still working on that one ourselves)

Try to appreciate even the things you hate/dislike about the other person because one day you will no longer have them around and will wish for those things back!

Try to always give a kiss good-bye and say "I love you" before you depart, even if you are mad. What if one of you never come back again?

Finding time for the both of you alone is VERY important... especially as you have children.

Never go to bed mad.
Don' sweat the small stuff.
Always give more than you expect to get.
Say thank you a lot even for little things your spouse does.
Enjoy the freedom of being a couple BEFORE you have kids.
Save money in the beginning. Spend it towards the end.
Be honest, direct, and clear. Don't expect your spouse to read your mind.
Enjoy!

Always try to do something to surprise the other person! Sometimes marriage can get you into a rut- and you feel like everything is so predictable! Sometimes you need to spice it up and do something your mate would never have predicted (and I'm not talking about in the bedroom...but I suppose this applies there as well...lol!).

Keep a little part of yourself a secret. You do not have to share EVERYTHING with your spouse!

M., you are a wonderful friend and person for doing this!

My only advice is to constantly thank your spouse for the little things he does.

What a great person you must be! God bless and have a great week.

www.mycmsite.com/marycluley

marriage advice.. hmm ( lets see, how much coffee have i had ??)
first off, if his mother comes off as pushy, demanding,or jealous..
DONT MARRY THE GUY, because you will be strapped to the old battle ax as long as you are married to her son. if he is the only son, or the youngest, again dont marry him because his mommy will be in your face from day one.second off, keep your money and credit accounts separate ,that way, you are responsible for only your bills. third, dont tell his mother anything that you dont want on the six o'clock news. next, dont tolerate his mother snooping through your things, EVER. and lastly, when the old battle ax dies, throw a party.
K. h.

Is it possible to make little note cards and have the ladies present at the shower/bachelorette party/wedding fill in their marriage advice? I did this at my sister's wedding shower. I had cute "marriage advice" cards made (by Vista Print) and then had all the ladies drop it into a box for the bride to read, but you could collect them and put them into the scrapbook. Then the advice will be from the people she knows and loves!

If not my marriage advice is this:

Marriage is not a 50/50% deal. To make a marriage work each partner needs to give 100% of themselves all the time!