J.Y.
Hi S.,
I don't have much advice on what you should do, but I have been through 5 miscarriages and can sympathize with the agony of each of those losses. My situation is different though, as the first 4 occurred BEFORE my first daughter was born, and it turned out (after seeing a specialist) that there was a specific reason (bicornuate uterus). I had a surgery and the next time we tried, I got pregnant with my 2.5 yr old. I had another miscarriage between my 2 girls, which was very hard to deal with because I thought my problem was over, and it was unexpected. That pregnancy had also progressed further than the previous 4 miscarries. They couldn't recover enough tissue for a DNA test on the baby, but I suspect it was a natural loss and not related to my earlier issue. At any rate, I understand why you'd want to pursue with questions of why, and find out what the specialist says. After hearing that you may find that you're on the same "page" as your husband, or he may find there's hope to try again. For myself, my husband and I decided not to try for a 3rd, as I'm also 38 and I don't want to possibly go through the heartbreak of loss for a 6th time. We feel very blessed with our 2 happy, healthy girls. I would say to follow your hearts!
My heart goes out to you...best wishes!