S.O.
I am going to echo the sign language recommendation and the book "Parenting with Love and Logic".
As the book says, when kids throw fits, I know it is not easy, but stay calm. She will learn that when life is frustrating, if you stay calm you can fix it faster.
If she is not ready to talk, you calmly explain that when she is ready to talk you will listen. You can leave the room, put her in her crib or in "calm down/time out" spot until she is ready.
I have a 2 year old and use these method's daily. When I ignore the tantrum, it ends a lot faster.
Good luck.