P.B.
Well, I agree these kinds of people can be very obnoxious.
My advice to you is to see your friend. You do not have to stay at her house and you do not have to be around him for a long time.
Plan a day at the spa, get your hair and nails done or a similar event (girl time) and then you do not have to spend ANY time with him. Give your hubby the heads up to allow him to make plans with HIS friends at the same time and then he will not have to spend any time with him either. If you can, make your plans for when your friend's husband is at work and then you are all set.
Just remember not to say anything negative about him to your friend. After all, he IS her husband. But SHE is your friend and you owe it to yourself to get to spend SOME time with her.
Blessings and good luck,
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