P.L.
I know it is really hard to make those decisions, and as mothers we really stress over it. I just want to put your mind to ease about a few things:
First of all, Chicago (and area) seems different than the rest of the country (and world) when it comes to schooling. Many of us who grew up in Chicago may have started in one school and transferred to another and another. It's also not that big of a deal to start in parochial and end up in public or vice versa.
Secondly, to go to one school for Kindergarten and transfer into a new school for first isn't as hard on the kid as it is on the mommy. Most kids won't even remember it as traumatic, if we don't make it seem that way.
Thirdly, I have several cousins who went to St. James in Arlington Heights. Some went on to public high school, some Catholic high school, one even sort of skipped high school and went to college. Anyway, all eight of those cousins are extremely successful (2 doctors, 2 lawyers, 2 teachers, 1 college proffessor, 1 journalist) and well adjusted adults now.
Finally, and I mean this kindly, you might be remembering your tough time and worrying about that too much. It is difficult to avoid making our issues into our childrens' issues.
Just remember that kids are resilient. Give your daughter a stable home life and she will be able to adjust to almost anything.
Peace!